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Jono
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29 May 2014, 10:43 am

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So, I've been chatting online with someone on OKCupid again. Except this time, she had contacted me first. We eventually organised a date and even exchanged phone numbers. The date was organised for last Sunday. I tried to confirm the day before, when she answered but the phone cut out. After that, I couldn't get hold of her again and then I went to the agreed place and time and waited like an idiot for about half an hour an she never showed up. This about the second time this has happened where someone has dropped out at the last minute. Why is this happening?


BUT she contacted you first...this could've been a middle-schooler playing a joke. They drop out the last minute because they NEVER had any intention of going on the date. I caught my niece who is 12 doing things like this and laughing her head off about it. She did this to one of her teachers because the idiot was overheard talking about these websites to another teacher. Poor guy.
She had him believing she was a nice Christian, an R.N., 30 years old, family oriented and pretty. She was in actuality a snotty little kid who got bored and decided to have a little fun. See what I mean?? If these kids are older and driving a car, a whole group will pull up around where you agreed to meet and laugh, comment, and then post on the teen websites about you!! You pic might even end up on somewhere embarrassing. Man, you're taking a chance.
Normal, sincere adult people don't bail out the last minute. Only tricksters do...or worse, delusional married women who are married to brutes who will put you in the hospital.


I don't think it's all that dangerous. When I meet them, I usually meet them at first in a public place, like a coffee shop in a mall, anyway. Yes, I know that there are also scams and such but I'm mindful of that and I'd stop contacting them if anyone had asked me to send them money for example. Also, people aren't technically allowed to have a profile on OKCupid if they're under 18 as per the site rules, so you could flag their profile if you found out that they are and they'd be banned from the site.



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29 May 2014, 6:48 pm

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Honestly mate, you're better off working on yourself. Take care of the big things (job, diet, exercise) and the little things will start to take care of themselves. Flaking will never stop being annoying, but it will happen to you less often so it won't be such a big deal. Sod online dating. Just my humble opinion :)


That doesn't work. I've done that my whole life and I've never gotten a date as a result of it. Honestly, the most success I've had was from online dating.


What exactly do you mean when you say that online dating has given you the "most success?".



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01 Jun 2014, 3:28 pm

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Honestly mate, you're better off working on yourself. Take care of the big things (job, diet, exercise) and the little things will start to take care of themselves. Flaking will never stop being annoying, but it will happen to you less often so it won't be such a big deal. Sod online dating. Just my humble opinion :)


That doesn't work. I've done that my whole life and I've never gotten a date as a result of it. Honestly, the most success I've had was from online dating.


What exactly do you mean when you say that online dating has given you the "most success?".


I meant that I've never ever gotten a date by interacting with women in real life. I did manage to at least get a few dates by interacting with them on OKCupid.