Women As The Breadwinners

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That's a nice way to put it - focus on what is instead of what should be. Unfortunately, that kind of thinking only sounds good for the one not having to do all of the work.

Everybody wants equality, but equality is different for everyone.

Sure, most of the time both sides need to work, but nowadays some women make decent money. Why is it still a problem that a man makes less in this situation?

Yesterday my wife met with her high school friend and she suggested it for me. Her friend said that I will leave my wife unless she does more house work.

This friend is too nosy tho, isn't she?

Multi-task, and my work is 100% online front of PC- while waiting for testing to complete, i check phone, or the other tab.... hence why I often write very short posts.

Well they do talk about a lot of private things (sex for example).

There's a big difference between working 10 hours a day at a job where you basically sit on your a$$ the entire time, and working 10 hours a day at a job where you actually have to put forth physical effort.

In the military, I worked 12 hours a day, usually outside, in all types of whether, and being very physical. I could work a white-collar weenie job standing on my head.

I totally agree, hence why I said "But I don't work in a factory so it's different, It's not a physical effort job."

But sitting in front of pc all this time is also detrimental to one's health; and also the pressure.

Yes and no. As someone who's worked both manual labor is more physically tiring, but white collar is much more stressful because you're dealing with a lot more people. Also, if you're doing manual labor you probably only have one boss and one task to complete, with white collar you may have multiple bosses and tasks to juggle and that's mentally exhausting-- and mental exhaustion can lead to actual physical exhaustion.

Color me very surprised to see mods trashing others' work. 12 hours on more or less any computational task can completely melt anybody. When I worked CGI editing shifts like that my hands went numb every night at ~8 & work stopped at 10. I've done greater amounts of manual labor before & it was far less taxing. Not every desk job is stickies & stamps.

I've been thinking lately I could deal with this but I' not sure I can handle that much downtime, when I find interesting work I take all I can get, I'd get a lot more stuff built though if I weren't a primary income source where I live. I always worry more about machines than money.

Agreed. I can't do what either of you do.

Back when I was a full-time teacher, my brain was totally wrecked at the end of the day.

And then when I was a full time dad to a toddler girl and infant boy, my brain was totally wrecked by the end of the day.

And when time started to free up and I started going more full-time with writing and producing my own music, practicing for choir practice and Sunday mornings, writing choir arrangements and teaching parts, taking over when my immediate superior vacated his position, my brain was wrecked by the end of the day.

And my wife would come in after work and I'd say, you gotta take these kids, I need a break. It's not the amount of work you do. It's how long you've been slogging at the SAME TASK and the tedium. I can put in 14 hours, mixing up childcare, cooking, composing music, practicing, gigging, etc. But you tell me I have to be full on superdad for 14 hours straight and somebody's gonna die.

Very true, as someone part of the IT team, i have pressures coming from:
- My CEO
- The sales team who make crazy promises to clients
- The clients themselves.
- The bugs/debuging/deadlines/risks...etc.

Can anyone die if you make a boo boo? (since we're trying to outdo each other with who has the hardest jobs)

I know a lady who changed jobs from being a civil engineer to a landscaper. I'm sure the engineering gig paid more, but it was all about saving money for the customer. She is much happier now that she can use her creative skills at work. And, her engineering skills haven't gone to waste, as they are quite useful at her new job, even though she is no longer compensated highly for them.

Nope.

As someone who has worked both physical and white collar jobs, I can say that one doesn't really hold a candle to the other. As an aircraft mechanic, I had many bosses, multiple tasks, and, as an added bonus, if you screw-up, you can easily kill/injure yourself or others, which will land you dead or in military prison. If the worst thing that can happen to you at your job is that your boss will yell at you, or you could get fired, you've got it pretty easy.

I'll take tapping keys in a temperature-controlled building over turning a wrench on the flight line any day.

Which is the basis for the 80/20 rule that only 20 % of the time should be devoted towards social skills training and the other 80 percent on finding and developing any talents an Aspie may have. If you are really good at something employers will tolerate a bit of social awkwardness to get that. Or, put another way, all the social skills training won't compensate for the fact that you lack the skills to actually do the work required. Only the most gifted NTs can do that.