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20 Feb 2014, 7:19 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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Meh, I still date people shorter than me, I'm just less comfortable than I would be if they were a bit taller. If I and they are cool with me being a bit uncomfortable, then it's all good.

Shorter guys are going to be more uncomfortable much of the time because they can sense that the girl's not 100% comfortable. They can feed off each other that way.

If women didn't care about guy's height like they do, guys wouldn't care (be on the defensive) about a gal being taller than him.

That's the same as with any trait that can make someone feel that way. E.g. I'm less comfortable around more confident/dominant people, but I'll still date them if we are both okay with the situation.

I don't care about guy's height specifically, remember, I care (or at least am affected by) people's height. Male, female, date, friend, whatever, it's just the way it is, just like I get vertigo when I walk down stairs. I'll still walk down the stairs, but I'll feel uncomfortable. Just something I have to deal with, but my preference is to not walk down stairs if I don't need to. I can't just switch my feelings off and decide that walking down stairs is fun.

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20 Feb 2014, 8:49 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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Meh, I still date people shorter than me, I'm just less comfortable than I would be if they were a bit taller. If I and they are cool with me being a bit uncomfortable, then it's all good.

When was the last time you have dated a female?

I think you are a "too-straight bi".

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20 Feb 2014, 10:48 pm

^ Not sure how this is relevant, but I've been on a couple of dates with females in the last few months, and was seeing a girl for a couple of months late last year...your point is??

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21 Feb 2014, 4:47 am

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^ Not sure how this is relevant, but I've been on a couple of dates with females in the last few months, and was seeing a girl for a couple of months late last year...your point is??

Do you wear high heels?

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21 Feb 2014, 5:27 am

Stalk wrote:

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^ Not sure how this is relevant, but I've been on a couple of dates with females in the last few months, and was seeing a girl for a couple of months late last year...your point is??

Do you wear high heels?

No.

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21 Feb 2014, 7:02 am

After reading a lot of comments made by females here and there, on different sites, I believe that my height is a way greater obstacle in romance than AS or anything else.

Such comments repeat a lot:

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wozzy, perth, Australia, 2 months ago
im 5"7 and I went out with a guy who was the same height but once I got my heels on (and I love wearing my killer heels) he was obviously shorter than me, I was really attracted to him face and personality wise but it just never felt right, my currant boyfriend is the same height as me once ive got my shoes on and that's feels sooo much better and when ive got my shoes off or flats on its lovely because hes taller than me and it just makes me feel more feminine when im with him, so sorry I may be shallow but that's what I like and that prob goes for a lot of women, we like to feel feminine and being with a taller bloke makes us feel like that, oh and also bonus cause my current guy is gorgeous on the outside aswell as on the in, earns a decent wage and looks after me as I do him in other ways

It always goes always like this: "I had a short man .....but it felt wrong....now I have a taller man , and it feels much greater!"

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21 Feb 2014, 7:23 am

http://theheartographer.com/gaming-your-data/

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The average American male is 5’10″ tall. If you’re this height or taller, list your height. If you’re shorter than this height in all brutal honesty; game the data—strategically leave the height field blank, but also leave other elements in that sidebar o’ metadata blank. (You know; the box on the upper right of most profiles, usually light blue, containing traits like your western Zodiac sign and your income and whether you smoke or like dogs or what have you.) You heard me: leave it ALL BLANK. This sends a subconscious message that you either deliberately or unknowingly skipped that entire section; perhaps even that you’re too cool for that section. Fill out the rest of your profile in a way that also breaks some rules—indicate what you do for a living in a field about your favorite activities; confess your food preference in the section about what you’re looking for in a partner. Mix it up and trick the system. You’ll still seem candid, because you’re answering important questions (and doing so in a witty and personality-filled tone that forges a connection despite any core data that appears to be missing). Trust me. Give this a try before you input any height data, and let the conversation evolve naturally. (Be honest if you’re directly asked, but also be damn charming in the rest of that message.) When it comes to searches, consider doing advanced searches for women your height and shorter. Unless you have a fetish for taller women, it’s more logical to target a range that is likely to be receptive to your height.

So basically she's following MadeUnderground's sister's logic: Hiding the negatives.

Maybe some can try it.

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21 Feb 2014, 7:24 am

Maybe one should scratch/wreck his legs, wait till flesh-eating bacteria comes to infiltrate, have them cut off to prevent further infection and replaced by prosthetics => taller!!

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21 Feb 2014, 8:04 am

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Maybe one should scratch/wreck his legs, wait till flesh-eating bacteria comes to infiltrate, have them cut off to prevent further infection and replaced by prosthetics => taller!!

If you are already into extremes, you simply can choose to do the already existing "leg-length" beauty OP, that some asian woman do, to look like Manga dolls.

Your legs get broken, and then similar to teeth braces, you get some mechanics implanted to slowly widen the legs, while your body is inserting bone material between the broken spot. If you go into the extreme you need to avoid skirts/short trousers afterwards, because it really looks weird. O_o And its extremely hurtful.

Personally I think, that simply giving a f**k about woman, rejecting you out of such nonsense reasons, is far easier.

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21 Feb 2014, 8:27 am

http://theheartographer.com/gaming-your-data/ via The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I don’t care how important it is to you that someone love dogs, or not have children from a prior marriage: the bar should be equivalent to what you’d know about them if they asked you out in line for coffees. You have enough time to know your initial “could there be an attraction here?” response, and you can check to see if they have a wedding ring or an enormously inappropriate erection or no shoes or deodorant. Basic “are you a reasonable human to go on one date with” metrics.

... What? How does one have the most remote idea of if there could be an attraction based on data inferred by a person standing in line for coffee, or any clue if this person is a reasonable human being? I don't see how it serves as a basis to know if someone is an okay person worth dating.

Things known about a girl in line at Starbucks:
1. She probably likes coffee.
2. She has enough money to buy Starbucks coffee.
3. She owns an iPhone.
4. ???

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21 Feb 2014, 8:45 am

Those "rules" are for NTs.

For me, I like to know something about a guy before I will agree to meet him in person. Back when I could drink, the alcohol functioned as a social lubricant and allowed me to meet and converse with relative strangers in a social setting. Now that I don't (can't) drink, in normal social settings, I might as well be a lamp or a chair if I am surrounded by strangers and/or mere acquaintances. It's much easier for me to talk to someone if I know something about them and their interests.

That blank profile suggestion is inane. Men who don't fill out those basics get an automatic pass from me. It indicates to me that they can't read and/or follow instructions, or are too self-absorbed to pay attention to the guidelines. None of those things are attractive.

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21 Feb 2014, 11:05 am

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Those "rules" are for NTs.

Your point? They are supposedly the 99% of women!

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21 Feb 2014, 11:43 am

I guess it depends on whether you just want to "date" or if you want to have a meaningful relationship. If the goal is just to go on an endless stream of one-date meetings (or to get laid), then go for it. If "normal" women are that shallow, and that doesn't offend you, I wish you the best. I think there are probably a lot more undiagnosed Aspie-like women in the world than any of us realize. We're harder to diagnose because of our evolutionarily-programmed nurturing abilities. Look how many years it took for me to be diagnosed.

In any case, the random dating thing totally would not work for me, and I hear from a lot of the men on here that that's not what they're looking for either.

So, my question is: do you want to maximize your chances of getting somebody, ANYbody, to go out with you once, or do you want to meet someone who could potentially be a lifetime partner? Your desired goal should determine your methods.

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21 Feb 2014, 12:07 pm

O you who call "normal" women shallow, what right given upon thee to call them so? you yourself would dismiss men for things like height; do not claim you have a deeper spirit while yours is not that better!

Wow that sounded so. ..biblical.

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21 Feb 2014, 12:14 pm

Note that I said "if" they are that shallow.....as YOU claimed, not me! It ain't me bitchin' about 'em - I'm not the one trying to get in their pants. :lol:

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21 Feb 2014, 12:27 pm

^ Yet you deliberately made it sounds as if your species, the AS women, are less shallow.
The height obsession is a shallow thing common in most women, true, and it's not me saying it but studies are confirming it. But hey, why you are talking as if you are any better? Making yourself better than "random dates"? You're shallow in that matter too.

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