Advice on upcoming dating profile...

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Gotta agree with previous poster- your line are cheesy bad!! If you were not super good looking, women WOULD call you creepy! (referring to another thread!! Ha!) Seriously though- your looks DEFINITELY are allowing those bad lines to continue!!

It's funny really how your mind is programmed and conditioned to respond to certain lines, images and behaviours and that's what your attraction is based upon, it's quite shallow to be truthful but attraction is something that is shallow to most and that's true for most people, at least me and Boo are willing to be honest about it. You are simply willing to prejudge people based on their profile photo or how they wish to exhibit their body, you do assume that it does make them promiscuous in some way.

agreed on this post. YT keeps talking of pics of abs drawing away her type, but in reality is there such a thing as her type? Are types all specifically made, like production models, without any factory options. Its not fair to compare people by types, but typical vs atypical is ludicrous.

Well done, congratulations for figuring that out, don't you realize the line is meant to be cheesy and silly? That is what makes it funny, maybe it's more of a Brit thing but even foreign girls seem to get it.

Well guess what? they seem to be responding positively.

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no, silly lines as usual have been a way to check interest, not to create it. You already had interest, you didnt create any. Most cant use them from the get go as we have to build interest.

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I agree, this is exactly the typical and atypical categorizing and black & white thinking that contributes to the God superiority complex that some people have on here.

Well if it works, it works, it is better than using the typical "hey, how are you" line and the garden shed one is simply a joke, I don't actually use that line as an opener unless it's later on in a conversation.

Maybe there's some sort of translation error but this is a hoe for the people unaware of what a hoe is and it seems to work better than obsessively ranting on about quantum mechanics or telling someone a bunch of stuff they don't really care to know.

^^ this hoe needs it to be hard and long.

Sorry for slow response, just got back from a lovely date with a guy whose abs I have not yet seen

There are a billion ways to separate humans into groups. I think "the type who responds to an abs pic" and "the type who does not respond to an abs pic" is a legitimate way of separating females on an online dating site. The first group is a majority, the second is a minority, as you have shown. You don't have to separate people by type based on just one thing, like the length of their 36th eyelash on their right eye. You can choose to make it as specific of broad as you want, depending on what you are using it for. In this case, I would think that "the type who responds to an abs pic" has something else in their mindset, in most cases, that separates them from "the type who does not respond to an abs pic". I will not call it typeS because that wasn't the point I was trying to make. I am well aware that the females within each type are diverse in other ways.


Huh? I never said that physically working out somehow makes someone lesser in mental aspects, and I don't believe it either. The only thing I am referring to in terms of an online dating profile is the impression one may give of themselves with their choice of main profile pic. It is the FIRST thing someone sees, first impressions, they matter. I will judge someone based on their profile pic - but I wouldn't think, for example "oh that guy is showing off his abs so he must a bit stupid so I don't want to date him". I will think something more along the lines of "this guy thinks it is very important that the first thing I see of him is his bare torso. That is not what attracts me to a guy, initially. In fact I'd rather not see it just yet. I'm not at the beach. From this first impression I'm already getting an idea that we have different priorities when it comes to what we look for in someone." Something like that. Notice no reference to the guy's intellect or level of promiscuity or anything.


Firstly, I don't have an issue with your profile pics. They get you want you want, so they work, it's all good. They wouldn't attract ME, or OTHER'S LIKE ME (like me in particular ways I must add, because otherwise Boo will call be up on lumping everyone like me into the same type), but they will attract women who are happy to see it. Really the only reason I ever started commenting on this stuff was because I thought maybe Aspie guys might like to attract Aspie girls as well as NTs, so as an Aspie female, who thinks a bit differently to the majority of other females (but possibly similarly to a lot of other Aspie females), I was putting my two cents in as to how the pics come across to me.

Secondly, I must disagree again with the promiscuity thing. It has nothing to do with it. How do you know I'm not promiscuous myself, or that I don't want to date promiscuous guys? An abs pic, to me, does not give that much suggestion of the guy's level of promiscuity, it just gives an idea of what first impression they want to give, what they would like potential partners to look for in a guy, initially. That's not what I look for, so I move on...

that is very true, but my brain is not rotten yet, and what i say has validity for me at this point of time. i am aware that in the scheme of things, i am like a bacterium on a giant petri dish of life, and when i no longer have anything to say (when my brain dies), that my thoughts and values will just blow away in the eternal sweep of the enormity of reality.
i know i will not be remembered or contribute anything that leaves a legacy, but i still actively think anyway.
i guess the problem is that i contributed what i had to say, and what i had to say was written in a very scathing way and i very much wish you had not quoted me, because when i saw what i wrote last night this morning, i thought i should delete it, but it was too late.

i do not want to insult wolfheart because he seems like a nice person, but your quote sets my post in concrete. to wolfheart :i am sorry i was so scathing.



it is not of any interest to me that no one will care what i thought during my life after i am dead. there are billions of people with trillions of thoughts, and my thoughts are just a few molecules in that torrent.
i am not conceited. i know i will leave no legacy (except for a house for my girlfriend to live in), and i never had any aspirations for "glory", so your advice to me is not unsettling.


you are the one that has used the word "wisdom", and i just wrote what i thought. i am not a perfect thinker, and i can easily accept advice that my words are useless, but i know if i think what i think, i believe it. the value of those thoughts to the wider public are questionable i agree.

what i was trying to say (but failed to refine the insults from) was that physical beauty is temporary, and anything that is temporary is like a blink of the eye of the universe. even the himalaya ranges exist only between blinks of a universal eye.

i imagined young teenagers with "bangs" as they call them (like j. bieber) who address their physical appearance constantly (by flicking their fingers through their hair to refashion it (or check on it) every few seconds, and i imagined that in 500 years, their graves will be unremarkable, and in 1000 years , they will be dust (given the correct conditions (they could also be slime at the bottom of a cess pool or any other number of non sexual entities))). i often wonder how vain the unwrapped hideous mummies from ancient egypt were about their appearance when they were alive.

whatever. i should not have posted my post because it was rude so sorry.

I've always found the way NT people flirt to be really weird, almost off-putting. What's the secret to liking it?

Bear in mind, I'm also the guy that gets bored to tears whenever people start up with that "small talk" thing. I am apparently uninterested in people unless we're doing or talking about something interesting.

You know what would be ideal for me? Dinner, a nice glass of wine, SHABANG, then perhaps a nice conversation about biology or something. I need a female clone of me!

i never feel sad about small talk. i never have cried as a result of small talk. i can not understand why people cry when they they are bored. i have never seen it so i can not understand the mechanism.

small talk is ignored by me, and it never infects me to the extent that i am brought to tears by boredom.
i am never bored either. i always see an angle that i am interested in pursuing, and whether or not it is shared, i will follow it back into my own private world of thought inevitably.

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@yellowtamarin
I don't respond to online profiles with ab shots either, I don't know if it's because I'm autistic, it's just not my thing (I wanna see your face, not your man teats!) Not wanting to see you half naked is not the same as not being visual
but you have to understand, if we don't like what they think women like we're super liars and thats terrible...


-advice op-
some women like some things, some women like other things
so when you do things to attract some women, you're alienating other women, there is no universal "attractive" ideal
number of suitors (as long as it's more than zero) is less important than quality and compatibility of suitors (three promising matches are better than 20 low compatibility duds)
think about who you want to be with, think about what that person would like to see, present that

if rat's anuses were the currency of our economy, then i would be a pauper.

no one implied that YT is lying.