Does dating get harder as you get older?

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Women grow up in their 20s, both mentally and physically.

You don't want to point out that you are emotionally or mentally immature.
So maybe you are at the same mental age right now--what does that say about
how things are going to be in 10 years? Most women are looking for an equal partner.
[Some of them are looking for sugar daddies who can pay off their tuition bills and
buy a house, but we already know that isn't going to happen.]

For most women, raising two kids and taking care of a guy who can't grow up is a disaster.

I'm not refusing to grow up. It's just that I don't feel like I've been an adult for 11 years. More like 2 years.

I'm not vastly more experienced than her.

I guess but all of the really ambitious, really professional people work 60 or more hours per week. I'll feel more adult when I'm doing that too.

Whatever makes you feel good, my friend.

You're definitely much better off now than you were when you were on the Dole.

When I was in my 20's, it would probably have been better had I dated someone who was 18. That was my maturity level then.

Came back to this late. 19 is far too young for me even if you were 19 lol.

As someone else said a 19 year old is just beginning to explore life whereas at 30ish your perspective is a bit different.

Yes, when you are young you want to explore life with an equal partner, who is also viewing things from a similar perspective. As you get older you acquire "baggage" that younger people don't have.

She just turned 21 two weeks ago. I'll be 29 soon.

I dont know lots of people frowned on my 17 old niece dating a 22 old guy which is a far less age gap

Apparently she'll grow up and not want me anymore ?
This is why I can't dat women my age and above they'll far too serious about stuff

They frowned upon it because she was 17, not legal age.

There's a big difference between 17 and 21 legally.

That's what I was thinking in the first place when I asked her out!

And she does seem to be reasonably mature with money, work ethic, etc. True not all 18 year olds are like her. In a lot of ways we have the same priorities in life. Except that she can't be physically attracted to a guy my age.

I don't get why....you're really not that old! LOL

Truly....there are lots of young women out there who would kill to go out with an older man. My father started dating a woman when she was 22 and he was 47. They stayed together for eight years before they got married. The are still married. She's 59, and he's 84.

The b***h is: you're not in your 30's yet. When one gets in one's 30's, one begins to attain "older man/woman" status. You're in that "in-between" age.

This is not to say that it's impossible that some 18-year-old might like you. Some might. Especially mature ones who see the "person," rather than the "age."

That's what I thought! I don't even look old.

Before I asked her what she thinks of my looks. She said she couldn't really tell from looking at my photo on her iPhone. So basically she doesn't know what I look like. She assumes I look too old, based on my age, when she doesn't know what I look like.

People are surprised when I tell them my age. They say they thought I was 24, not 29. If I met her in a bar or in college or in a club or kung fu class or wherever, if she saw me in real life and I didn't tell her my age, she'd assess me on just my appearance and not my age.

So I should have started dating when I was younger, before I acquired baggage

In retrospect I would have liked that. To be one of two 18 or 19 year olds exploring life and each other like it was something fresh and new. To be part of a young couple like that would make the whole world feel young. It would feel as though we invented love. Everything would be new and fresh.

Now I'm old and the world feels old around me. Everything has been done before me. Everything has been done better than I could do it. I bear the weight of baggage I'd never thought of when I was 18. I have toxic thoughts that didn't occur to me when I was 18.

Back then I could have found a girl my age and started a fresh new life with her in a brave new world. But I didn't talk to girls and I wasn't interested in the world. Back then I wanted to shut the world out. Back then all I cared about was building computers, alone in a darkened room.

You're 29 effin years old! You're not old!

I'm 55, and I'm not old!

People are too perfectionist. My ex complained that I was too young for her because I was 28 and she was 29. That's not even that much of a difference.

Her view is so absurd as to not merit consideration.