Top 10 Reasons You Can't Get A Girlfriend

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I don't really need a list, I might not be the best looking most well groomed guy plus I'm short but I know it is the social disability more than anything else. Some things you can change but certain things you can't, I try not to have expectations of other people.

Yeah, I was about to mention that. A lot of these seem to be the same point, just worded differently.

I'd just like to make this point about number 3 though: trying to go after different types of girls won't really help. Unlike others here, I'm a pious believer in the concept of dating leagues. I only go after girls that are inside my own league in terms of looks, and don't have any more success with them than other guys who try to get with "preppy cheerleader types". It doesn't really matter, mostly for two reasons:

1. We live in an age where virtually every girl who isn't hideously deformed thinks she's f*****g Jennifer Lawrence, and society never really bothers beating those delusions of grandeur out of their heads until it's way too late.

2. Girls are a fairly homogeneous lot in terms of what they find attractive in men. So even the few women who aren't under the delusion that their next coming of Helen of Troy and might actually share some of your interests aren't really attracted to you because you don't fit their mold of "what a man should be".

1. I am a straight female
2. Already seeing someone....lol

So determine ways in which you 'suck' and try to fix some of them....

Your profile says you're 25....thus your family sounds like bad news, have you been doing anything to work towards getting away from them? IDK its just usually never good when a family is trying to prevent an adult from doing normal life things such as dating or going out with friends or becoming more responsible/independent. I just hope for your sake you can get away from that and not have to hide it when you have a girlfriend.

I'm 25 and I still don't have my first "real" job. Until then, I am still living with my family. My sister does not want a boyfriend and expects me to do the same.

Crap wouldn't let me edit last post, anyways saw your other post, that is certainly a hard situation...and admittedly I still live at my moms and she's kind of held me back in some ways but not as bad. We do have an understanding I am an adult and she cannot dictate my life, but doesn't keep her from sort of trying . Hopefully you can find a job, also perhaps talk to any friends you have who may be looking to move since most people anymore have to live with parents/family or room-mates, getting your very own place can be difficult but moving away from your family sounds like it should be top priority.

There are very common reasons why aspies can't get a relationship. Here it goes:

1. Being negative about everything, especially towards to opposite sex. Negativity scares people away.

2. You are desperate; asking out too often, asking for sex in creepy way.

3. NTs has their own personal problems too, that doesn't mean you are alone in this situation. He/she may be not ready to be with anyone yet.

4. You are going to wrong places, especially being a hermit at your home too often! Intentionally, yes. Going out means developing a network with people and friends.

5. Personal hygiene and clothing. If you wear same bland clothes with dirtiness, that is unattractive. Shower, brush teeth, groom your hair and spray your body every single day!

For myself, why I can't get a girlfriend its because that:

1. Majority of my NT friends are single and are not looking for a relationship.

2. Yes, I am going to wrong places. But this doesn't mean it will be forever.

3. We all have personal problems, like wise myself about trust and honesty. But NT people still do a same thing.

4. I used to be negative kind of person, like 'why I can't get a relationship' and that etc. Now I don't talk about that anymore.

So. The only solution to this problem is to stop talking about romance and try avoid negativity. This puts us aspies into bad reputation.

Only one reason and that is having a neurological disorder esspecially autism, most NT women flee from that and dont want to deal with the extra maintenence involved, it drains them emotionally and physically and they dont want so called ret*d babies, this is how society sees it and It may seem harsh but it is true.

Nt men aren't that thrilled by it either.

Actually, it's not inevitable that an autistic person/NT person union will produce someone who is autistic. Many times, NT babies result, actually.

My wife kind of keeps me from having girlfriends.

We are looking at emotion challenges for everyone including NTs. Like some NT male friends they don't have anyone it because they don't understand women and probably doesn't look either. I think they are like us aspie males too. But with aspieness it just a delay in communication, it doesn't mean it won't be fixed.

NT women love aspie guys, yes I am saying this, its because of desirability. Think about it. Why you are a good guy?

To the OP:

Congratulations! You have just qualified to write magazine articles, please take your desk churn out more of this.

I want them on my desk each morning. I don't care if you have to come up with something on the way into work or whatever, so long as you get it done.

I want an advice column with combination of mind-numbingly obvious and over-simplistic observations.

BTW just stick to the lists, not to many personal anecdotes, nor try to be a humorist. That's not our audience.

Last edited by 0_equals_true on 08 Sep 2015, 6:38 pm, edited 2 times in total.

As far as I am concerned, they might as well be. The only thing telling me I'm supposed to find top-models exceptionally attractive is ... their status as top-models. I've never seen a reason to pay them much attention anyway to bother calculating how much more or less attractive they are than the female peers you see regularly. I've always been much more interested in the latter, as only they seemed to belong to my world, so to speak. I guess I like women better than goddesses.

On the other hand, I'm not sure this is a good thing, because apparently the last thing women want to be seen as is approachable. I guess "approachable" is more or less the same as "a slut".



Noöne has to beat anything out of their heads. If they prefer to be alone rather than with any of their suitors, it's their right to do so.



So they are perfectly justified in thinking so much of themselves, because, on average, they really are that much more desirable than us.

If you don't find top-models any more attractive than just plain average women, then they hold no special status for you. Needless to say, you're in the minority vis-à-vis most men in that regard.[/quote]

Top-models' status comes from their looks, not the other way around.



Not exactly. You see, women view themselves as a reflection of the man they're with, and they know men don't even bother approaching a woman unless they consider her to be within his league (otherwise, they know he knows he has not chance of getting with her), so when a woman is approached by an unattractive, low-value man she takes it as an insult because it implies he views her as being a low-value woman.



Desirable in what way though? Yes, it's true, even an ugly woman can get laid virtually any time she wants with almost any man she wants, but so what? Women don't really care about sex, no matter how much they may claim otherwise. They don't measure their own self-worth through sex the way most men do, and overall, it's just not a very important aspect in their lives.

What women really want is status. And to get status from a man, a woman needs to get commitment. Hence the (wrong) popular belief that women what women really want is commitment. They don't, they want status, commitment is just the means by which they attain. Commitment from a low-status male is worthless to them because it doesn't up their own status in any way, but I digress...

The point is women don't care about sex. And if you're an average or below-average woman, that's the only thing you'll get by trying to go after men way above your league: sex.