04 Jan 2013, 4:28 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
to the people above asking how to respond to men who approach, i try to be funny, like in this art class a few years ago where i had painted myself with a bare shoulder:
HIM: "your self-portrait is captivating. i'd like to see the rest of that painting. you should come over for some wine after class."
ME: "do you have enough for my husband too?"
(it made him laugh and got the message across that i was not interested. never mind that he said, "sure!! !! !! that sounds great!! !! !" he did understand that i was saying no.
)
HIM: "your self-portrait is captivating. i'd like to see the rest of that painting. you should come over for some wine after class."
ME: "do you have enough for my husband too?"
(it made him laugh and got the message across that i was not interested. never mind that he said, "sure!! !! !! that sounds great!! !! !" he did understand that i was saying no.
)Another similar idea: if a man is telling you how pretty you are or something, you can say politely: "oh, thank you. My husband tells me that all the time, too."
That is not an attempt to be funny; it is just a polite way of letting them know that you have a (perhaps invented) husband.
However this would not work for the OP because the people pestering her obviously seem to know she does not have a husband.
04 Jan 2013, 4:53 pm
Plodder wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
to the people above asking how to respond to men who approach, i try to be funny, like in this art class a few years ago where i had painted myself with a bare shoulder:
HIM: "your self-portrait is captivating. i'd like to see the rest of that painting. you should come over for some wine after class."
ME: "do you have enough for my husband too?"
(it made him laugh and got the message across that i was not interested. never mind that he said, "sure!! !! !! that sounds great!! !! !" he did understand that i was saying no. )
HIM: "your self-portrait is captivating. i'd like to see the rest of that painting. you should come over for some wine after class."
ME: "do you have enough for my husband too?"
(it made him laugh and got the message across that i was not interested. never mind that he said, "sure!! !! !! that sounds great!! !! !" he did understand that i was saying no.
)Another similar idea: if a man is telling you how pretty you are or something, you can say politely: "oh, thank you. My husband tells me that all the time, too."
That is not an attempt to be funny; it is just a polite way of letting them know that you have a (perhaps invented) husband.
However this would not work for the OP because the people pestering her obviously seem to know she does not have a husband.
yeah good point. it can't always work, it is sort of contextual.
04 Jan 2013, 8:41 pm
17 Mar 2013, 5:15 am
I just had a friend who I made clear I wasn't interested in, and now he's not talking to me.
I feel horrible. I hate rejecting people, it makes me feel like the the most vile, evil, rottenest human being ever to exist! 
17 Mar 2013, 7:47 am
18 Mar 2013, 3:41 am
19 Mar 2013, 8:05 am
Some men just don't get the whole 'women consist of more than breasts and a vagina' thing. 
19 Mar 2013, 9:14 am
| Similar Topics | |
|---|---|
| Pride! (and a problem!) |
13 May 2025, 8:52 pm |
| Help, what's my problem? Academic failure and not diagnosed. |
29 Jun 2025, 3:08 pm |
| The problem of preventing lone wolf attacks |
25 May 2025, 7:48 pm |
