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Need help. I live in a small complex of flats and recently a bunch of guys moved into a flat opposite. One of them I feel is trying to mess with me psychologically, I think because he wants to sleep with me(??). He knows I have a boyfriend. He deliberately walked on my balcony talking about me on the phone to somebody one night when he knew I was inside, saying stuff like he thought I had heart/he wanted to get to know me/etc. I barricaded my balcony off with chairs after that, but today he talked to me in the street when we ran into each other both walking home and I didn't know how to ignore him (felt forced to respond out of basic politeness). Tonight at 11:20pm (yes, THAT late) he knocks insistently on my door and I stupidly answered it (I shouldn't have answered the door, it was dumb of me). And he tried to invite me downstairs to have Nepalese food with him and his friends. I explained several times to him that it was really late and I would rather he didn't knock on my door after 9pm at the latest. Then he kept talking about being lonely because his gf was overseas (pretty sure he may have made his gf up) and saying that I was lonely (despite me repeating over and over that I have a boyfriend and am NOT lonely). Was being suggestive in saying that we could be friends so 'we' would be less lonely, didn't have to be in a relationship, could just be "friends" (pretty sure I know what kind of "friendship" he is hoping for). Was very insistent that I come over tomorrow night and have dinner. I don't know how to shake him off, he is really persistent and has this overly friendly manner (which makes it really hard to be rude to him).

I know that this is a social situation that can be resolved but I'm kind of stuck at the moment because I'm worried about being super rude/nasty as I have to live next to this guy. I don't want to make enemies then have to live next to them but atm I'm kind of stuck for other options. help! Any advice/suggestions are welcome.