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04 Mar 2013, 5:46 am

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My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.

And what did you conclude about the men?



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04 Mar 2013, 6:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.


How can a person be 'extremely hideous and sexy' - it sounds like a contradiction in terms

and what is the definition of a 'nut job'?

With all the dates you seem to have with non-obese women you don't seem to be having any success at finding an actual relationship so perhaps going for females who look like models isn't always the best strategy?

Ever considered that?

Also do you ever consider how you yourself come across to others?



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04 Mar 2013, 6:28 am

periphery wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.

And what did you conclude about the men?


I heard stories about men, many of them are total creeps.



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04 Mar 2013, 6:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.


I think this is *so* insulting, and totally unnecessary.

It shows a lack of common sense, and an obvious paucity of information to the type of women on dating sites.

And even if the *were* all very obese and all the rest of the verbal diarrhoea you have mentioned, they are still human beings, and as such, deserving a right to be happy and fulfilled, just as anyone else.

All this fat/skinny, beautiful/ugly dichotomies, *really* annoy me to no end.

If people just tried to get along with each other and be more respectful of each other, regardless of how they look, I am sure we would wipe out half of the tripe on these forums!



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04 Mar 2013, 6:32 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.


How can a person be 'extremely hideous and sexy' - it sounds like a contradiction in terms

and what is the definition of a 'nut job'?

With all the dates you seem to have with non-obese women you don't seem to be having any success at finding an actual relationship so perhaps going for females who look like models isn't always the best strategy?

Ever considered that?

Also do you ever consider how you yourself come across to others?


I was stating different categories, not qualities in the same person.

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going for females who look like models isn't always the best strategy?


People who read that would think that I only really date model-looking women O_o. You're the one here who saw some of them and you know very well they're not model-looking.

Ok, fine fine, my statement was a rant but It's an obvious pattern.



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04 Mar 2013, 6:39 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.


I think this is *so* insulting, and totally unnecessary.

It shows a lack of common sense, and an obvious paucity of information to the type of women on dating sites.

And even if the *were* all very obese and all the rest of the verbal diarrhoea you have mentioned, they are still human beings, and as such, deserving a right to be happy and fulfilled, just as anyone else.

All this fat/skinny, beautiful/ugly dichotomies, *really* annoy me to no end.

If people just tried to get along with each other and be more respectful of each other, regardless of how they look, I am sure we would wipe out half of the tripe on these forums!


But I didn't insult obese or showed any lack of respect for them, nor I denied their humanity, their right to date or to be happy.

When I meet up with a girl who is very obese (in pictures she took perfect angles to not appear so) I go on with the first date normally. It's not like I show disgrace and send her back home.

But I am simply not physically attracted to obese. My choice, my right.


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It shows a lack of common sense, and an obvious paucity of information to the type of women on dating sites.


I was talking locally.

Here, probably only 10% of the offline population are that obese, but on dating sites they are like 70%.



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04 Mar 2013, 6:43 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.


How can a person be 'extremely hideous and sexy' - it sounds like a contradiction in terms

and what is the definition of a 'nut job'?

With all the dates you seem to have with non-obese women you don't seem to be having any success at finding an actual relationship so perhaps going for females who look like models isn't always the best strategy?

Ever considered that?

Also do you ever consider how you yourself come across to others?


I was stating different categories, not qualities in the same person.

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going for females who look like models isn't always the best strategy?


People who read that would think that I only really date model-looking women O_o. You're the one here who saw some of them and you know very well they're not model-looking.

Ok, fine fine, my statement was a rant. Not all of them were bad (two were awesome in fact) - but It's an obvious patern.


They all looked extremely attractive to me and could have passed as models in my opinion

It peeves me how people always want somethign better than they've got and how they constantly undervalue people
and think they're worth better (when they're not!)

If I'm honest, you don't match those women in looks ie you should be overjoyed to have such attractive women showing an interest

I was wondering what was attracting them to be quite honest

So for you to be going on about hideous and obese women on online dating sites is a tad ironic



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04 Mar 2013, 6:47 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
My final conclusion about local online dating:
It's a haven for : very obese , extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women and combinations of those.


I think this is *so* insulting, and totally unnecessary.

It shows a lack of common sense, and an obvious paucity of information to the type of women on dating sites.

And even if the *were* all very obese and all the rest of the verbal diarrhoea you have mentioned, they are still human beings, and as such, deserving a right to be happy and fulfilled, just as anyone else.

All this fat/skinny, beautiful/ugly dichotomies, *really* annoy me to no end.

If people just tried to get along with each other and be more respectful of each other, regardless of how they look, I am sure we would wipe out half of the tripe on these forums!


But I didn't insult obese or showed any lack of respect for them, nor I denied their right to date.

When I meet up with a girl who is very obese (in pictures she took perfect angles to not appear so) I go on with the first date normally. It's not like I show disgrace and send her back home.

But I am simply not physically attracted to obese. My choice, my right.


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It shows a lack of common sense, and an obvious paucity of information to the type of women on dating sites.


I was talking locally.

Here, probably only 10% of the offline population are that obese, but on dating sites they are like 70%.


Well Duh!

Perhaps they are overweight because if they go to bars to try and find partners they end up being referred to as 'hideous and obese' by sniggering heartless idiots like you!

Can you blame them for staying at home - where they probably then comfort eat to make themselves feel better!

People like you with your nasty, judgemental attitudes have created these obese people - think on that!

You are plainer than plain looking with no sexuality in your look - does that hurt you?

Good!



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04 Mar 2013, 6:50 am

Oh look you've gone quiet

Not so nice when people pick on you for a change is it?

Think on that feeling next time you refer to women in this manner:-

"very obese, extremely hideous and sexy but nut job (Creeps, crazy...etc) women"



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04 Mar 2013, 6:57 am

I don't see where I've insulted the obese (is obese an insult word? it refers to a condition: obesity) or the physically hideous (many women said they won't date hideous men here like Cafeaulait and no one attacked her like that).

Maybe my post was only insulting toward the physically attractive type yet total crazy in mind (since I called them as "sexy but nutjobs" and nut job is an insult word).



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04 Mar 2013, 7:00 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I don't see where I've insulted the obese (is obese an insult word? it refers to a condition: obesity) or the physically hideous (many women said they won't date hideous men here like Cafeaulait and no one attacked her like that).

Maybe my post was only insulting toward the physically attractive type yet total crazy in mind (since I called them nutjobs).


Yes well, to put it into perspective:-

1. I did an online BMI test the other day and was put in the 'Obese' as opposed to 'Overweight' category I thought I was in
- this was a big shock to me and caused me to start a diet immediately!

'Obese' is a nasty, horrible word - I hate it!

2. I have been referred to as unattractive by people a lot, so any criticism of women's looks is triggering for me

3. I have had mental health problems, probably directly related to 2.!

So I felt personally insulted by what you said!

Despite all this I still seem to have managed to have more relationship success than you!

So perhaps being a decent person is the main criteria necessary to get a relationship?

And I didn't think much of Cafeaulait using the phrase 'hideous men' either - it certainly did her no favours!
Two wrongs don't make a right though.



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04 Mar 2013, 7:06 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LwmJuY_xHr0&list=UUD4onukrh7pO66LOXQonBiQ&index=1[/youtube]



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04 Mar 2013, 7:08 am

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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LwmJuY_xHr0&list=UUD4onukrh7pO66LOXQonBiQ&index=1[/youtube]


Yes and I bet he's a damn sight more interesting to talk to than that judgmental Bimbo!



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04 Mar 2013, 7:15 am

Settle, it's just a silly advertisement. It's meant as a tongue in cheek look at how people mis-represent themselves online. Just like boo is saying about the women he's come across.



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04 Mar 2013, 7:24 am

Nessa,

1- "Obese" is a medical term to describe the very overweight like Emaciated for the very underweight.


Not being attracted to obese =/= being disrespectful to obese.


2- I saw your face pic, I personally don't think you're hideous per se.


3- For nutjobs, I wasn't referring to mental health conditions, all those 'nutjobs' I've encountered were totally mentally healthy and functional, they're nut due to their nasty creepy personality and way of thinking.



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Despite all this I still seem to have managed to have more relationship success than you!


Well, good for you.

Come and live in the middle east and let's see if you can get much success in having FWB-like relationships, the way you like.


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So perhaps being a decent person is the main criteria necessary to get a relationship?


Of course it is, since why I failed with many of them because they weren't decent.



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04 Mar 2013, 8:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nessa,

1- "Obese" is a medical term to describe the very overweight like Emaciated for the very underweight.


Not being attracted to obese =/= being disrespectful to obese.


2- I saw your face pic, I personally don't think you're hideous per se.


3- For nutjobs, I wasn't referring to mental health conditions, all those 'nutjobs' I've encountered were totally mentally healthy and functional, they're nut due to their nasty creepy personality and way of thinking.



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Despite all this I still seem to have managed to have more relationship success than you!


Well, good for you.

Come and live in the middle east and let's see if you can get much success in having FWB-like relationships, the way you like.


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So perhaps being a decent person is the main criteria necessary to get a relationship?


Of course it is, since why I failed with many of them because they weren't decent.


I will answer in a while as good drama on TV now I'm going to watch while eating my (healthy) lunch

I am 13 stone though and I never thought that was classed as obese until I did that BMI test