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13 Jul 2015, 2:48 am

i do think what she said is abit mean. but try to remember shes still an fellow aspie. I don't want to start some movment against her.

we also need more mods not less. though I am unsure why she said such a harse thing, maybe shes having a bad day :S

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13 Jul 2015, 3:19 am

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i do think what she said is abit mean. but try to remember shes still an fellow aspie. I don't want to start some movment against her.

we also need more mods not less. though I am unsure why she said such a harse thing, maybe shes having a bad day :S

A fellow aspie should be more understanding of involuntary social isolation and loneliness, but she is not, she insults those people instead by lumping them with non-worthiness.

And therefore, she should not be a moderator here.

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13 Jul 2015, 3:37 am

I don't see anything that could be regarded as an insult. Granted, I remember back in the day, getting told that I wasn't time-worthy was certainly something that I had found to be inconsiderate from people who were supposed to be running the show, but those statements were directly directed towards me personally, whilst in this case the mod is just making a generally sweeping statement, not directing it to any individual in particular.

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sly279 wrote:

i do think what she said is abit mean. but try to remember shes still an fellow aspie. I don't want to start some movment against her.

we also need more mods not less. though I am unsure why she said such a harse thing, maybe shes having a bad day :S

A fellow aspie should be more understanding of involuntary social isolation and loneliness, but she is not, she insults those people instead

And therefore, she should not be a moderator here.

You should be glad that it's not addressed specifically towards you. I make general-sweeping statements all the time myself, such as how « the humans » are incredibly stupid on average, but that is just my general opinion on the general state of your average human-intellect (not that I wasn't a part of the problem of stupidity myself back in the day & for all I know I might even still be quite the dumb-ass up to this very day).

I also like to make sweeping statements that covers « all the pretty young ladies » (partly from having transformed from what was once a player-hater into a womaniser myself & all) and how I always seem to enjoy hugging (amongst other « interesting » activities if you know what I mean... :wink:

) them all !

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13 Jul 2015, 3:46 am

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whilst in this case the mod is just making a generally sweeping statement, not directing it to any individual in particular.

Oh but her being a mod, that's exactly the problem.

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13 Jul 2015, 4:00 am

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whilst in this case the mod is just making a generally sweeping statement, not directing it to any individual in particular.

I wonder if the same statement about a different group would be judged the same.

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13 Jul 2015, 6:24 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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XFilesGeek wrote:

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Fnord wrote:

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I didn't act desperate, I was doing something that I enjoyed, I didn't stare, and I wasn't bothering anyone. At the time, I was also young, fit, healthy, and had a little extra spending cash.. Those must be the key qualities.

Definitely! Build your own self up and make yourself feel complete and happy with yourself, then you will be worth dating.

But it's so much easier to stay at home and do nothing except complain on-line about how all women are meanies ...

:roll:

That's sarcasm, by the way ...

This. My personal experience is that there's a direct negative correlation between people who do all their "socializing" from behind a computer screen, and people who are worth getting to know.

explain? are you say nerds or introverts are not worth getting to know?

Nerds and introverts with absolutely nothing going on in their lives and who make no effort to be interesting to other people are not worth getting to know.

To get women interested, a man must first be interesting to women. I know of no woman who has ever expressed interest in an introverted nerd who spends all of his free time in front of a monitor, complaining about how no women ever show interest in him. These men would do better to log off, shut down the computer, stand up, take a shower, put on clean clothes, and go out into the world and find something to do that interests the kind of women they want to attract. And no, women are not attracted to nerdy guys who stare at their breasts and mumble a few lines they saw on a PUA website ... :roll:

One has to get out of comfort zone sometimes to know new people, that's true, and I don't think anyone would dispute that. My issue is with XFiles describing them as not worthy.

No, your issue seems more related with the fact that a Moderator is expressing a personal opinion. I agree with XFilesGeek - nerds and geeks with absolutely nothing going on in their lives are not worth getting to know.

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13 Jul 2015, 6:36 am

Yes, my issue is because Xfiles is a mod, and a mod with such views on a big portion of people here.

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13 Jul 2015, 6:55 am

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sorry we can't all be cowboys , mountain climbers, rescue operators, fire men, police, military or some toher interesting thing.

None of which are required for being "interesting to other people.

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whatever. you and such judgmental people are best not to know too.I dont' want to know somoene that thinks because somene spends a lot of time in front of one screen or another they'll a suck person. for that matter why are you on here? sitting in your homes looking at this screen go get out and go to a in person support group.

You mean like judging 50% of the human race as "too picky" and "shallow" for not wanting to go out with you?

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willing to bet most aspies are invovet on pc types. we suck at being social, the internet solved that for a lot of us and lets us be social for first times in our lifes and you nag on us for it.

No, I'm saying that, in my experience, boring people are boring, and if you want other people to be interested in you, you need to make an effort to be interesting.

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13 Jul 2015, 6:58 am

Boring to you, boring is relative.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:05 am

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You really should be de-moded. Even fact, isn't modding a forum is too-behind-the-screen activity? It isn't a real "Job" the same way how talking to people online isn't real socializing.

Feel free to PM Alex about it.

Me expressing a personal opinion that, in order to be interesting to other people, you need to actually put in the time and effort to be interesting isn't really a de-modding offense, however. Yes, learning social skills is hard work, but you're also not going to learn them hiding behind a screen.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:10 am

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Boring to you, boring is relative.

Indubitably.

But, since I see the exact same people come back here year after year, complaining about the same issues, again and again, I'm guessing my definition of "boring" isn't just limited to myself.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:12 am

This is not how you worded.

This how you said it:

"there's a direct negative correlation between people who do all their "socializing" from behind a computer screen, and people who are worth getting to know. "

It is crystal clear, it includes all the people who don't have friends in real life; and probably online have online friend - and that's a big portion of WP members.

You can't tell if they are doing efforts or not, maybe they are doing efforts but all in vain, maybe their online "socializing" is part of this effort in order to get friends for real.

Maybe they are jobless, maybe they are severally autistic ....you can't tell of their circumstances; and you failing to see this and to understand and sympathize this, means that you are not eligible to be a representative of an autism community.

I don't believe in online friendship myself, but calling those who engage in it are NOT WORTHY to know is an asshole-move.

You are free to keep viewing them like this and to word them too, but if you have any self-dignity, you would resign your mod status.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:15 am

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To get women interested, a man must first be interesting to women. I know of no woman who has ever expressed interest in an introverted nerd who spends all of his free time in front of a monitor, complaining about how no women ever show interest in him. These men would do better to log off, shut down the computer, stand up, take a shower, put on clean clothes, and go out into the world and find something to do that interests the kind of women they want to attract.

And no, women are not attracted to nerdy guys who stare at their breasts and mumble a few lines they saw on a PUA website ... :roll:

Precisely.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:19 am

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in order to be interesting to other people, you need to actually put in the time and effort to be interesting

Unless you're extroverted.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:21 am

The amount of fighting going on on this site is getting ridiculous.

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13 Jul 2015, 7:22 am

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I know how I worded it and I stand by what I said.

Boring people are boring.

And I'm not resigning as a mod because you decided to throw a hissy fit.

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