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Okay. XD

You look very attractive! I would totally approach you and try to become your friend, but I would get too shy and nervous to confess my attraction to you

If you're sixteen, you shouldn't be going around posting your pictures online like that. Believe me, I know from experience. Bad, bad, bad idea. You don't need to be possibly attracting the wrong kind of people.

You are too trusting.

You look fine. Attractive enough to attractie plenty of guys. The looks are not your problem.

Yeah, there's lots of people who'd be happy to try to take advantage of someone like you unfortunately. It's a good idea to at least treat things with caution, or just take down your pics.

I agree.

And I remember when I was 16. I really wanted a boyfriend too and didn't have one. Looking back on it, it was OK that I didn't have because I was in fact really young.
It's not weird to be 16 and not have a boyfriend. I know many attractive girls who didn't have their first boyfriend until after high school. Some people make it look like it is such a big deal. Ridiculous of you ask me.
Sometimes patience is the key word.

I was going to give you a straight up honest answer, but on a whim I decided to read through the last four pages of comments, most of which are almost all one liners, and I'm glad that I did. Seeing how my opinion varies significantly from all the others, had I went through with what I originally intended to write, I would very likely have started an opinion war. Which would only have resulted in me getting violently shivved over and over again, repeatedly. Even just saying this is probably ruffling some feathers.

Instead, I will simply say that your level of attractiveness is more than high enough to qualify you for what the Americans call jailbait, which I've always seen interpreted as a compliment on American films/television shows.I can just see Kyle Katarn's response now...

I will just say, that from about age 13-19, I went online and naively flirted with much older men, sent them my pictures, gave them personal information, and even sent a few rather inappropriate pictures at the request of one.

I unknowingly put myself in danger. Many of these guys (probably most) were not harmless as I had thought at the time. It wasn't until I was older that I realized how much danger I'd been in or that some of these guys were predators.

I was really, really dumb. I felt like I knew everything, and that I was completely mature and could take care of myself. Yes, I was jailbait, and thankfully I didn't end up dead, because I could've easily.

I went online to socialize because that was the only way that I felt comfortable. The older guys were really interested, and I felt flattered. Many of them were in their 30s, 40s or 50s. They knew how old I was, too. One wealthy middle-aged guy wanted me to fly across country to live with him and his kids; I was seventeen. He didn't actually like me or know anything about me; he just thought I was hot.

The point is, I was a dumb@ss kid, and I am lucky nothing bad happened. I snuck out of my house to meet a much older man when I was 13, like that girl who was just on the news who was found murdered.

Sorry for the lecture, but I feel that it's important. My naivety and social isolation led me to do many really unsafe things, and get taken advantage of many times as a teen, and I want you to be careful and protect yourself.

I know many people are likely to disagree, but a simple way to avoid those dangers would be to consider romantic or sexual interest from someone whose age differs too much from yours a huge red flag. When you're a teenager, four years is just barely less than an eternity. I rarely felt attracted to girls just one year older or younger than me, even when I could tell they were "objectively" very attractive.

Oh? I figured I could just reject the advances of people... Okay, well thank you for the advice.

I'm not sure what you mean, but you really should listen to those who said you're very pretty and stop worrying so much. Desperation will only make you a prime target for all kinds of abuse. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if quite a few boys about your age avoided you because they felt there must be something oddly (the word that actually comes to my mind is otherworldly) wrong about a girl who looks so nice and yet thinks she has to try so hard to be liked.

Trust me, you're going to get a boyfriend soon. If it isn't in high school, it will be shortly after graduating, i'm talking about less than a year to maybe two years after graduating. You're going to find a man in college if it isn't in high school.

The reason is because pretty girls who want a boyfriend, most of the time they will get a boyfriend. Since men are usually the ones approaching, you will find someone. I guarantee you.

My only advice is watch out for the creepos and the men who want to take advantage of you.


I'm known for my blunt honesty and the blunt truth is that you will have no problem finding a boyfriend, just wait till you're a little older then you'll see what I mean.

Last edited by darkphantomx1 on 07 Feb 2016, 2:30 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Uh oh...

OP, there was once a girl on here who posted a thread on here about how she was scared of being alone forever and how she really wanted a boyfriend and even posted a picture of herself. She was a few years older than you.

And what happened next? She was messaged by a couple of men on here and before you know it, she's in a relationship with another WP member. Just like that, she went from being "forever alone" to being in a relationship.

And if a guy were to make the same thread, no one is really going to give a s**t. He may get advice from other male members but woman arne't going to be like awww he's lonely I will be his girlfriend. He's not going to be messaged by girl after girl. Nope, he has to "man up" and talk to women.


Desperation in females is attractive, if a pretty girl publicly complains about how she wants a boyfriend, then the men will come. Because for us men, we are the initiators whether that's because we're hard-wired to do so or because of society I don't know. And desperation in females is attractive because either that means you're easy (if you want sex) or if you want a boyfriend so bad, he thinks he has a greater shot.


So the trick for you is to give hints that you want a boyfriend. And also don't be afraid to approach men as well because I like I said previously, if a woman approaches a man, she's far more likely to be successful. Reverse the gender roles so that you are the one pursuing instead of the other way around.

Last edited by darkphantomx1 on 07 Feb 2016, 2:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

^I'm a male and I don't find desperation the least bit attractive.

But plenty of men do. Seriously, go to a porn site and read some of the comments about how some girls say I want to be f****d like that and then read the replies to these comments. Regardless of whether these "girls" are dudes irl or not, being a pretty girl and acting desperate for love or sex is going to get the men coming. ESPECIALLY if it has to do with sex, because lets face it a lot of men are horndogs.

And you don't even have to say anything sexual either. You can just simply be like I want to find a man to love me and the men will come. Many of these men will have good intentions as well. They're basically white knights.


If I was born a girl, i'd have had a boyfriend by now. Probably a couple.