I'm too weird to date

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You are assuming a man would do anything and everything just to be with a woman who looks good. Maybe for sex, yes, but not necessarily for a relationship. It is just that, an assumption. In fact, the women who get chosen over me are often average. One guy who put me on the backburner for years and only wanted sex (then came around to wanting more ) is now dating a woman who is very, very plain. The other woman he chose over me was very plain as well. This is from a man who still calls me beautiful.



Most women are attracted just fine to most women of childbearing age. He doesn't have to be with a 10 or someone superhot for physical satisfaction. Women, esp younger women, are rarely unattractive. Heck, I know women who are kind of unattractive, and they have kids and boyfriends. A woman being sexually attractive to a man isn't an achievement tbh. My ex said i'm better looking than one of the girls who he said was "so thoughtful" until she turned gold digger. This ex says many men would call me a 10.

As for abusive men, I don't know. I guess the abusive ones are the only ones who will stay with me for any period of time no matter how short. Also, I could try to talk to men at my gym or anywhere, but I don't want to. I feel very done. There is only so much dating drama I'm going to put up with. When I'm single I get to be myself.
I bring out the worst in nice guys, apparently, because they flat out dump me for other women, too.

lol @ me making up being weird. I've never fit in. I have a long history of having 0 friends (i'm 30 and never had a real friend), can't keep a man, saying and doing weird things, being stupid smart, but yeah, I'm just making it up. At least i'm willing to admit I'm strange. I flat out get called weird and strange,but i'm making things up. Ok.

Yes, I can get a man very easily. It's a difference between getting them and actually keeping one.

Not everything is about how you look.

You and my mother could be twins. My mother says many of the same things you do and when my mother and someone broke up, I guarantee you it was never her fault! She always never took the good with the bad, it was either good or nothing.

You want a person that is fit like yourself but don't want to put in the work to keep them. My mother also said she couldn't be herself with other people when in reality what she was saying was "I will not change for anybody, everything I do you have to accept and I will not compromise one bit!"

She was too stubborn to realize that you will have to change at some point to keep a relationship! She herself is also single and sometimes says she wish she could find love. If you aren't willing to change and compromise with your (boy/girl)friend then keeping a relationship is pretty much not going to happen!

She also said that she only likes the beginning of relationships when you are all starry eyed with the person and learning about them but, once you know pretty much everything there is nothing interesting. It's like she wants all the benefits of a relationship but none of the problems. Which=Impossible!

I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just giving you an idea as to why you may not be able to keep the guys you are dating, remember it takes two to end a relationship. You may just be doing something subconsciously that you aren't realizing that's making men leave. But, unlike my mother you can change yourself and fix this problem! Don't just write yourself off as weird and undateable because you clearly are dateable!

So you think i'm blaming other people, how? I've basically roasted myself. *confused*
First post of the thread, I said in my last relationship, there are things I wouldve done differently. That being said, everybody has faults, but i don't know any other women who get dumped so consistently.

Since it's not about me being weird at all, I'll go on some dates and start talking about serial killers and contortionism and see how that goes. It's not something I can just change. No one can just stop being weird. I can hold it in for awhile, but it always comes out. I'm getting older, and it's getting more difficult to hide.

Abusive guy was nerdy, and he dumped me. The other ex was kinda nerdy and certainly not a fitness freak, he still dumped me and left for another woman.
Oh trust me, it only takes one person to end a relationship. The one who wants it least has the power. You can't make someone stay with you.

At this point in my life, I'm tired of being dumped. I'm tired of being dumped no matter what I try. I want to be myself, have any interest if i want, lay in bed and be quiet if i want, etc. If men and people in general don't like me, that's ok. I don't want a life of being dumped, dumped, and dumped again.

So you want to be yourself and do anything you wish without hindrance?

Actually you said nothing that would be considered "roasting". What you did do was put yourself on such a high pedestal that no other person could possibly reach! "My ex would say I'm a '10'" "I'm stupid smart" you think that you only get in abusive relationships. In reality you just blamed the world for not adjusting to you.

That sounds exactly like someone with a narcissistic personality disorder. They manipulate things in a way that always makes them look good and everything else looks bad!
I'm not a doctor but I have lived with two people who act the very same way.

I said i was a 10 because someone asked how i would rate myself physically.

Being stupid smart is not exactly a good thing. Maybe I shouldve been more clear. I meant stupid smart as meaning one is booksmart but also lacking common sense. This has been an issue. People think you don't care and will wonder why I can sit down and learn Russian but i can't remember where I put X item and always forget things. In a relationship those things can become very, very personal.

So someone telling me they are tired of putting up with my body and also putting their fist in my face isn't abusive? Ok.

How in the world have I made myself look good aside from answering someone's questions? I've not said many good things about myself except to repeat what others said about my loooks.

here goes
I cant remember crap, and i rarely go somewhere and have everything i need
I said repeatedly in this thread i'm weird and quirky with obviously nonconventional interests
I'm also introverted, let's add that
I'm not very talkative for a girl

"I'm tired of putting up with your body"? Okay whoever said that sound like they were dodging something. You did say that "you are fit and chesty, and that you get called gorgeous and pretty when you are not wearing make up." which to many people would sound arrogant.(I wouldn't think someone is arrogant for that reason but some don't observe and go deeper.)

I have an idea for the memory thing, what about writing things you need on a calendar or putting it in your phone.(I wonder if phones have a app or something that on the days you set things you want to remember it makes a ringing sound or something on that day?) As you can probably tell I'm not too tech savvy...

Is there a particular reason you don't go to many places?

I will apologize for the narcissistic comment earlier. As I talk to you more I realize that I "jumped the gun". We all make mistakes. I was comparing you to my mother as if I knew much about you. I also apologize for that as well. (The ninja has learned better!)

What was i supposed to say? I work hard for the body i have, and someone asked me to describe myself. I dont go around irl shouting about how i look.

See, at some point a lot of men will want someone else sexually. That guy also told me he needed variety. I had to beg for sex, too. Being good looking isnt what you think it is.

Thanks for the idea. I need to make a list for almost everything, unfortunately. That still wont solve the weirdness, unfortunately.

I ho out pretty often. I go to the mall, to the movies, to the store, gym.

Funny thing is, other quirky like women like me ive come across on the net are also very, very single.