My girlfriend hurt me, but did I deserve it?

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I don't think it's not just the problem of being socially impaired, because I always had the same issue. I always put myself in social situations, and was always outgoing, friendly, helpful, and according to people, pretty, unless they all lie. LOL. I always had trouble with getting dates, and if I did manage to get a guy to go out with me, he was an abusive narcissist or on drugs. I think it's people with disabilities in general that have a hard time in the dating world, it seems.

Peacesells, it is because normal functioning people, nicknamed 'Normies', are considered average and we are considered less than average due to our impaired social skills, so we must compensate in other ways, or lower our standards to date other disabled/struggling women.

Of course, it doesn't make it any easier studies show and also in my experiences that men are more likely to suffer multiple mental disorders than women.

Also, as shown by many of the aspie women on this website, those of them that are in relationships tend to be dating N.T. men.

It doesn't matter if they're shy, awkward or goth/hippy/alternative/nerdy N.T men - they are still N.T.

Just go to the 'Aspie women: Don't date N.T. guys' thread somewhere here on the first or second page and you'll see most of them dating N.T. guys or saying ND guys are just as bad as N.T. guys.

Anyway, the N.T.s you see that are overweight/very skinny drug abusing gangtsa ghetto guy usually end up with women just as low as they are on the social status totem pole, and they also are 'less than average' in societies eyes.

And, to the guy who suggests getting muscular - muscles do not change face shape.





"I work hard for my body, so why can't I get a slim-bodied girlfriend? They all reject me. The only 2 girls who showed interest in my my whole life were morbidly obese. Does a guys body not matter to girls or am i just ugly? I'm 5ft8."

What people said back to him in 'constructive' criticism:

"You're ugly. You've got a great physique, but you have a punchable face and that haircut doesn't sweeten the deal."

"You are hideous mate, butter face extraordinaire, you are worse looking than me and I have a skeletal deformity. Jesus christ how do you not want to throw yourself in front of a train with that mess of a face?"

"it's because you are trying to look 'hot' when nature has not made you a hot guy, you cant trick nature. Anyone can bodybuild and get a great physique but the face is the true marker of genetic fitness and unfortunately yours has formed in a rather odd fashion."

From here: https://www.reddit.com/r/amiugly/commen ... ese_women/

Another example:

The reddit post is in the amiugly which is suuposed to offer constructive advice yet the harsh people got upvoted.

Also, hypertrophy does not equal strength.

Just because you spent years lifting weights in a controlled environment doesn't mean youd be as strong as someone skinnier who's been doing hard labor jobs all their life.

I am 5'9" and 169lbs and 11% BF and still feel piss weak. My bench press has been stuck at 77lbs for many months.

More isn't better. It isn't hard to find advice from women that they are looking for a toned athletic body, but getting ripped becomes a turnoff.

Agree.

I have also seen many women say they prefer fit and toned men but too much muscle is a turn off and intimidating.

All I was ever trying to point out is:

1. Unless exceptionally strong, most fit young men simply blend in rather than catch attention from worn due to their fitness - its all in the face and personality.

2. Ugly or average faces do not improve much just because you gained muscle with your body.

Finally, social skills still matter. There are plenty of ripped guys in the bodybuilding.com website Misc section with average faces who is identify as forever alone.

Its unbelievable even these guys lose out to the infamous plenty of obese are underweight gangsta/narcotics abusing/emo aggressive types I see have appy relationships.

Well I feel like it's my fault cause my verbal cheating on her with another woman, caused her to become upset, and do physical cheating, if that makes sense.

She is very sorry she says and says it was the biggest mistake of her life to do that to me. But at the same time, when I chewed her out about it, she said it was my fault as well, cause of what I did in the first place.

She won't beg on her knees if she's getting her way and living happily at his expense. Rather, he should dump her and forget her for good.