Why dating sites are BS

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Just in case you change your mind I'll respond to part of your post above.

Ignore the colour of the dots. Pretty sure mine is red, but I reply to anyone I'm interested in. By ignoring red dotted people you are saying you don't want to date someone who is selective! That sounds odd to me.

I would ignore you and not just because of the red dot.

Pretty sure you sent me a message!

But anyway, I would hope that people who were not interested in me would ignore me. Why send me a message if not interested?

I was certainly drunk.

Personally, I've had more success messaging people who have the "red" dots by their name than the yellow/green. Someone with a red dot may just get spammed with a bunch of "hey hru?"'s or "baby u fin efo real"'s. With that said, I don't message people who are clearly "highly selective", because I know that they're apt to tell me off if I so much as blink in a manner that doesn't fit their perceptions of an ideal man. I'd rather put my effort towards someone who's a bit less stringent.

Still done with online dating but very good point. I guess even mine would be yellow even though I usually reply to anything more than "you are tall". Theres selective but online women generally have sky high and unreasonable expectations. Even ol super fussy me doesn't come close to that!

Well if they are selective then they are very very very unlikely to pick ugly me. This has been proven thru hundreds and hundreds of attempts. Early on I was full of silly confidence and joy that was beaten out of me the last year. There is also a 99% connection between pretty thin women and the Red color. probably a 80% connection with red and extreme pickness when it comes to job, car, house, looks of the man is required to have to contact them. It is unfortunate that they make up 95% of the women in my area. My hidden users has like 2k of them in it.

I only don't hide green users but at this point I'm too terrified to message them anymore(they're still thin/gorgeous and picky, but I guess they have the decently to reply to messages and tell them no at least.)

I sure hope they all find someone, I just know I'm not good enough for them. I leave the reds to the few attractive rich guys in my area(we're a poor area mixed with a big university town) Actually I wonder if they would not be better creating a UofO specific dating site since their ideal match would be an attractive university student not on of the poor min wage guys that are often found in my town(if they have a job at all with the high unemployment) though I also wonder why a person who doesn't plan to live here would seek a LTR. It would seem better to wait til after college when they settle down in their new state.

bit more then I intended, but related thoughts I have on the matter. Sorry

Never mind.

Last edited by Yuzu on 23 Apr 2014, 2:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

lol I told a guy on okcupid that I was too intimidated to meet him because he was too good looking.

Whoops.

Dunno if he'll bother now. Oh well. He's way too attractive for a site like that.

Wow....wish I had that problem. With me, women don't seem to want to meet me because of my living situation or my fear of dogs or my lack of knowing how to drive...or my ability to name almost all 749 Pokemon without looking lol

You should spend your times on applying for jobs instead, you're in no shape or form to be a relationship material in the vast majority of women's eyes if you're unemployed, no matter how nice, good looking or big-dicked you are, especially on dating sites where there are much more men than women.

Is there a place in those online dating profiles for stating how big one's dick is, or is that optional information?

They should add that option on okc.

Apparently, there's a dating site for every thing. http://www.sizeminded.com

Oh, that was you In all seriousness if someone said this to me I would cancel my plans for that evening and insist we go out that evening. Quite a refreshing change from the narcissistic profiles I am used to seeing of women who all think being 300+lbs still means they are playboy models.

I would REALLY like to know why women keep making BS excuses not to meet for a first date. Someone mentioned on another board that being tall, intense and 'very' friendly with rigid posture sets of alarms and I don't know if that's the case but how would they know that without meeting? It's not like they broke off contact: they stayed in touch but kept making laughably stupid excuses and when I would offer a specific date, time and place (say the local mall at 2pm on Saturday) they would go completely silent rather than offer an alternative. This is especially bizarre when THEY initiate contact and keep the conversation going. WTF?

My Ex did say she put off meeting because I seemed way too good to be true compared to what those sites generally offer but I have no idea if other women would say the same thing. Either way, if someone as supposedly good as me can't get a response, the average relationship minded guy is completely screwed. Again, I repeat that I feel I am writing an exam that I have to get at least a 98% on to pass. WAY too much pressure to relax and have fun! That's not even mentioning the fact I never once saw a single female mention what they have to offer a partner: even ridiculously fussy employers in this economy provide that information!

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Good luck.

If I had to guess, I'd say it's because most women over college age have encountered enough men with over-inflated egos that they assume that a "too good to be true" profile is most likely a pack of lies. Seriously, you should see the horrendously ugly, overweight men that I see in my age bracket, whose greatest accomplishment in life is to have been a sperm donor to produce kids who lived long enough to provide him with grandchildren, and who describe themselves as "successful, fit and good-looking." Most of them also say somewhere in their profile that they are looking for <their personal description of arm candy>. If *those* guys think they deserve a brilliant, kind, and funny supermodel, what do the average-looking (or better) guys think *they* deserve? It's intimidating.