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I know lots about “real life.” I’m not idealistic.

I’ve been low income most of my life. I’m short and chubby, too. I’ve gotten a good amount of dates and relationships.

It’s more in how you carry yourself, and how you converse with people.

Nope. When I started my present job in 1980, my income was about $200 a week, gross. About $150 net, adding up to about $600 per month in real money. My rent was $300 a month.

Of course, there are women who are looking for mid-high income guys, cars, etc.

But low income is not always a dealbreaker. I'm not saying people shouldn't aspire for more. I'm saying it's not totally a hopeless situation for guys with low income.

I doubt that. If you don't have any special talents or hobbies, if working in the grocery store is the only thing you do – no.

If you do not work full time, or are in education, or have a physical disability or looking after children, most people will assume you are lazy.

This is more so once you are over 25.

This is not less so for women than for men.

If you are female and young and very pretty you will still get lots of dates, but people (including your dates) will still judge you as lazy.

If you are female and over 30 you are less likely to be questioned about why you aren't working full time than a male, until someone know you don't have kids, then they will judge you as lazy.

Nobody wants to date someone they think is lazy, unless they can afford to support them and think they are getting something worth it in return, ie someone stunning and usually younger.

I believe the being thought lazy is a much bigger problem than the actual lack of earnings (which don't help).

Being thought lazy is not the worse trait to have, however, but it is one that comes up very early in any relationship. I've never been on a date when a guy didn't comment on me working part time in some way. When younger with confusion, when older with something along the lines of 'so you just expect someone else to support you' (despite the fact that I had clearly stated that I support myself fully).

I've also been told by a previous boss that she didn't respect me because I didn't work full time. I reminded her that I was a writer on top of the 27 hrs I worked for her, she said that didn't count because I wasn't published.

I recommend something in your life that works as a counter to the false assumption of laziness. For me, my novel does help as far as most people judge, particularly since I finished it (I actually stopped working altogether to achieve this). Basically something to account for the time and effort you aren't working. Running is a good balance, if possible, because people don't associate someone who runs as lazy. And anything you do voluntarily for other people, same reason.

Or you could just explain your autistic and how that affects you.

Sorry, I forgot to answer your question.

I don't know without meeting you. I don't find the same things attractive as other women and I'm put off by things that don't bother most. Humour is a very good point, but it would need to be the same kind of humour. I also don't know whether the voice thing would bother me or not, but the other points, job, house, income wouldn't stop me dating you, that's because I understand why you don't work more hours ect. They will affect some women but not all.

Yep. Same job since November 3, 1980.

Data entry operator.

My income is about five times now what it was when I started. Not high----but lower middle-class.

I'm retiring with a pension in 4 years, 10 months.

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