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02 Jun 2017, 3:21 pm

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A psychologist can probably make better suggestions, and can evaluate whether you actually intend to change better than I can.


That's such a cop-out response.



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02 Jun 2017, 4:07 pm

JohnnyLurg wrote:
jrjones9933 wrote:
A psychologist can probably make better suggestions, and can evaluate whether you actually intend to change better than I can.


That's such a cop-out response.

It revealed how much you actually intend to change, I think.

And tellingly, your answer faults me for not serving you whatever you want exactly as you want it.


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02 Jun 2017, 4:13 pm

jrjones9933 wrote:
JohnnyLurg wrote:
jrjones9933 wrote:
A psychologist can probably make better suggestions, and can evaluate whether you actually intend to change better than I can.


That's such a cop-out response.

It revealed how much you actually intend to change, I think.

And tellingly, your answer faults me for not serving you whatever you want exactly as you want it.


God forbid I ever try to reach out and seek help on Wrong Planet.



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02 Jun 2017, 7:10 pm

JohnnyLurg wrote:
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If what you try doesn't work, and trying the same thing more aggressively works even worse, maybe try something different?


What did you have in mind?

Rather than take the responsibility away from yourself to deal with the situation by asking a question, I would simply follow the advice at its simplest face value.

Look at it like science. You try an experiment, you get a result. If you aren't happy with the result, why would you repeat the same experiment over and over to achieve the same result? Alter the conditions, the environment, the prerequisites for a satisfactory outcome.


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02 Jun 2017, 7:16 pm

TheSpectrum wrote:
JohnnyLurg wrote:
jrjones9933 wrote:
If what you try doesn't work, and trying the same thing more aggressively works even worse, maybe try something different?


What did you have in mind?

Rather than take the responsibility away from yourself to deal with the situation by asking a question, I would simply follow the advice at its simplest face value.

Look at it like science. You try an experiment, you get a result. If you aren't happy with the result, why would you repeat the same experiment over and over to achieve the same result? Alter the conditions, the environment, the prerequisites for a satisfactory outcome.


How do you even know whether I'm trying different things or not?