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I hate abs on women. I can't seem to understand what other guys see in women with muscle tone. To me, ANY muscle tone on a female looks masculine, and I'm instantly turned off.

.....I do not intend to offend anyone by this. :X

Oh wow, that's a tough one then ... I'll get back to you, need to call a few of my alien overlord buddies.

You stole mine! Unfortunately that's one quality that most women seem to have in excess.

I was dating a girl 7 years younger than me (21) and nothing annoyed me more than how often she had to say how hot she was. And then she would complain about nobody hitting on her until someone did, then she complained about that. She constantly tries to get into a relationship and is super high maintenance.

Nothing is a bigger turn-off than somebody who wont accept you for who you are or tries to change you just to make there lives easier. I refuse to waste a day of my life doing that for somebody who could leave me at anytime and treat me like an after thought. Unfortunately, its happened before after a solid 2 year relationship. I really wish I could trust people again.

It deters me when guys assume that you want to have sex and their babies not long after you've met them, or early into a relationship.
A lot of people are keen on sex ASAP and are dying to produce some babies.... but not me. Especially the babies. Hell, no.

My ideal wife's physical feature are pale skin, dark hair, and small-chested. Her personality is reserved, shy, quiet, almost anti-social, and sort of scared of everything. All of those things go against the prevailing idea of "good woman" in Florida. Recently, I find it difficult to find women I see out in public attractive, unless they're Asian (I have a thing for Asians, notably Japanese). If I see a woman who is Asian, and appears relatively young, I almost automatically find her attractive. Not sure how attractive Asian women are considered in Florida. Most men here aren't attracted to the shy types they're associated with (whether they actually are or not), though. I also have no desire for sex for several self-sustaining reasons. Nakedness looks ugly, it would make my wife impure, and it's how children are created. I don't want kids, but, even with contraception, the idea of engaging the process that creates children seems like something I should never do under any circumstances.

TL;DR, my ideal wife is Fluttershy from MLP:FiM humanized.

A few I find unattractive~ independence, confidence, hip/trendy/keeps up with current culture or classy, tries to be hot,, outgoing, "fun" like partying. I m sometimes attracted to people who sometimes seem stupid or moronic.

While I'm sure exceptions exist, I can't help but think that when most people say things like "I don't like good looks/confidence/money/etc." that it's just sour grapes, a defense mechanism designed to help individuals learn to be happier with that which they can obtain.

I think a lot of people have a mistaken idea of what genuine confidence looks like. but TBH I was more weirded out by someone saying "independence." I don't understand... you want someone who is dependent on you/someone else? Sorry but as someone who's been manipulated and abused in codependent relationships, I caution that's a real bad attitude.

Anyway I fall into the ranks of those who find big muscles repulsive. Fit/toned is fine, or scrawny, or pudgy, but not "ripped"... abs and pecs and that weird sinewy look people gets...

Oddly I also hate (as far as personal physical attraction) super short hair on dudes, but not on ladies, and not a fan of long hair/ponytails on anyone.

agreed

You know I never thought of it personally. I have very low standards for beauty, for instance girls my friends will often call fat I think will just have a little bit of a bulge around there waist which is no big deal to me, frankly girls who are to small and skinny kinda look unnatural to me. I also don't like girls with cat eye make up that really creeps me out, don't know why it just looks scary to me. Other than that I really don't have any qualms about how a girl dresses, how tan her skin is, or how long or short her hair might be. oh but brightly colored eyes, I love girls with bright colored eyes.

Personality wise I get a little more stingy. I don't like girls who are to outgoing (attention whores) or girls who are to quiet and introverted (possibly crazy). I like a girl who only shows off as much as she needs to not as much as she desires or doesn't desire as the case may be. I don't really have much of an opinion on if a girl is slu*ty or not, I don't approve of the lifestyle but it's not my life to live. I wouldn't want to date a girl or generally be friends with anyone who may drink to much, if they are stoners, like me then that's fine though most stoner girls I've met are really slu*ty. In terms of personality I want a girl who is a nerdy gamer, into sci-fi and fantasy, into mythology, into punk and metal, doesn't crave attention, or be to demanding from life, she can be a stoner or not (if I loved her enough I would quit smoking), and she has to be kind i.e. if I hold the door open for her then she would hold a door open for me.

Well it was good to finally learn what I want out of a girl, this is a very self-reflective post I must say.

I'm dependent myself. I had some problems with codependency in m 1st relationship 10 years ago but now it's interdependence. My 2nd girlfriend was very independent or wanted to be & I felt like I was shutout sometimes or a burden on her & I felt abandoned when she broke up with me because she realized it was better for her not to be in any relationship. I like spending alot of time with my partner & unlike the average Aspie I like talking about feelings & try my best to be emotionally supportive & am more emotionally needy than the average NT. The girlfriend I have now is dependent & it's like we're on the same level & we support each other.

Maybe it is for some, but I don't think it is for most who are responding here. We are predominantly aspies, remember, so we already view the world differently, and that can include how we view people and their qualities.

Lots of confidence and lots of money really honestly are a turn-off for me...I would still get to know someone if they were pursuing me and had attractive qualities as well, because they could be a great match over all, but those two particular traits would be "crosses" against them, unfortunately.

And hey, I love good-looking people, but that's good-looking in my eyes, not the majority of eyes. The men I tend to find good-looking are men that the majority of women would probably describe as "nice looking" but not "hot". The women I find good-looking would probably be described as "too masculine" or "sporty" by the majority of men.

It is hypothesised that aspies are more androgynous than the general population overall, that might be correlated to differences in attraction as well?

Does it look like nervousness, uncertainty, or a hesitant approach? I'm attracted to those things. Not at an extreme level, but enough that I personally wouldn't describe the person as "confident".

I am genuinely interested though, how would you describe what confidence looks like?

I don't like men who are rich, usually. It's not inverted snobbery, it's the mindset of 'I'm unquestionably alpha because bank balance' that some of them get.

I don't like men with no vices. You know: vegan, teetotal, no-caffeine, no drugs, doesn't even take painkillers when they get a headache, etc. Women like that put me off too, but for some reason I find it more annoying in men. I mean, being straight-edge or vegan is fine on their own, but both of them together worries me. A lot of women find these type of men reassuring and like their uprightness, I just want to get them smashed on some substance.

Massive nature lovers - people who can't see any bad things about nature and try to do everything in a natural way (always organic food, herbal medicines, etc.) That line of thinking leads to wanting to cull humans and forsake technology if you follow it to its conclusion.

Not exactly the same people - but devout pagan types who think women are magical because they can push babies out of their vaginas and are possessed with inner-goddesses and shiz. I mean, it's much better than being a macho/misogynist prick, which is why some women like those sort of guys, but I still feel like it reduces me to a biological/mythological role.

People who like animals more than people. This is actually a popular trait to have and a lot of people can relate to it. I can't. Guess I have to give my aspie card back.

I don't like guys who are domineering in bed. It's great to be confident and say what you like, but let me do things my way as well. A lot of girls want a guy who takes the lead, whereas I like to share the microphone, to use a musical analogy.

Guys with nice cars. I don't care about your car.

I don't like a man in uniform.

As for girls - I don't like ones with big boobs on a small body. I really don't like overly feminine women. I hate too much tanning (naturally dark skin is fine, though.) I don't like over-the-top 'sexy' lingerie. I don't like high heels (because I have experience of wearing them.) I don't like manic pixie women or Taylor Swift types. I don't like posh girls (generally considered demure and attractive, but I just can't relate to them.) I don't like geeky-hipster types.

I don't really like hypersexual 17-orgasms-a-session type women because they intimidate me, but I might change my mind if I actually went with one. I don't like women who do erotic dancing and post sexy photos of themselves on the 'net - that's not me being sex-negative, I just don't like attention-seekers. If they're selective with their 'audience' it's fine, but doing it for the general public puts me off.

In a lesbian butch sense, I don't like women who act like teenage boys. Acting like grown men is fine, but I'm not attracted to actual teenage boys, so women who act like them or look like them are a no. The teenage boy thing is considered attractive to people who like butch women. I prefer masculine women who act like gentlemen and are cultured and smart - not one who drinks lager and talks about football and girls they've shagged all the time.

I'm always saying I'm not picky, but I guess there's a lot things that turn me off. I surprised myself by writing this.

And underrated trait: I like a guy/girl who knows their way around a computer. I think it's some biological need to mate with people who know how to use tools. Much more important than muscles or money to me.