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27 Oct 2012, 9:33 pm

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Though I don't care about money and such, I know all my girlfriends do expect to see you give up a lot for the first date. If they think you are holding in some, they don't like it...It's sad but most girls are like this. I'm happy with coffee shops and movies though :) I do think guys should pay though, but I'm not a feminist or anything, just traditional. If a girl wants a guy to pay AND be dominant, then that's weird in my opinion.
if i asked a girl out in person and she accepted i wouldnt mind going for dinner te first time as I know she has already seen me and accepted. I dont want to take a first date from the internet anywhere pricey though. I dont even like paying for their coffee. I don't see how i her potential bf is supposed to father her also.

I once saw a thread on a dating forum entitled ''he didnt pay for my coffee''. It was about a woman who mvt a guy for a date loved everything about him, an then couldn't decide whether to see hi again bc he didnt pay for her coffee. Makes me sick lol.


i like stads(or w/e his name is) idea of finding something fun and cheap to do.....although my dirty mind is thinking of sex in my car


LOL, well yeah, that's fun and cheap, but you have to give her a reason to want to do that with you first by proving it's not all you want.

I feel your pain with regards to money and paying and how we're judged based on that crap. it's ridiculous.



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27 Oct 2012, 9:48 pm

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Though I don't care about money and such, I know all my girlfriends do expect to see you give up a lot for the first date. If they think you are holding in some, they don't like it...It's sad but most girls are like this. I'm happy with coffee shops and movies though :) I do think guys should pay though, but I'm not a feminist or anything, just traditional. If a girl wants a guy to pay AND be dominant, then that's weird in my opinion.
if i asked a girl out in person and she accepted i wouldnt mind going for dinner te first time as I know she has already seen me and accepted. I dont want to take a first date from the internet anywhere pricey though. I dont even like paying for their coffee. I don't see how i her potential bf is supposed to father her also.

I once saw a thread on a dating forum entitled ''he didnt pay for my coffee''. It was about a woman who mvt a guy for a date loved everything about him, an then couldn't decide whether to see hi again bc he didnt pay for her coffee. Makes me sick lol.


i like stads(or w/e his name is) idea of finding something fun and cheap to do.....although my dirty mind is thinking of sex in my car


LOL, well yeah, that's fun and cheap, but you have to give her a reason to want to do that with you first by proving it's not all you want.

I feel your pain with regards to money and paying and how we're judged based on that crap. it's ridiculous.
I was at mcdonalds today and this guy came in-with his gf(who was cute but she kept coughing all over me) anyway they ordered their food and he said ill pay and she quicky slipped the cashier money an he seemed so embarrassed...he was like ''babe how dare you'' lol. He said to me ''dude did you see that'' lol. it's funny though because he;s embarrassed about his girl paying but not bout taking her to mcdonlds lol.
IK what was going on at mcdonalds but there were 2 hot girls working behind the counter in pajamas. They ha on sweat pants that were sagged down so their pevic bone showed..made me hungry lol.


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27 Oct 2012, 9:58 pm

So that settles it. Screw coffee, my plan is drive my date to the grocery store and cook on a propane grill at the park.



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27 Oct 2012, 11:12 pm

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So that settles it. Screw coffee, my plan is drive my date to the grocery store and cook on a propane grill at the park.
ill prob still do coffee i doubt that is really the issue...and if it is these moneygrubbing b*****s can go to hell :p Ihaeent had a date in around a yr lol..and have had only 3


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27 Oct 2012, 11:41 pm

got a message from a girl on pof it was nice and long and she said ''if you arent interested that's fine gl anyway'' I felt too bad about saying im not interested so i deleted her message instead of replying lol.


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28 Oct 2012, 4:31 pm

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got a message from a girl on pof it was nice and long and she said ''if you arent interested that's fine gl anyway'' I felt too bad about saying im not interested so i deleted her message instead of replying lol.


So you complain about how all girls hate you and don't wanna go out with you, then reject the ones who do wanna go out with you? OK then...



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28 Oct 2012, 5:17 pm

1000Knives wrote:
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got a message from a girl on pof it was nice and long and she said ''if you arent interested that's fine gl anyway'' I felt too bad about saying im not interested so i deleted her message instead of replying lol.


So you complain about how all girls hate you and don't wanna go out with you, then reject the ones who do wanna go out with you? OK then...
didnt say all girls.


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29 Oct 2012, 7:21 am

wtfid2 wrote:
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got a message from a girl on pof it was nice and long and she said ''if you arent interested that's fine gl anyway'' I felt too bad about saying im not interested so i deleted her message instead of replying lol.


So you complain about how all girls hate you and don't wanna go out with you, then reject the ones who do wanna go out with you? OK then...
didnt say all girls.


You do however complain about girls being picky when you are also being picky.

Does anyone recall the definition of a double standard?



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29 Oct 2012, 7:26 am

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this is why i only get first dates

it seems to me that you only get last dates.
it is difficult for me to fathom that idea,



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29 Oct 2012, 8:57 am

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So that settles it. Screw coffee, my plan is drive my date to the grocery store and cook on a propane grill at the park.

that is the most romantic date i've seen in the thread. it actually demonstrates more caring and forethought than anything else so far.

OP, it's not about money. it's about giving a s**t and a half about the person in front of you. if you do NOT give that s**t and a half about the person in front of you, that person will sense it. so if you are having a whole bunch of first dates with any old person who will go out with you just out of desperation to get laid, it's already game over.

OP, you're uninspired with the plans, you can't be arsed to arrange to do anything more interesting or expensive than a cup of coffee (doesn't matter who pays), and you're so jittery and bored you are fiddling with the paper that the straw comes in. sweet mother of pearl, ask yourself this: would YOU go on a second date with YOURSELF? i sincerely doubt it. perhaps you should pick someone special and make the date worth attending for both of you.


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29 Oct 2012, 9:18 am

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So that settles it. Screw coffee, my plan is drive my date to the grocery store and cook on a propane grill at the park.

that is the most romantic date i've seen in the thread. it actually demonstrates more caring and forethought than anything else so far.

OP, it's not about money. it's about giving a sh** and a half about the person in front of you. if you do NOT give that sh** and a half about the person in front of you, that person will sense it. so if you are having a whole bunch of first dates with any old person who will go out with you just out of desperation to get laid, it's already game over.

OP, you're uninspired with the plans, you can't be arsed to arrange to do anything more interesting or expensive than a cup of coffee (doesn't matter who pays), and you're so jittery and bored you are fiddling with the paper that the straw comes in. sweet mother of pearl, ask yourself this: would YOU go on a second date with YOURSELF? i sincerely doubt it. perhaps you should pick someone special and make the date worth attending for both of you.

You mean I cant just do what every person does with a friend on regular basis and expect someone to think its special?
Why would you say that?
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29 Oct 2012, 9:25 am

spongy wrote:
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So that settles it. Screw coffee, my plan is drive my date to the grocery store and cook on a propane grill at the park.

that is the most romantic date i've seen in the thread. it actually demonstrates more caring and forethought than anything else so far.

OP, it's not about money. it's about giving a sh** and a half about the person in front of you. if you do NOT give that sh** and a half about the person in front of you, that person will sense it. so if you are having a whole bunch of first dates with any old person who will go out with you just out of desperation to get laid, it's already game over.

OP, you're uninspired with the plans, you can't be arsed to arrange to do anything more interesting or expensive than a cup of coffee (doesn't matter who pays), and you're so jittery and bored you are fiddling with the paper that the straw comes in. sweet mother of pearl, ask yourself this: would YOU go on a second date with YOURSELF? i sincerely doubt it. perhaps you should pick someone special and make the date worth attending for both of you.

You mean I cant just do what every person does with a friend on regular basis and expect someone to think its special?
Why would you say that?
:P

hahahahaha NEVERRRRRRR. i was speaking in extremes, to be honest. i've sat in cafes for hours and had conversations that didn't want to end. but the OP seems bored from the outset, so the company won't inspire much more than that.


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29 Oct 2012, 12:25 pm

spongy wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
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wtfid2 wrote:
got a message from a girl on pof it was nice and long and she said ''if you arent interested that's fine gl anyway'' I felt too bad about saying im not interested so i deleted her message instead of replying lol.


So you complain about how all girls hate you and don't wanna go out with you, then reject the ones who do wanna go out with you? OK then...
didnt say all girls.


You do however complain about girls being picky when you are also being picky.

Does anyone recall the definition of a doubl standard?
i agree but the diff is the girls im being picky against will eventually get a bf or have already. I wil not get a gf n all likelihood.

I really dont see how a first meetup from a dating site with a girl who prob is seeing 10 other guys that day is so bad. hyperlaxian how much of a s**t could i give about someone i just met?


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29 Oct 2012, 12:28 pm

if you are not actually interested in her and really attracted from her profile, then she is not the girl for you. maybe exchange more messages before meeting in order to build up some chemistry. some people don't like to do that, but if you're not really caring for the females you are dating, then a different approach is in order. maybe online dating just isn't going to work for you if you can't muster up more enthusiasm.


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29 Oct 2012, 12:48 pm

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if you are not actually interested in her and really attracted from her profile, then she is not the girl for you. maybe exchange more messages before meeting in order to build up some chemistry. some people don't like to do that, but if you're not really caring for the females you are dating, then a different approach is in order. maybe online dating just isn't going to work for you if you can't muster up more enthusiasm.
that is why i didnt reply to those girls and was picky. I dont agree that i have to be super caring about them before meeting though..i thin it's best to get to know them in person. from my experience talking too long online just allows the girls to flake.. I dont think online dating is for e but neither is real life lol.


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29 Oct 2012, 2:43 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
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if you are not actually interested in her and really attracted from her profile, then she is not the girl for you. maybe exchange more messages before meeting in order to build up some chemistry. some people don't like to do that, but if you're not really caring for the females you are dating, then a different approach is in order. maybe online dating just isn't going to work for you if you can't muster up more enthusiasm.
that is why i didnt reply to those girls and was picky. I dont agree that i have to be super caring about them before meeting though..i thin it's best to get to know them in person. from my experience talking too long online just allows the girls to flake.. I dont think online dating is for e but neither is real life lol.


In my experience, talking to them online gives them a chance to learn who you are and how you talk and whatnot, which helps because it gives them a chance to be attracted to WHO you are, and not just your looks(or not at all). I met all of my exes online, and my fiance, I didn't meet her online, but another girl I met online introduced us to each other. But every girl I've ever dated, I talked to online for a while before we met. In fact, I talked to her on AIM for about a week before I met her too.