Do they deserve you?

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No you cannot be swayed into that. That has happened to me more than once. When I was younger, the girls would say that I am so nice and such a gentleman that they do not deserve me. But I knew it was a lie back then. Why did they do it? I don't know. Because I asked myself, well if I'm such a great guy why would she even consider leaving me in the first place? I thought, maybe she found someone better, she got bored, or just didn't want to be tied down. Or she was actually telling the truth. It can happy to anyone.

First impressions stick in people's minds like glue, it is quasi-impossible to change them.
I am not sure how possible you can significantly change, you can't turn from ugly to drop dead gorgeous or from social hermit to a social butterfly.... the only thing that can be changed much is wealth, if she approaches you only after getting that, kick her ass.

I don't agree that true love is unconditionally stable. If someone loves someone else because of his kindness and sweetness, then something traumatizing happened to that person and his personality radically changed for the worse, becoming extremely abusive to the point of beating the crap out of his lover and cheating on her and such, the first person is no likely to love him as much anymore.

True love requires mutual responsibility from both parties to commit to the relationship and make it work ... and it requires that certain life-altering unfortunate events do not occur to damage it.