Online dating is hopeless.

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I prefer real life dating. That way, I can gage the person's personality and reactions.

Haha, amusing spat between phenomenon and lowfreq50 there. I would have thought that placing a profile on a website for the sake of it and not responding to anyone as being "less" ethical. The main purpose of using one of these sites is essentially to contact people of interest or let them contact you. Due to the sheer number of profiles out there on the internet I really don't think it matters if you ignore people and are just there to "observe". However this is up to the individual user and you can do whatever you want. Personally if I went the whole hog with posting pictures and profiles etc. and someone contacted me I would at least respond to them.

lowfreq50 I don't think you made your reason for being offended by phenomenon's actions clear enough. Perhaps if you did you would have recieved a less caustic response.

kind of depends on how many messages you get though, no? And the messages themselves?
I got two PM's recently. One the scam and the other was someone probably just looking to cyber (and quite possibly male). I responded to both, but I sure wouldn't have felt too bad blocking either of them.

I don't agree with lowfreq50 's opinion , the user doesn't need to reply to emails BUT I agree with him that it's being so rude to call him dick or ass because we don't agree with him

phenomenon , you are rude and impolite and your vocab is not suitable for a lady at all but it's suitable for a hooker

I just don't seem to have anything in common with anyone I see on online dating sites.

Nearly all the people I come across who have similar interests and beliefs are on online Aspie groups--and finding another Aspie to date is nearly impossible.

Tim

Enough with the insults already! far out.

Tim, find yourself an easygoing NT. Seriously if you want a woman so bad then look at other options. They do exist.

If you want cheap sex, you go to a frat party and look for the most drunk girl there. It's evil, yes I know, but if sex is all you want...

Of course, I'll give everyone the benefit of the doubt and assume that for the most part you're looking for a partner, friend, someone to turn to in time of strife, and every other cliche. I really don't know what to say, which is why I started this thread in the first place. Mainly, that online dating is just not working at all for me.

It can also be very dangerous. That's why I steer clear of the Internet as a dating service. If I did use one, it would be one that brings together fellow cat lovers.

Prior to using online date sites, I had no big experience with DATING whatsoever. The good news is that in the course of me using OKcupid, I went out on about four dates. One of them went nowhere (with her insisting I'd be her 'friend' even though she made no attempt to actually communicate with me again), the other had some serious ex-boyfriend issues that she dumped on me, the third was just callous and rude about my background (went to Romania, hated Romanians) and the fourth is currently a good friend of mine (I admitted I had a crush I her and wanted to continue dating, but she did not feel the same in return). After that, I swore off online dating, feeling that I did not have the patience to wait a whole month to set up one date, or to put myself out constantly to write good emails only to meet with empty or no responces.

So far, I've had 2 actual "dates" with people I've meet in real life, and due to the fact that said people weren't living here, I couldn't actually continue them (before anyone asks, the 'dates' were impromptu, without prior knowledge more or less). The rest haven't gone anywhere because even when I got phone numbers, the people never actually called back, or weren't being honest.

I'd hate to go back to online dating, because it means I'd have to admit defeat and have to wade through the same kind of crap all over again. I don't like how people behave towards one another when it comes to courtship, and I enjoy it even less when the rules of online dating apply. People, for good reasons or whatever, are already bad with being honest one another and it just exaggerates those tendancies online.

Perhaps you are correct. But I see LePetitPrince has already summed it all up.

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I don't have the social skills to convince anyone from the internet that it would be a good idea to meet me. I can get lots of good looking girls to add me on sites like Myspace, but I do NOT have the social skills to take the relationship any further. Its frustrating. I'm going to be single the rest of my life and its not like I'm ugly or literally ret*d ( I have a slightly above average IQ. Nothing to brag about, but nothing all that bad either). I am just socially ret*d.

I find social capability not a function of straight-up IQ. I'm quite smart; MENSA-material actually (though one could debate whether getting a good WAIS-III score really constitutes intellect =P). I just turn to butter around females I'm attracted to; I can hold conversations with them but can't really see myself being "you know, maybe we need to hang out sometime." I just fall apart thinking of it.

If you don't have an attractive pic you can forget about it. Online dating may be even more shallow than face-to-face dating because of the enormous volume of contacts that women receive on the more popular sites. 100s a day in some cases.

I don't think that Asperger's is a factor in the begining (unless you mention it in your profile). People will general find something to enjoy about you IF they find you good looking.

personally i hate any situation were i am suppose to hit on somone.

meaning that dates never seem to go to well

i think it`s just to muche pressure.

People are shallow...I blame Disney for giving every "I wish I were a princess" unrealistic expectations. I was thinking of one day hosting a Disney Smash-a-thon, where we gather piles of Disney VHS and DVDs and smash the VHS tapes with a sledgehammer, and use the DVDs for skeet-shooting. True, the DVDs might be a bit hard to hit if they're so thin, so just glue some on top of one another. I'd be like "Pull!" and the unholy combination of Sleeping Beauty/Snow White/Beauty and the Beast/Cinderella superstack would be fired into the air to the waiting sights of my 12-gauge. Yum!

I've seen online dating work - two of my friends met and dated online for three years, then decided to both go to the same University. They have one of the strongest relationships I've seen in anyone around my age. I guess it's a rare case, though.