25 Mar 2013, 5:16 pm
IlovemyAspie wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
Stalk wrote:
having to move on constantly.
Yes, it does...but we have to move on if we're going to find the right one. And we'll never find the right one if stay in the same place. I just wish sometimes it would hurry up and happen.
My heart has never hurt so much. It feels like it's a physical hurt sometimes.
I'm confused
I thought you were with a person with Aspergers when you posted before, hence the ilovemyAspie user name
Have you split up recently?
I thought IlovemyAspie was with an Aspie too. I thought she was happy. A really positive NT role model. Don't like to think of her suffering
Awww!
It's a long story and complicated. But long story short I love my Aspie-guy. Hence the name. I was in love with him but he told me he didn't function in relationships...I moved on to someone else who seriously broke my heart-hence the hurting. I still love my Aspie and we are still friends. Throw in the fact that during all of this I was married and on the verge of divorce (should be final in July) and it's been wild. He says he doesn't function in relationships and that he probably will never be ready for one. He said he's fine the way he is. Since I filed for divorce, we have been spending a little more time together but still as friends. Deep inside I wished that he miraculously be ready for a relationship but I have to constantly remind myself that this will probably never happen. For a while there I think he really tried...but I think it may have exhausted him. But a lot of me likes to think that it was because I hadn't filed for divorce and he was scared I might decide to stay. That's me in a nutshell. I've seen a lot of NT's come and go in the past year. I'm here to stay. I love it here. Thanks for the love!!
This was confusing, I don't understand.
Have you had more than friendship with the Aspie friend? If not, why do you say you are in love with him? Have you ever kissed?
To add my two cents worth, I have read that many Aspie Men say they don't want relationships, and then with time they can fall into one. I don't think they like the "idea" of one. It also takes a man like that, longer to break away from his set in stone ideas. Patience is required.
Do you know why he says he doesn't function in relationships?
I might sound obtuse, but I am literally so tired, I keep nodding off.
25 Mar 2013, 5:25 pm
25 Mar 2013, 5:38 pm
aspiesandra27 wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
Stalk wrote:
having to move on constantly.
Yes, it does...but we have to move on if we're going to find the right one. And we'll never find the right one if stay in the same place. I just wish sometimes it would hurry up and happen.
My heart has never hurt so much. It feels like it's a physical hurt sometimes.
I'm confused
I thought you were with a person with Aspergers when you posted before, hence the ilovemyAspie user name
Have you split up recently?
I thought IlovemyAspie was with an Aspie too. I thought she was happy. A really positive NT role model. Don't like to think of her suffering
Awww!
It's a long story and complicated. But long story short I love my Aspie-guy. Hence the name. I was in love with him but he told me he didn't function in relationships...I moved on to someone else who seriously broke my heart-hence the hurting. I still love my Aspie and we are still friends. Throw in the fact that during all of this I was married and on the verge of divorce (should be final in July) and it's been wild. He says he doesn't function in relationships and that he probably will never be ready for one. He said he's fine the way he is. Since I filed for divorce, we have been spending a little more time together but still as friends. Deep inside I wished that he miraculously be ready for a relationship but I have to constantly remind myself that this will probably never happen. For a while there I think he really tried...but I think it may have exhausted him. But a lot of me likes to think that it was because I hadn't filed for divorce and he was scared I might decide to stay. That's me in a nutshell. I've seen a lot of NT's come and go in the past year. I'm here to stay. I love it here. Thanks for the love!!
This was confusing, I don't understand.
Have you had more than friendship with the Aspie friend? If not, why do you say you are in love with him? Have you ever kissed?
To add my two cents worth, I have read that many Aspie Men say they don't want relationships, and then with time they can fall into one. I don't think they like the "idea" of one. It also takes a man like that, longer to break away from his set in stone ideas. Patience is required.
Do you know why he says he doesn't function in relationships?
I might sound obtuse, but I am literally so tired, I keep nodding off.
Our friendship has been just that friendship. We've never kissed, never even come close. We have a deep friendship. I'm the only one aside from from family who knows about the AS. I think I understand him more than anyone else because of this. We work together so I see him quite often.
I know it might seem strange that I could be in love with him based on just our friendship but it hapened. He was all I could think about. I didn't see myself with anyone else but him. My heart wanted nothing but him. He gave me butterflies like no one else. It was so real I could literaly feel it in my heart.
I don't know exactly what it is that makes it so he can't function. I tried very hard to get him to tell me. He just said he was a flake???
I had hoped he might allow himself to "fall into" a relationship. But at the same time I wanted to be realistic and not delude myself. I had started a thread on whether or not it was realistic for me to think he may change his mind.
We are still just friends and it may always be that way. I try not to read too much into the little things he says and does because I don't want him to get irritated with me thinking I'm after him again.
