Why is it impossible for an ugly man to be desired?

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31 Mar 2013, 7:39 pm

Looks can be an initial attraction, but personality is the clincher.
For someone not conventionally attractive, it can take a little longer to get that spark of interest going.
Being attracted to the person rather than their appearance makes for longer lasting relationships though.



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31 Mar 2013, 8:37 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
It's all part of the survival of the fittest.


What is this supposed to mean? :huh:



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31 Mar 2013, 9:17 pm

Define "ugly".



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01 Apr 2013, 12:04 am

If he has lots of money, may have a chance.



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01 Apr 2013, 12:29 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BobLo_edTKg[/youtube]



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01 Apr 2013, 10:57 am

Lintar wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
It's all part of the survival of the fittest.


What is this supposed to mean? :huh:


Both sexes are biologically programmed to look for certain characteristics in mates. Many will say they ignore them, but 99% of them are damned liers.

Also, with the chubby girls, they may get dates, but A LOT of them get used and tossed aside.



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01 Apr 2013, 11:09 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxZ2ibDWipw[/youtube]



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01 Apr 2013, 12:46 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
Lintar wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
It's all part of the survival of the fittest.


What is this supposed to mean? :huh:


Both sexes are biologically programmed to look for certain characteristics in mates. Many will say they ignore them, but 99% of them are damned liers.


Not all of the characteristics we're "programmed to look for" are physical, though. And some attractors are determined by our experiences (in those cases what's pre-programmed is the way in which certain traits become attractive or unattractive to us, rather than what those traits are). Some things also vary from person to person -- in some cases we look for traits complementary to our own, rather than everyone looking for exactly the same thing. Plus, the physical attraction matters more for the initial infatuation (which is gradually replaced by an emotional bond) than it does in the later phases of a relationship.

And on top of all of that, the whole system is imperfect... it's been refined through evolution, but evolution doesn't always select perfection. "Survival of the fittest" is a myth; it's more like "survival of the adequate". The inadequate doesn't survive, but "good enough" is, well, good enough. (Meaning we may be "programmed" to look for traits that are actually completely irrelevant and arbitrary sometimes, just because that attraction didn't kill us off in the past)



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01 Apr 2013, 4:10 pm

BlueMax wrote:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BobLo_edTKg[/youtube]


Pretty much.



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01 Apr 2013, 5:39 pm

This thread has gone on for four pages, but the original poster stopped participating after the first post!

My theory:

The first person to respond to him asked a question that he couldnt respond to.

That question being "would you date an ugly girl?"

Simple as that.

He couldnt respond, and just retreated with his tail between his legs.

I guess that was the 50 thousand dollar question.

The thread shouldve ended right then and there.



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01 Apr 2013, 5:44 pm

^^^ Hey - doesn't mean the rest of us can't still get something out of this! ;)



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01 Apr 2013, 5:54 pm

BlueMax wrote:
^^^ Hey - doesn't mean the rest of us can't still get something out of this! ;)


Lol!

Well..okay.
But be aware that you all are just talking to each other.

What the second poster asked is so basic to the subject that I was eager to see his response- was wishing everyone else would back off until he gave an answer.

But not only did he never responded to that - he never responded to anyone ever in the four pages!



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02 Apr 2013, 12:50 am

naturalplastic wrote:
BlueMax wrote:
^^^ Hey - doesn't mean the rest of us can't still get something out of this! ;)


Lol!

Well..okay.
But be aware that you all are just talking to each other.

What the second poster asked is so basic to the subject that I was eager to see his response- was wishing everyone else would back off until he gave an answer.

But not only did he never responded to that - he never responded to anyone ever in the four pages!


He's probably off somewhere with a girl....



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02 Apr 2013, 5:35 am

Get yourself a power suit, practice confident walking and put on an alpha male persona. It won't matter how short or ugly you are then :)


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02 Apr 2013, 8:11 am

Ahaseurus2000 wrote:
Get yourself a power suit, practice confident walking and put on an alpha male persona. It won't matter how short or ugly you are then :)


Which meaning of "power suit" are you referring to here?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_suit



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02 Apr 2013, 10:23 am

FMX wrote:
Ahaseurus2000 wrote:
Get yourself a power suit, practice confident walking and put on an alpha male persona. It won't matter how short or ugly you are then :)


Which meaning of "power suit" are you referring to here?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_suit


LOL! My first thought was mechanized combat armour, THEN something with a bright red or yellow tie. ;)