23 Apr 2018, 11:42 am
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23 Apr 2018, 11:54 am
smudge wrote:
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I find this to be a bragging thread too, and it’s unfair to the people here who are suffering. It serves no useful purpose.
Is there some sort of rule that this forum is only for complaining?
Should anyone who gets a date/hookup/relationship be forbidden from posting about it?
My enjoying my dating life has nothing to do with someone else' suffering.
I never said it was only for complaining, I just think it’s going to be a little upsetting on a support forum for people who have real difficulties with these things.
Myself or others shouldn't be made to feel that we shouldn't share any happiness on the forums just in case someone doesn't like it.
If someone has difficulties getting a date, I'd suggest that instead of sitting there being all upset about someone else getting dates with ease that perhaps they participate in threads like these & ask how others who are more successful in this part of life go about it. Maybe they'd learn some things to be able to implement in themselves, their life, their communication with others etc & move forward with being able to get a date. That'd make way more sense to me than complaining about someone else' relative success with dating/sex life.
I'm not here to put anyone down. Just like physical strength; it's for lifting others up - not pushing them down.
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23 Apr 2018, 12:22 pm
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23 Apr 2018, 12:46 pm
smudge wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
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I never said it was only for complaining, I just think it’s going to be a little upsetting on a support forum for people who have real difficulties with these things.
Myself or others shouldn't be made to feel that we shouldn't share any happiness on the forums just in case someone doesn't like it.
If someone has difficulties getting a date, I'd suggest that instead of sitting there being all upset about someone else getting dates with ease that perhaps they participate in threads like these & ask how others who are more successful in this part of life go about it. Maybe they'd learn some things to be able to implement in themselves, their life, their communication with others etc & move forward with being able to get a date. That'd make way more sense to me than complaining about someone else' relative success with dating/sex life.
I'm not here to put anyone down. Just like physical strength; it's for lifting others up - not pushing them down.
I have no difficulty getting sex or dates either (but I don’t say yes, like you) and I have tried telling people here how to do it, people here don’t like it. People here occasionally even hate me for it, so it’s pointless. For me I understand that not everyone thinks like I do, and they have their own reasons, no matter how little it makes sense to you or I, that they have something in the way of getting that kind of attention from people. Or IMO, they do get attention and don’t notice it, something I have seen in myself in the past and other aspies. Though, I think it’s easy enough as a woman or gay man to get sex and dates, it’s going to be harder for straight men. For actual love and relationships though it’s not as easy, especially if you’re someone who isn’t into going straight into sex first. So for those straight men, I think they need different advice for that.
Then they can start different threads for that. No one is obligated to post and participate in this thread or any other. And no one who posts a thread has any obligation to craft it to be for everyone, either.
This thread isn’t a story about how I found the love of my life or any such thing and shouldn’t be taken as such. Mind you, stranger things have happened - I know plenty of gay couples who met via a hookup app and then over time things evolved into a LTR. Heck, the most popular hookup app has even had bus bench poster advertisements that said something like “When just a hookup becomes a LTR”
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23 Apr 2018, 12:47 pm
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Women have hit on me, mostly because they thought I was a man, but I've attracted lesbians and bisexual women too.
Are you bi? Are gay women as obvious in asking someone out as a gay guy is? I have no idea about that world, that’s why I’m curious. I had a gay girl friend who used to want to move in with her partners really quickly.
I'm actually asexual.
As for gay women, the ones I encountered had varied approaches, but, mostly, they began by dropping hints and trying to "feel me out."
So you’re attracted to men or women romantically? If that’s too personal, ignore that.
Thanks for the input.
I'm not attracted to men or women, either romantically, or physically.
Oh the time I would have saved in my life to date..
But for us sexual beings, it’s worth the time spent or we wouldn’t do it.
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23 Apr 2018, 1:34 pm
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23 Apr 2018, 1:56 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Next time male colleagues don't invite me to a business lunch, I will have an entirely new perspective as to why.
Homosexuals/bisexuals are a minority - statistically speaking, so it's unlikely that all your male colleagues are gays doing orgy parties behind your back.
It's not uncommon for heterosexual males not to invite women to lunches, if they want to talk about women and men's stuff.
Or maybe they’re screwing pretty little gay boys in the communal showers of a bathhouse while gay porn plays 24/7 on TV’s all around?
If we’re going to speculate it may as well be WILD.
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23 Apr 2018, 2:08 pm
goldfish21 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Next time male colleagues don't invite me to a business lunch, I will have an entirely new perspective as to why.
Homosexuals/bisexuals are a minority - statistically speaking, so it's unlikely that all your male colleagues are gays doing orgy parties behind your back.
It's not uncommon for heterosexual males not to invite women to lunches, if they want to talk about women and men's stuff.
Or maybe they’re screwing pretty little gay boys in the communal showers of a bathhouse while gay porn plays 24/7 on TV’s all around?
If we’re going to speculate it may as well be WILD.
You’re horny, aren’t you?
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23 Apr 2018, 2:10 pm
A 20 something married couple emailed and offered another threesome a couple days ago. It’s been several years since I’ve been with a girl at all. Hmm, maybe I should do them..
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23 Apr 2018, 2:12 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Next time male colleagues don't invite me to a business lunch, I will have an entirely new perspective as to why.
Homosexuals/bisexuals are a minority - statistically speaking, so it's unlikely that all your male colleagues are gays doing orgy parties behind your back.
It's not uncommon for heterosexual males not to invite women to lunches, if they want to talk about women and men's stuff.
Or maybe they’re screwing pretty little gay boys in the communal showers of a bathhouse while gay porn plays 24/7 on TV’s all around?
If we’re going to speculate it may as well be WILD.
You’re horny, aren’t you?
Nope, not particularly. I’m just the forum optimist who prefers to think about things in the best case possible scenario is all.
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23 Apr 2018, 2:23 pm
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23 Apr 2018, 2:33 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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A 20 something married couple emailed and offered another threesome a couple days ago. It’s been several years since I’ve been with a girl at all. Hmm, maybe I should do them..
Make sure everything will be filmed.
Nah, that’s not my style. Besides, I don’t need film.. I have a pornographic memory.
Although, there is this one guy I hooked up with briefly who emails me every once in a while asking if I’d film him performing sex acts on me w/ his phone. Meh, I’m not wild about the idea, buuut something new is something new.. soooo, maybe someday.
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
smudge wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
Women have hit on me, mostly because they thought I was a man, but I've attracted lesbians and bisexual women too.
Are you bi? Are gay women as obvious in asking someone out as a gay guy is? I have no idea about that world, that’s why I’m curious. I had a gay girl friend who used to want to move in with her partners really quickly.
Can we have a 3some? You know, with you and your gay girl friend.
She lived in Sweden. Skype?
23 Apr 2018, 3:27 pm
goldfish21 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
A 20 something married couple emailed and offered another threesome a couple days ago. It’s been several years since I’ve been with a girl at all. Hmm, maybe I should do them..
Make sure everything will be filmed.
Nah, that’s not my style. Besides, I don’t need film.. I have a pornographic memory.
Although, there is this one guy I hooked up with briefly who emails me every once in a while asking if I’d film him performing sex acts on me w/ his phone. Meh, I’m not wild about the idea, buuut something new is something new.. soooo, maybe someday.
My ex had an eidetic memory which included pictures and touch. Maybe that could count as pornographic.
