Someone born lucky enough to be pretty and talking about how easy it is to get girls to be interested in them and not understanding why others can't is like someone lucky enough to be born with a rich daddy and talking about how easy it is get a job and not understanding why other's don't do something to get themselves from poverty. Ha or actually the second guy will probably have the same time getting girl's interests and not understanding it either.
"You don't know how to close", right, just like I'll totally be put off and never talk to this super hot model again just because she made this awkward long comment trying to give me doctor phil type advice on how to deal with this issue I just casually mentioned, who does she think she is, we barely talked. Not to forget how she was totally lacking confidence just sitting in front of the webcam without makeup as a sack of patotoes, her room all messy in the background, barely cracking a smile at my jokes. She says she wants to go on a date with me, but nah, I'll pass.. with her attitude and pretty profile pictures to make herself look good..
"You don't know how to close" means "You had -nothing at all- to keep her interested even the slightest". No model appearance, fancy clothes, expensive cars/house/livingroom, ski trips or wild parties at big clubs in any of your pictures, ah, you're not some ultra smart geek with 4 degrees either, and well you weren't making me laugh with jokes that I like constantly either, so goodbye.
In my personal experience internet is the worst for "we the autistic people" to try and find a relationship with "they who define us", and you should just go outside and develop some kind of technique to approach women. The internet is too much like advertisement in the sense you need to use all kinds of techniques just to make "hits" with people who are doing the same. Add one picture of yourself with a really pretty girl and the laws of nature will make other women very interested in why she would want to be on a picture with you.
Anyway I'll end with some practical advice:
You can make greeting cards saying "Hello, I'm a really shy guy, but the smile on your face at least gave me the courage to hand you this note, I hope you have a nice day" or whatever, add your contact info and hand them to whoever you fancy. You'll at least have gained the fact knowing you said something nice to a pretty girl and leave it up to her to take it as the compliment it is, or take it to the next step if she's interested in this shy nice guy. Plus if she reads it and confronts you right away and you stand there with "your mouth full of teeth" (speechless) like we say here in the Netherlands, she already has the info you are shy and clearly didn't know to approach her like she just did to you. Faking confidence when you don't have it is the worst thing you can do, let her know you're not good at it, but make your effort count for itself, which is confidence in it's own way.
01 Sep 2012, 7:27 pm
