8 Reasons Straight Men Don't Want To Get Married

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By the way, there were women that answered agressively in 1950. There were different personalities inside the women brain's back then too. Of course this kind of behaviour was repressed on women, but you can't fake your personality 24/7.

I'll answer to you later, I have to leave the internet now.

No hurry

This whole "War of the Sexes" thing is so stupid and last millennium...

To talk about "All Men..." or "All women..." is just so silly. it would be like saying, "All black people...' etc etc.

Whenever I hear or read that, I think to myself, "That kind of man or women is what this person is ATTRACTING or is ATTRACTED to."

I also feel a little offended bcs while I am NT, I certainly am not like "most women" in most ways! Yet, none of these disgruntled men ask ME OUT or chase after me!! (Because if they did, they could never say, "All women..." again!! ! UNLESS they are just determined to fit all women into that little box, which is EXACTLY what raacists do, come to think of it....hhhmmmm....

Honestly, when men OR women use that phrase, I KNOW it tells me way more about the speaker than it does about "All men..." or "All women..." It tells me that they're not getting what they want so they are blaming the world (or a sub group of the world) instead of looking at what attitude/aura they are presenting to the world. If you EXPECT to find it- guess what YOU WILL! if you FOCUS on it, that's what you will get MORE of! Honest!!

Anyway, its been a lot easier for me to talk lately cuz I got a good relationship with God back in my life. That's another suggestion, but that only works for those of you who believe in God. It works well for me bcs HUMAN BEINGS can be counted on to hurt and disappoint us ONE WAY or ANOTHER and then who do you go to?

Not more aggresive than judging and sentencing half of the planet population due to angry men ranting in forums and blogs. That's not very objective and mature.

About the chemical comment. It's a fact that there are a lot of men complaining about sex and related issues over the internet. It's not a generalization, you can see it as I can see it, there are a lot of men doing that. You say they are doing that because "there is a reason", then you can see, as me, that there are a lot of men complaining online.
Chemical? For sure, our brain is made of neurotransmitters and those are chemicals. Falling in love? chemical. Getting angry? chemical. Whining? chemical.

Where is the agressiveness?



You said that a lot of men in the internet say bad things about women because "a reason" and I tell you that complainers out there can be very verbally agressive (there is no reason to say determinate things). Not an excuse, just information about what me and other women find in the internet constantly. My comment, compared to what I read out there, is as sweet as a marshmallow.



No, women think the opposite because they read generalizations about their gender constantly and that's insulting.

Do you really think a woman will change her mind listening to a guy saying "all women are self-centered b*****s that only love jerks"? No, she will leave that forum/blog. Do you really think that a man that say this kind of things about women deserves a relationship with one?

Yes, that's so true. I think it's because a lot of people say that they hate the stereotypes but they can't live without them, they love them. A friend of mine complains when his girlfriend want to buy clothes with him, but he is very happy with it! He loves to have a typical stereotyped girlfriend and loves to complain about her stereotypes at the same time. It seems that the "battle of sexes" is something that a lot of people enjoy, as if complaining about your stereotyped partner would make your partner more "masculine" or "feminine" than the partners of other people (so you "win" or something like that). I don't know, I'm trying to understand why some people say that they hate the stereotypes but they always try to date one. Right, we'll call them hypocrites

Ha!! Yes!! I've always noticed this exact phenomenon too! Or guys complain about their women ordering them around, or women complain about men who are slobs- but YOU MARRIED THEM so you must have known/liked it ON SOME LEVEL!! ! (OK, to be fair- I have also heard about the not uncommon practice of being on a person's best behavior UNTIL the marriage vows, then ALL HELL of the reality of them breaks loose!!0 but honestly, i agree with you wholeheartedly- a LOT of ppl really just enjoy carping about their SO's Stereotypical behavior. I think its so they can fit in. I think its really lame. My guys never engaged in that silliness and neither would I. I date individuals, not "All men"! !

Ha ha, I remember a first date with a man that thank that he was dating "all women" instead of just me.

Dude: "My (first and last) ex was crazy so I don't want a serious relationship with you".

Ok.

I have good news and bad news.

God news: I agree with you!! !

Bad news: the only person who has talked in this thread (links included) about "all men" or "all women", the only one that has used that phrase... is you



Well, so men that claim are not only whinners, but inmature. And that's not aggresive



This is a excuse, bg, and you know it.



Yeap, but the aggresiveness in a conversation is not measured with regard to what you read out there, but what you read in this conversation.

Funny thing: it's not the first time I have seen a similar thing. Having an argument with a gf, and she being aggresive because there's so much aggresivity out there. And me saying: 'hey, slow down, I don't care, what is out there is just a excuse, it's me who is here'. Coincidence?



Only if they're not true.



Interesting fact: neither me or the articles have said 'all women' neither I have seen the word 'b*****s', neither I have seen stated 'only love jerks'. So I don't know if a woman change her mind listening a guy saying that, basically because I haven't seen here any guy saying that.

What I have seen is you listening to a critic and building in your mind 'all women are self-centered b*****s that only love jerks'.

When women read some men complaining in a forum, they usually relate their arguments to what other men said in other forums or blogs (because they say the same things about women) and there is a related vocabulary from here and there; "nice guys", "jerks", "divas", "b*****s". It doesn't matter if you never said "jerk" or "nice guy" or "diva" or "b*****s", other men with your same argument said those things in other websites, and women relate, because hey, it's the same argument, the same kind of experiences, the same generalizations, etc.

I left a forum because of that two years ago. In fact, practically the 80% of women left that forum. Are you sure that repeating the "truth" will convince women? It's happening just the opposite.

Can we say the last allegation?

I'd just be happy if a woman would consider marrying me. I don't care if she acts feminine or not.

Well, well, slow down, you're doing a big pie with a lot of different things.

# 'Nice guys' and 'women liking jerks'. Yeap, well, that's quite a true. Indeed, I have seen many women acknolewdging it. There's no problem about it, of course. You're free to like whoever you want. Anyway:

(1) After having a 'wild' period and when 30s kicks in, many women become 'maturity' gurus Spreading The Word to the ones that were there quite a time before her. That's not really a problem. Just annoying.

(2) Human behave by punishment / reward. If you reward being an a**hole, you're encouraging this behaviour. Not my problem, of course. But when it comes to gender violence, that has been encouraged by that... suddenly men, in general, we're to blame. That seems to me to want the freedom, but not the responsabilities. You can like whoever you want, but don't blame us for the outcome.

# Men and women roles in a relationship. Different stuff, that's what the article is about.

Sadly true.

Almost all men have his problem its not some and get used to it until things change which they are starting to men and women both want the same thing equality. The difference is that women have had a very very large voice in this you see it in every crappy TV shows commercial advertising movies and news. It is always the same the man is an idiot who fumbles and falls cant make an intelligent and informed decision while the women can almost see the futrue has an MBA in business and masters degree in psychology and sociology even if she is just a house wife. This massive one sided voice is finally making both men and women angry so they are make themselve heard on the internet is the only place for normal people to come and have their voice heard. But instead of trying to listen to this very large new voice and understand why so very many peope from both side are so angry all you do is say the equivalent of meh nih meh nih nih nihmeh nih nih meehhh. The men are whinier what world do you live on where men are whinier than women? What many men and women are trying to do is fight an ideology that makes it so a woman feel every thing they think says do want and feel matters is so important no matter if it destroys the lives of their friends and families while what men think say do and feel is mean ignorant and selfish even if it brings peace and prosperity to their families and friends.You left a forum two years ago becuase you didnt want to listen that just shows that you dont care what the other side has to say even here now you have to listen and no you are wrong about it having just the opposite effect. The world as a whole is seeing the effects of your one sided ideology and all people like you can do is come up with more crazy ideas. Like what Tyri0n said did about asains being worse than western women Iam korean and jewish spent time in china korea thailand and the philippines he is about a 1/8 right asian women arent subserviant little slaves they are intelligent and communicative have their own thoughts and needs you can work problems out with them through reason. Western women no matter what cultural bakeground they come fom are the exact opposite they dont listen to anything that has to do with reason and come up with the most ignorant and delusional ideas as to why you re wrong when you try to reason with them. People the world over come to america the Uk and australia all say the same thing women here are crazy greedy ignorant spoiled whores thats how the majority of people see women in those cultures. You can make up crazy reasons go into denial about it all you want but as you said yourself you cant escape it. So either you realize that there are major social problems and try to listen to people and understand what they are and how to fix them so that we can truly have equality. Or dont and just act like you are victims and insist on more new laws so you dont have listen to a voice of reason and accountability. Either way I dont really care because i dont have to deal with this crazy ignorance never really did thank god for non western women and my korean mom.

Marriage is pointless. I am nineteen and already figured that much out. It is just a government document, a legal contract. It doesn't affect anything. You can do all the same stuff that you would have normally without being married.

The cost! Sometimes I feel like one must win the lottory in order to afford getting married and having kids.