Am I attractive?

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Does that mean you go both ways, 1000Knives?

And some girls may only be mean after you mention your "hatred" of women, like me

From the post I've seen from you, I've gotten the feeling that you seem to be over-exaggerating your difficulties because of stuff from the past. (At least, that's what I remember - it probably isn't precise.)

Maybe focus on your strengths - I've heard your a decent writer. Maybe try submitting your stories to somewhere and getting some critiques.

I think it's just more of a self-confidence issue here - in all aspects, not just the dating one.

http://www.writersofthefuture.com/

This is the largest writing contest in the US - some other members would likely be willing to critique your work. According to your age you should be out of high school - plenty of free time to write

Just set a writing goal, maybe 500-1,000 words a day, and just keep getting critiques and submitting until you get good enough to win.

I'm not saying that you'll win on the first try - out of (Forgot the exact number of entries, but it's very high) entries, only about 15% makes it through the first stage - not to mention all those thereafter. Just write, submit, get some ideas and see what happens.

Alternatively, make a web blog and post short stories there - if you get an audience, you could get noticed by a publisher

And of course, other members of WP (Including myself) would likely be able to give critiques as well!

And who knows - maybe you'll have more luck with dating once you sort this out ;p

I can't find you.

But please be assured that thinking no one will want you is a self-fulfilling prophecy. For any of us.

So long as you learn to believe in yourself you will find a partner, if that's what you want.

Give yourself time. You are very, very young.

I'm sure you look fine. Like I said, I can't find you on Facebook. Maybe because I'm in the UK.

Cf

Okay, I did a more refined search and I found you.


I have decided that since you put yourself out there, and since you asked, I have the right to be as honest as I want to be;

At first when I looked, I thought; just fine, normal, average.

Then when I looked closer and spent some more time, I thought; actually, if this kid lost some weight and grew up a bit, he'd be quite something, above average looking.

I think you would be very handsome if you slimmed down a bit and had a more mature, confident look. That's not a critcism. You are very, very young right now.
You're not extremely overweight, I'm not saying that. But if you did lose some weight, you would cross over into above average looking.
Plus remember to eat a good diet. It improves your skin.

Work on that, and the things in your personality and Aspergers that are causing problems or could do, and you will not have any logistical problems attracting women.

The rest is just about confidence.

Hope none of that upsets. I mean it to empower you.

Cf

Didn't look you up on FB. Doesn't matter whether or not you're attractive.

I've come to the conclusion that looks are only important for guys. Girls couldn't give a s**t less. It's all about personality for them.

I am a virgin. I consider myself pretty attractive... I've got six-pack abs, I take care of myself... I work out 3-4 times a week and run 50+ miles a week. I wear glasses and my face is a bit strange, but not that strange. I have everything that women stereotypically consider to be attractive... I have money, I am highly intelligent, and I'm in very good shape. One of my best friends is the opposite... lazy as s**t, has a beer gut, an incredibly doofy looking face, and is perpetually in debt to his friends, the government, banks, his parents... pretty much anyone who is still willing to give him money. Yet, he has an extremely attractive girlfriend, and before he was dating her, had plenty of one night stands.

Why is this? How is it that a guy like me has never been able to attract a single female, and a guy like him has such "good luck" with the ladies?

The answer is that I lack confidence. In spite of all that I have going for me, I have an absolute lack of confidence, and don't know how to "own" my weirdness and eccentricity.

My friend, in spite of the fact that he has virtually nothing going for him, pisses confidence and s**ts attractiveness. HOW? I think it's because he literally gives approximately zero f***s about ANYTHING. And I don't know how to do this.

Untrue. In psychological experiments, both genders prefer attractive people.