AussieMatty
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14 Jun 2012, 11:42 pm
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14 Jun 2012, 11:53 pm
15 Jun 2012, 12:48 am
15 Jun 2012, 1:11 am
JanuaryMan wrote:
LOL. Well....just go to any council estate in the UK. Casual sex and relationships are rife and constantly changing partners between circles. It's not something I like but it's abundant and definitely exists regardless of any ladder theory. In fact I'd definitely say their standards are almost non existent.
And all I do is just stay reasonably healthy, have a good demeanour and some wit about me. I know a lot about various topics so conversation isn't too hard, either. Of course, some other "experience" helps too.. I have to use my wit to make up for my physique but that works just fine. I'd say the girls I pair up with are average to 7. And as far as the scale goes I put myself in the same bracket, a 5-7.
Anyways, in short, had this ladder theory been devised by someone more experienced on the field, there would be no ladder theory. It is simply one's elaborate coping mechanism to deal with failure, and their creepy attempts to get dates by being friends. At least, that's how I see it.
When I was a teenager, I was once this ladder theory guy. As time moved on, and I moved on with it, I got more experience and developed more in social environments. My views changed, my understanding changed, my awareness increased. These things would have never increased had I stayed in the same hole, waiting for people to pity or agree with me, and tried denying my problems instead of dealing with them. But that is what many people that buy into this theory ARE doing - not moving forward with their lives. Not allowing themselves to make mistakes to learn from. Not allowing rejection to better prepare them for rejection in the future. Not opening their minds. Not allowing their ego to be broken as well as fixed (how can you fix something not broken?) and so on.
And all I do is just stay reasonably healthy, have a good demeanour and some wit about me. I know a lot about various topics so conversation isn't too hard, either. Of course, some other "experience" helps too.. I have to use my wit to make up for my physique but that works just fine. I'd say the girls I pair up with are average to 7. And as far as the scale goes I put myself in the same bracket, a 5-7.
Anyways, in short, had this ladder theory been devised by someone more experienced on the field, there would be no ladder theory. It is simply one's elaborate coping mechanism to deal with failure, and their creepy attempts to get dates by being friends. At least, that's how I see it.
When I was a teenager, I was once this ladder theory guy. As time moved on, and I moved on with it, I got more experience and developed more in social environments. My views changed, my understanding changed, my awareness increased. These things would have never increased had I stayed in the same hole, waiting for people to pity or agree with me, and tried denying my problems instead of dealing with them. But that is what many people that buy into this theory ARE doing - not moving forward with their lives. Not allowing themselves to make mistakes to learn from. Not allowing rejection to better prepare them for rejection in the future. Not opening their minds. Not allowing their ego to be broken as well as fixed (how can you fix something not broken?) and so on.
Men who are "successful" in dating or having relationships with women still do those things. Honestly, you can be that guy who cuts himself everytime he gets rejected, has biggest ego in their city and isn't willing to even try and go for an interview for a job because he is afraid of making mistakes and you will still be capable of finding a woman who will want to be with you.
The funny thing about trying to figure about why some people struggle while other people flurrish in the dating seen is that as soon as you label a reason(s) for a woman's/man's lack of "success" you can easily find someone who has "success" and yet has those trait(s) aswell.
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AussieMatty
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AussieMatty
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