Sexism on L&D

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The woman asked Brian, in essence, "Do you do that to all your friends?" Then the woman stated, in essence, that what occurred wasn't welcome. It was communication between friends. I sense that it was "over" once the woman communicated what she wanted to communicate. I don't sense that she wanted to lose the friendship of Brian.

Friendships are like that. Not everything is honky-dory all the time. Friendships endure much worse things than what occurred here.

I cant believe the Salt and Vinegar chips are still being passed in this thread.

*chows on some Sweet Chili Heat Doritos*

What I am appalled in in these forums is not just the bullying, and I made reference to it in a previous thread and I know I got ignored there too. I notice that threads that are meant to be positive usually go ignored or don't receive as much attention. Yet a thread that has negativity in it brings nothing but attention (ie, gender or flame wars for example). Tells me that a lot of people are miserable. I refrain from getting involved a lot and usually skip a lot of threads that go beyond 6 pages. I do my best to help those who need help and I simply do it without thinking too much about it. These are the people I come here for: The ones that genuinely ask for help.

Well, we know where Alex and the moderators stand on what was done to Brian.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp6123977.html#6123977

The board rules already prohibit "sexist language", so I'm not sure what this thread is even about. If you're talking about a change to how that's defined then you need to be more specific. Much, much more specific.

In my view, sexism is far from the biggest issue in this sub-forum. People derailing threads and starting "arguments" (to put it nicely) where the OP clearly isn't looking for one is a far bigger problem.

At the end of the day, though, this thread will make no difference whatsoever. Alex probably won't even read it, let alone do anything about it.

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Yeah, parsing what the ToS really means in a longtime hobby of mine, and I'll let you in on a little secret; it's almost entirely at the discretion of the moderators, which means whatever the current consensus with them is. The current trouble is that Alex has decided that he'd like a light touch with sexism, with an emphasis on community pressure rather than punitive moderation for anything that's not unambiguous and blatant, and some people object to that. Now personally, I'd like to see a similar approach applied to the site as a whole, as I believe that the remedy for negative speech is more speech, not censorship, but I seem to be in the minority here in that regard.

Specificity is a real problem too, I've tried in vain for pages at a time to get examples of this "pervasive sexism" out of the rule change proponents, to no avail, despite their demands that anyone making any claim whatsoever provide detailed citations, which sort of reinforces my own feeling that this is more about dictating "acceptable" opinions and suppressing "unacceptable" ones than it is about creating a safe space or such.