15 Dec 2012, 8:55 pm
15 Dec 2012, 9:23 pm
15 Dec 2012, 9:57 pm
Ann2011 wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I think your profile is good. I would respond to it if I lived in your neck of the woods. Although, from what I know of you from your posts, I suspect I'm not your type. 
How distant are you from each other?
Too distant . . . more than a day's drive. I really like the analogy of the prequels and the originals - that hooks me for sure.
Oh crap... and I just deleted it after page one of this thread had "Ewwww... it's stooopid and I hate star wurz!"
I'm not obsessed - not even an enthusiast... but I like it.
I should've read on before making any changes... the next three pages are mostly junk between nessa & wtfid-whatever. (I suspect she's happily getting revenge for my polite request to not to post excessive off-topic junk in a different thread by posting as much junk as possible in mine...)
Some great feedback in here, much appreciated. It's a tough decision to keep the picture or wipe it... I suppose I wouldn't like it if someone's professional picture gave the impression this is what a girl looked like and she showed up 50 lbs heavier, etc.
...but I do shine up fairly nice. It's SUCH a good photo!
I have the others to show what I normally look like... right? 
15 Dec 2012, 10:05 pm
BlueMax wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I think your profile is good. I would respond to it if I lived in your neck of the woods. Although, from what I know of you from your posts, I suspect I'm not your type.
How distant are you from each other?
Too distant . . . more than a day's drive. I really like the analogy of the prequels and the originals - that hooks me for sure.
Oh crap... and I just deleted it after page one of this thread had "Ewwww... it's stooopid and I hate star wurz!"
I'm not obsessed - not even an enthusiast... but I like it.
I should've read on before making any changes... the next three pages are mostly junk between nessa & wtfid-whatever. (I suspect she's happily getting revenge for my polite request to not to post excessive off-topic junk in a different thread by posting as much junk as possible in mine...)
I think you'll find I posted a long review of your profile, with advice - in what way is that 'junk'?
In my opinion, any thread has a strong chance of going more off-topic when the OP stops posting on their thread as people will automatically start widening the topic area.
Most discussion was related to the extent to which people related to Star Wars references though so I think you'll find it still had relevance
Learning better manners would serve you far better than any photo changes in my opinion
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15 Dec 2012, 10:08 pm
15 Dec 2012, 10:12 pm
15 Dec 2012, 10:12 pm
nessa238 wrote:
sbarne3 wrote:
Janeric wrote:
The kids are _adorable_. When you mention how important they are to you, it's super genuine and sweet. I think you kit just the right note there. Maybe include pics of them without crops. I also like the goofy picture - it makes you look fun.
You mention a lot of stuff you don't like, but not a lot of stuff you do. Instead of saying "No doormats" say "I want someone confident in herself". Instead of asking that people not be manipulative, ask that they be frank, forthright, or honest to a fault.
The "I love being the kind of person I am" thing is very affirming, but you need to give a sense of who you are. Are you shy? Serious? Focused?
What are you volunteering for? Say that. Say what you do for them. It's the kind of fact that builds a picture of you in someone's mind.
The only test you've taken is the sociopath test. THAT IS ALL OF THE RED FLAGS. TAKE MORE TESTS. IF POSSIBLE, DELETE THAT TEST.
You mention a lot of stuff you don't like, but not a lot of stuff you do. Instead of saying "No doormats" say "I want someone confident in herself". Instead of asking that people not be manipulative, ask that they be frank, forthright, or honest to a fault.
The "I love being the kind of person I am" thing is very affirming, but you need to give a sense of who you are. Are you shy? Serious? Focused?
What are you volunteering for? Say that. Say what you do for them. It's the kind of fact that builds a picture of you in someone's mind.
The only test you've taken is the sociopath test. THAT IS ALL OF THE RED FLAGS. TAKE MORE TESTS. IF POSSIBLE, DELETE THAT TEST.
^^^ all of this ^^^ ...especially the part about mentioning a lot of stuff you don't like. Most negatives statements can be spun around to sound more positive.
Also I would work a little more on your self-summary. The old vs new star wars thing was a good start, but it doesn't really tell me much about you. Work some humor in if you can and give specific details about yourself.
Here is my self-summary (not that I am in any way saying mine is great or anything like that, just thought you might want to see what I wrote and maybe it would help you come up with some ideas for your own)
Quote:
Describe myself... hmm... I am a computer geek (a nerd with slightly more fashion sense)... stop laughing... I said slightly.
When I am not at work or church, I enjoy listening to music, watching movies, and generally just hanging out.
Something you should know about me is that I have Asperger's Syndrome which causes me to be slightly socially unaware. I sometimes have trouble recognizing and interpreting non-verbal language (body language, vocal tone, facial expressions, etc.), and I tend to interpret things literally. I also try to be direct and honest and appreciate it when others are direct and honest with me. I do have trouble starting and ending conversations, but do ok once I get going.
Basically though I am just a quiet, intellectual guy who enjoys nerdy things.
When I am not at work or church, I enjoy listening to music, watching movies, and generally just hanging out.
Something you should know about me is that I have Asperger's Syndrome which causes me to be slightly socially unaware. I sometimes have trouble recognizing and interpreting non-verbal language (body language, vocal tone, facial expressions, etc.), and I tend to interpret things literally. I also try to be direct and honest and appreciate it when others are direct and honest with me. I do have trouble starting and ending conversations, but do ok once I get going.
Basically though I am just a quiet, intellectual guy who enjoys nerdy things.
I think that's a good profile but do you feel it's important to tell people about your Asperger's before even meeting them?
To be honest I still haven't decided if I should or not, but I figured I would give it a try and see what happens... and actually I have been talking for about a month with one person on there and we are planning to meet IRL this next week.
She had quite a few questions (of course), but she seems ok with it and from what I can tell about her I wouldn't be surprised if she is on the spectrum too and just doesn't realize it.
15 Dec 2012, 10:13 pm
15 Dec 2012, 10:13 pm
sbarne3 wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
sbarne3 wrote:
Janeric wrote:
The kids are _adorable_. When you mention how important they are to you, it's super genuine and sweet. I think you kit just the right note there. Maybe include pics of them without crops. I also like the goofy picture - it makes you look fun.
You mention a lot of stuff you don't like, but not a lot of stuff you do. Instead of saying "No doormats" say "I want someone confident in herself". Instead of asking that people not be manipulative, ask that they be frank, forthright, or honest to a fault.
The "I love being the kind of person I am" thing is very affirming, but you need to give a sense of who you are. Are you shy? Serious? Focused?
What are you volunteering for? Say that. Say what you do for them. It's the kind of fact that builds a picture of you in someone's mind.
The only test you've taken is the sociopath test. THAT IS ALL OF THE RED FLAGS. TAKE MORE TESTS. IF POSSIBLE, DELETE THAT TEST.
You mention a lot of stuff you don't like, but not a lot of stuff you do. Instead of saying "No doormats" say "I want someone confident in herself". Instead of asking that people not be manipulative, ask that they be frank, forthright, or honest to a fault.
The "I love being the kind of person I am" thing is very affirming, but you need to give a sense of who you are. Are you shy? Serious? Focused?
What are you volunteering for? Say that. Say what you do for them. It's the kind of fact that builds a picture of you in someone's mind.
The only test you've taken is the sociopath test. THAT IS ALL OF THE RED FLAGS. TAKE MORE TESTS. IF POSSIBLE, DELETE THAT TEST.
^^^ all of this ^^^ ...especially the part about mentioning a lot of stuff you don't like. Most negatives statements can be spun around to sound more positive.
Also I would work a little more on your self-summary. The old vs new star wars thing was a good start, but it doesn't really tell me much about you. Work some humor in if you can and give specific details about yourself.
Here is my self-summary (not that I am in any way saying mine is great or anything like that, just thought you might want to see what I wrote and maybe it would help you come up with some ideas for your own)
Quote:
Describe myself... hmm... I am a computer geek (a nerd with slightly more fashion sense)... stop laughing... I said slightly.
When I am not at work or church, I enjoy listening to music, watching movies, and generally just hanging out.
Something you should know about me is that I have Asperger's Syndrome which causes me to be slightly socially unaware. I sometimes have trouble recognizing and interpreting non-verbal language (body language, vocal tone, facial expressions, etc.), and I tend to interpret things literally. I also try to be direct and honest and appreciate it when others are direct and honest with me. I do have trouble starting and ending conversations, but do ok once I get going.
Basically though I am just a quiet, intellectual guy who enjoys nerdy things.
When I am not at work or church, I enjoy listening to music, watching movies, and generally just hanging out.
Something you should know about me is that I have Asperger's Syndrome which causes me to be slightly socially unaware. I sometimes have trouble recognizing and interpreting non-verbal language (body language, vocal tone, facial expressions, etc.), and I tend to interpret things literally. I also try to be direct and honest and appreciate it when others are direct and honest with me. I do have trouble starting and ending conversations, but do ok once I get going.
Basically though I am just a quiet, intellectual guy who enjoys nerdy things.
I think that's a good profile but do you feel it's important to tell people about your Asperger's before even meeting them?
To be honest I still haven't decided if I should or not, but I figured I would give it a try and see what happens... and actually I have been talking for about a month with one person on there and we are planning to meet IRL this next week.
She had quite a few questions (of course), but she seems ok with it and from what I can tell about her I wouldn't be surprised if she is on the spectrum too and just doesn't realize it.
That's brilliant - I'm really pleased for you!
15 Dec 2012, 10:14 pm
nessa238 wrote:
Perhaps you should have honoured us with a visit to your thread to give that feedback then
and then perhaps the thread would have remained more on topic
it seems a bit hypocritical to blame others for discussion on a general theme of the thread when you can't even be bothered to post yourself
Are we meant to just say nothing in case you come back at some point wanting to take the thread in a different direction?
and then perhaps the thread would have remained more on topic
it seems a bit hypocritical to blame others for discussion on a general theme of the thread when you can't even be bothered to post yourself
Are we meant to just say nothing in case you come back at some point wanting to take the thread in a different direction?
Sheesh... 8 hours. I was gone a lousy 8 hours!
15 Dec 2012, 10:19 pm
BlueMax wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Perhaps you should have honoured us with a visit to your thread to give that feedback then
and then perhaps the thread would have remained more on topic
it seems a bit hypocritical to blame others for discussion on a general theme of the thread when you can't even be bothered to post yourself
Are we meant to just say nothing in case you come back at some point wanting to take the thread in a different direction?
and then perhaps the thread would have remained more on topic
it seems a bit hypocritical to blame others for discussion on a general theme of the thread when you can't even be bothered to post yourself
Are we meant to just say nothing in case you come back at some point wanting to take the thread in a different direction?
Sheesh... 8 hours. I was gone a lousy 8 hours!
Well you should know I'm often on here all day on a Saturday so there's no natural break from it for me except for making drinks
I was doing a lot of paperwork til about 3am yesterday morning so I had a day off today and spent all day online to relax.
I will try and bear in mind that the OP may not have abandoned their thread though but I still find this 'off topic' concept very restrictive as in my world discussing Star Wars was related to your thread topic a lot. In other words I don't know the exact point at which the thread has gone 'off topic' as it's all related in some respect or other as far as I see it.
15 Dec 2012, 10:23 pm
BlueMax wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I think your profile is good. I would respond to it if I lived in your neck of the woods. Although, from what I know of you from your posts, I suspect I'm not your type.
How distant are you from each other?
Too distant . . . more than a day's drive. I really like the analogy of the prequels and the originals - that hooks me for sure.
Oh crap... and I just deleted it after page one of this thread had "Ewwww... it's stooopid and I hate star wurz!"
I'm not obsessed - not even an enthusiast... but I like it.
I should've read on before making any changes... the next three pages are mostly junk between nessa & wtfid-whatever. (I suspect she's happily getting revenge for my polite request to not to post excessive off-topic junk in a different thread by posting as much junk as possible in mine...)
Some great feedback in here, much appreciated. It's a tough decision to keep the picture or wipe it... I suppose I wouldn't like it if someone's professional picture gave the impression this is what a girl looked like and she showed up 50 lbs heavier, etc.
...but I do shine up fairly nice. It's SUCH a good photo!
I have the others to show what I normally look like... right? As long as you're prepared for the disappointed look when you don't look like the 'best' photo when you meet up with someone IRL it's fine to use it
I think you look a bit too cocky in the younger photo and a nicer person in the others.
15 Dec 2012, 11:39 pm
15 Dec 2012, 11:56 pm
wtfid2 wrote:
why do u keep butchering my name blueoversizedmax?
One, because I forgot what number/letters came after it... it's not a "word" my brain could remember & regurgitate.
Two - failed humour.
16 Dec 2012, 12:05 am
16 Dec 2012, 12:08 am
