Smoking: a deal breaker or not?

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Deal breaker. Cigarette smoke makes my eyes water. I wear contacts. The smell reeks. Smokers are generally inconsiderate. In the middle of winter they'll hold the front door open to smoke, but in the meantime I'm freezing to death.

A responsible smoker would simply go outside and close the door. It's not smokers who are generally inconsiderate - just people. Don't confuse them with door-leaver-openers.

I'd stop short of saying "deal-breaker", but definitely a major turn-off.

I can't even be around people smoking cigars. When I smell them I actually feel physically ill. The special scented ones aren't so bad.

I don't care if someone smokes. It's their choice and it's not my place to tell them what to do. I wouldn't want someone telling me what to do.

As a child I remember smokers would crush out their butts in their ashtray and throw out the remains later. Then the next generation merely dropped them on the ground and crushed them out with their foot. The generation after that now just flicks them away and out car windows still burning. That's just really lazy, rude and thoughtless.

Last edited by BlueMax on 21 Jun 2012, 3:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

It seems to me that the inconsiderate people are more likely to smoke than nonconsiderate people.

I have friends who smoke and so long as they do not live with me I can accept that. However, for a potential mate? No thanks! I find the stench of tobacco (and cannabis) smoke intolerable and can't imagine living the rest of my life with someone who used it.

For some reason I seem to attract smokers as acquaintances wherever I work so I can definitely be friends with smokers, although I do politely nag and joke to encourage them to quit. However in a relationship this is a 100% deal breaker with no room for negotiation. It doesn't matter if they are perfect otherwise I simply hate cigarettes and the smell is disgusting. Not to mention a smoker to me isn't great mother material as they are setting a terrible example (with apologizes to anyone I offended) and I want a women to encourage me to improve my lifestyle, not make it much worse.

I might absolutely hate tattoos but they still aren't as bad as smoking. Yuck!

Same here but it's more with the marijuana smokers.


Same for me

Yes, I would have dated a smoker (they would have had to smoke outside) but it makes no difference since my boyfriend will never smoke and I'm not planning on ever dating anyone else.

nonconsiderate?

No one gets in a relationship or marriage with the intent to break up unless they are looking to exploit the child benefit system. You must have a lot of security and faith to say that something is going to be forever.

While this is true, people sometimes date for what they know on some way is going to be limited. Some relationships have an expiration date stamped on them from the beginning, they're still worthwhile without being forever. (ex. dating in high school and college is often this way)
I've only had the "omg this is it" feeling once, I've been in more than one relationship.

I was thinking of people who aren't inconsiderate but my brain flaked out. I'll try saying that I think considerate people are less apt to smoke or get noticed smoking a lot less than inconsiderate 1s.

I could never date a smoker. The smell of tobacco makes me so sick, that I hold my breath when I walk by a person smoking. If not, I get terrible headaches from the smell. Also, I could never bring myself to kiss a smoker. The nasty tobacco smell would ruin the entire thing. Cigarettes are also a waste of money and a killer of healthy cells. I would like a partner to be healthy with good lifestyle choices.

I agree, some people enter into relationships with the knowledge it has an expiration date on it.

I know the "this is it" feeling you are mentioning but perhaps that was a feeling you experiened when you were more naive or viewed relationships through rose tinted spectacles? As you got older, you might have started to weigh the realistic postives and negatives into a relationship instead of simply looking at it through rose tinted glasses.