What NT's want

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How can it sometimes be an empty compliment and other times not?

I would say however it's said it's just a statement indicating that one person finds another person attractive. There's no 'deep and meaningful' way it can be said! lol

And if all a person has to offer is being pretty no other compliments are likely to be given

Plus the fact that the people going on about prettiness often don't have the capacity or desire to appreciate other qualities anyway so you're in a limited market

Then there's the time the 'you're pretty' compliments stops coming as you're not considered to be any more - a major blow to the ego I'd think!

I'm happy not to be called pretty on a regular basis as I won't have all this trauma to go through as I get older

I wonder what these boards will be like when the people here hit 50 - very interesting I'd say

'No one calls me pretty any more!'

Back on topic - NTs want prettiness so you'd better keep providing it for as long as you're able (no pressure, like)

I think maybe you misunderstood... I don't think the mass majority of My need to be told that constantly. It is more that occasionally we like to have our physical appearance commented on. When a woman wears something she thinks is flattering on her she hopes her parter sees her the way she sees herself. Personally... Physical compliments are rare and I don't care. I know I am loved and his eyes are not wandering... Don't get me wrong I am sure he notices attractive people but I don't need him to tell me i am pretty to feel secure. It is always special to me when he does say it though because I know at that moment I have caught his attention in a way that is different than our usual

Let's face it. Sometimes people will give a compliment because they #1 want something #2 feel it's the right thing to do, even if they don't personally feel that way

Now whether or not the person you are with would do either of these....??? I'm speaking in general.



When a guy tells me I'm pretty, nine times out of 10 he isn't just saying it to make a statement he's looking for a shag. I have however had people make genuine statements.

I actually posted a thread about compliments a while ago.



I am constantly getting mistaken for being half my age. So at 50 I should be looking 25! LOL



I'm not talking about your partner complimenting you. I'm talking some random person. Sure I'd like my partner to compliment me occasionally. Actually some of the best compliments I've ever gotten have come from my AS guy because I know he's honest and sincere. I have never thought twice about his intentions.

I'm commenting on the "Tell a girl she's pretty and special often enough, and buy her enough stuff, and she's yours" That's where I'm coming from with my comments. You can't just add compliments and gifts and then expect a relationship to grow! lol

For some strange reason when make up sex was mentioned I visualized two people having sex while they are still angry at eachother cussing eachother out etc!! !

LOL!! Not exactly! Although sometimes people get turned on when they argue!??? I guess just something about the person getting all emotional and heated drives the other crazy! But usually it's after the argument. Then it's time to "make up"!

Or beat them to a bloody pulp and find somewhere to bury the body!

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Last edited by Growlithe on 14 Mar 2013, 7:25 pm, edited 3 times in total.

Woa nessa!! lol new thread "Places to bury a body"

Lol

Don't worry - it's all hypothetical

Maybe you just over-complicate things.

This is what Neurotypical Females want.

Glad I missed out on the programming

Plastic, banal, probably very dull with awful sense of humour

you'd end up having a fling with a far less stereotypically attractive work colleague just to escape the tedium of his personality for a few hours

I don't think having a tension would make sex fun at all

I would go all limp. I have to be very comfortable or I just can't do it.

Now now! He is hot. I'm not even going to lie. And he may very well be intelligent. If he hit on me I would give him a chance! But I would give someone who looked nothing like him a chance as well. BUT, this is not what all NT's want. I have dated people who were not attractive by popular standards. I've dated people who were attractive by popular standards. I've fallen in love with people on both ends of the spectrum. What this NT wants is someone who loves and is in love with her as much as she is with him. Plain and simple. Everything else is negotiable.

Sexual tension. Like okay I just wanna rip your clothes off kind of tension.

Aka horniness

Soo....feel like making up?