Dating sites - do they actually work?

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McDonald's is healthy if you just order the burger by itself, no fries.

They worked for me for casual encounters.

But Skout worked for me way better than Okc/Tinder.

Whatever. I have no intention of engaging in this stupid dating game anyway.

McDonald's is healthy if you just order water.

They've worked to get me a few first dates, even a couple second ones, but nothing beyond that. I did get my first girlfriend indirectly from a dayting site, when a girl I was talking to offered to introduce me to her roommate. Only lasted a month, but hey! I've been having a real dry spell since then, though. Probably because I've stopped expecting anything to come of it, and the women can sense that somehow.

Going out to eat is usually a good idea for a first date, since you'll essentially be on neutral ground. If I can talk them into doing something else I will, but in my experience they're really hesitant to actually doing something with someone on the first date. I've never understood that, honestly. Yeah, inviting you to drive yourself the crowded bowling alley, not in my car, where we will then bowl in plain sight of dozens of other people, without consuming any sort of alcohol or drugs, is all part of my plan to freaking date rape you. /SARCASM/

No, she insisted on meeting me at the local office tower/mall that had a large food court. I actually suggested a local pub first and after a few rejections told her to just pick a place. I later found out its because she works in a nearby tower and didn't drive (and the bus terminal was there too) and since it was an awkward hour (I think 4pm) some McDonalds after she left and mentioned this as she was leaving (yes, I offered and offered her something). Still, I think McDonalds (at least in Canada) is the second best place for a first date after a Starbucks. That's where I met my wife on date #1 since it was the only business near where I was going to be.

I saw it mentioned that someone suggested McDonalds (or Starbucks) is cheap for a first date but I made the mistake of buying dinner more than once. The date had no issue spending lots of $$$ and then literally running out the door once I paid the bill and they probably planned on using me for a free meal all along. What a waste of money especially when few people online are worth it! The "date" (if I was still single) can judge me as unhealthy or cheap all they want: I was in FAR better shape that most of the *ahem* heavier women I dated.

This has happened to me. One of my dates suggested we go to Olive Garden. Little did I know, her best friend waited tables there. We got as far as ordering our food, and then her friend came to our table, "HEEEEEY, GURRRRRRL!" and then proceeded to stand there for the entire time we waited for our food and ate it. My "date" was so busy talking to her friend that I didn't get another word in edgewise the whole time. I ended up paying and leaving her at the table, still talking to her friend.

Would have been epic if you called one of your friends and told them to come to Olive Garden. Then you and your friend could of talked and made them feel awkward.

Legends say she's still talking to her friend in Olive Garden.

Lol

That would require that one have friends. What I was tempted to do was only pay for my food, because my "date" had told me early on she was broke ("Hey, that's no problem! I'm supposed to pay for this stuff anyway! Ha ha ha ha!"). If she asked why, I'd say it was because I was promised a date. This wasn't a date. This was lunch with an uninvited third wheel, and I ain't payin' fo dat!

... let's all pretend that last sentence never happened, okay?

There is, they're called meetup groups.

The game-players either avoid meetups, or they attend them just once and leave when they realize the other members are serious.

You are so naive; the whole point of her "date" was to make you pay for her food.

I bet she does it on every weekend for every outing; this is a serial date scammer.
I wouldn't be surprised if this friend of hers is actually her boyfriend/girlfriend.

I am doing an expriment, I signed up as a female on a dating app and I am talking to straight girls.... oh the things that I am discovering from this internal peek, things that you can never learn even from female close friends.
I am archiving things slowly (no enough time for chats) and when I have time I ll do a mind-blowing rich thread.

Yeah, well, my job and the people I'm around don't give me much opportunity to be the good guy. So when I get the chance somewhere else, I usually jump on it

I feel like Boo will have enough research for a book one day

To expand upon my experience so nobody else falls for it I once arranged a date with a girl who was the daughter of a semi-famous local person. It caught my attention she wanted to meet almost instantly and she insisted on a particular pub/restaurant downtown. Long story we had an okay conversation (she wasn't second date material) but as soon as the bill was paid she instantly said "Excuse me: I have to go to the bathroom" and immediately "thankshadagreattimeseeyoulater" and she literally ran out of the restaurant. I (foolishly) followed her to ask if she was okay and needed help and she said "noihavetogetgoingbye" as she literally ran down the busy street like I was a rapist or serial killer.

When I rejoined the site (eHarmony) a few months later she contacted me again, obviously oblivious to the fact she met me already! She probably contacts everyone (and only on the free communication weekends) and likely scams a free meal out of them. I had a similar experience on OKCupid where the girl in question practically bragged about doing it months after I met her in her profile. Of course, if a reporter were to track them down they would probably make a comment about how they feared for their safety. That's not to say that a sit down restaurant is not a great place for a second or third date (watch how your date treats the wait staff carefully) but DO NOT spend more than $5 on a woman for a first date.

Again, there is usually (but not always) a very good reason why "social" women are on these dating site, often for months or even years.

I now know the right response to this is "then I guess the date is off. See you!" Even if they are broke, a woman who is serious will try to hide it at all costs on the first few dates.