Why am I never approached? EVER!

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07 Jan 2019, 1:49 pm

Can you try being more obvious?

I met a woman once who looked at my shoes then climbed all the way up my body with her eyes, she did this a few times while I was talking to her. That was probably one of the more obvious examples I've ever had of a woman showing interest.

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07 Jan 2019, 4:43 pm

fifasy wrote:

Not all people can do that, remember some people are too shy or too reserved to show a such balant lust.
If the OP is too invtorvert, and most probably she is, then what you’re suggesting requires a major change in her personality - not realistic.

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07 Jan 2019, 8:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

fifasy wrote:

what about eye contact or smiling or playing with hair?

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08 Jan 2019, 1:17 am

enz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

fifasy wrote:

what about eye contact or smiling or playing with hair?

Trust me. If you’re not a flirter, playing with your hair is the stupidest and most unnatural thing in the world.

I’d be more comfortable grabbing someone’s nose and saying “got your conk!” Than coming across as an airhead.

Airheads attract people who aren’t that smart themselves for relationships.. not a goal.

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08 Jan 2019, 1:38 am

figure out a way for him to know you like him so he can do all the work :lol:

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08 Jan 2019, 5:45 am

hale_bopp wrote:

enz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

fifasy wrote:

what about eye contact or smiling or playing with hair?

I’d be more comfortable grabbing someone’s nose and saying “got your conk!” Than coming across as an airhead.

That’s a sexual harassement.

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08 Jan 2019, 7:04 am

enz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

fifasy wrote:

what about eye contact or smiling or playing with hair?

She would look stupid or crazy like Harley Quinn.

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08 Jan 2019, 7:32 am

I twirl and play with my hair a lot, as a stim. I hope it doesn't send the wrong message to anyone, but then again I'm seldom around people for it to be misinterpreted. If someone were looking me up and down (as described by fifasy) I wouldn't even know, because I don't make eye contact or look at people when I talk to them. I'm really shy with my eyes.

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08 Jan 2019, 3:26 pm

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Of course it's also possible for a woman to approach a man, either through conversation or letter.

It can be too hard to communicate with someone face-to-face sometimes. The last woman I showed interest in, I did it by letter. Nothing too intense. Just said how much I liked her and asked her if she wanted a date. I didn't get a date but I didn't have many opportunities to ask her in person anyway because she was so busy all the time. Also she's such a confident and sociable person I became more shy around her.

Take my suggestions with a grain of salt anyway, folks. I've only ever had two romantic partners, both of them I met through my sister. Both short-term, unhappy relationships. I just felt like adding my two cents as the expression goes.

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08 Jan 2019, 5:42 pm

Hmm. Written communication has never worked for me in this context. It sounds romantic, but what happens is you have to wait several days to be let down. The wait is excruciating.

If you ask face to face you can get it over and done with quickly. Like a band aid. Right off!

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08 Jan 2019, 6:52 pm

hurtloam wrote:

But then you can end up being rejected in front of others who gossip or laugh.

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09 Jan 2019, 1:58 am

sly279 wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

But then you can end up being rejected in front of others who gossip or laugh.

Probably best to ask in a quiet moment when you are alone together then.

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09 Jan 2019, 3:15 am

i doubt a letter would be well received.
to me it's like when you were in high school and you're too embarrassed to talk to your crush so you slip them a love note, or worse, get your friend to do it.
Then they send it back with a box drawn on the paper with a NO and a tick inside it.
It's cringey stuff. :lol:

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