Losing my mind over the need for affection

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Marriage is out of the question, but what if I do want to have kids and endure the challenge of raising one? So what if I have a meltdown every time I can't do the task of being a father, that's where trial and error comes in. I'm not giving up trying to find a way, damnit!

Am I going to hurt myself in the end? You damn right I am! If I can handle this much pain, that makes me a stronger human being.

I don't want to turn this into a flame war or anything that causes this thread to lock up, but for god's sake, throwing out a "cop-out solution" is a really bad idea.

there are already over 7 billion souls on this long-suffering orb, why add any more anytime soon?

Well I'd consider that an option if and when the time comes. Part of that last rant was because I cannot live with the idea of roaming alone forever on this planet. I refuse to accept that as a reality. I don't care how much of other people's experiences dictate that in the end it "will" happen. My personal experience is the final factor in my life.

I think i've already fallen over the cliff...

^^^
i won't begrudge you your hope, so i sincerely hope you clamber back up over the edge of the cliff.

When I was young, I found it so easy to attract people, but nowadays I just have no confidence, and feel like I have nothing to offer anyone. This feeling has been prevalent for the past two years now and I don't actually think I can pull my way out of it either. So I know how you feel, mate.

Okay, misanthropes, stop being so misanthropic. From: the misanthrope.
You could try looking up different ways to attract women. Practice. Either on a mirror or with a friend (I know most will use a mirror)
I'd say ease up a bit - working on it myself. I may be not so into therapy, but self-improvement is a human must for every person to grow up.
I'd also say most who give up remain somewhat childish.
Don't Panic - it will put you above 99% of society.

ok then, i'm childish.

bumping my own topic here, but I'm not sure if I can figure out the solution to this issue. I keep going in a loop that I can't get out of. Maybe I'm just insanely blind, but I always seem to talk to women who are already in a prior relationship, and those that are potential mates I tend to shy away from, especially when they hang around a bunch of guy friends (I don't feel comfortable trying to talk to women when they're around a bunch of guys because I don't want to overwhelm them with a bunch of guy friends).

I keep putting myself in (I guess you could say) a state of limbo, where I'm pushing and pulling but I'm just putting myself back in the middle.

lol. That is not the reason. Eroticization of youth and the relative easiness of fooling younger women are the reasons.