Would you be willing to enter a sexless relationship?

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Most Paraplegic people actually can and do have sex.
I wouldn't mind dating someone with any kind of disability, however it doesn't solve the problems.

Unless I misunderstand, she's wanting a romantic relationship and the companionship it brings but without sex. Such things do exist but I think they're mainly situations where people are either too elderly to have relations any longer but are still in love or both people have sustained physical or mental trauma to the point of permanently disabling the desire for sex.

I don't believe it would be possible for two people who are "normal" and "healthy" to agree to a non-sexual romantic relationship and both be equally OK with it.

I stressed the two words above in quotes and italics for the purpose of using them as generally defined rather than make any implications or assertions that a person wanting a non-sexual romantic relationship would be the opposite of those things: "abnormal" or "unhealthy". I'm not one to judge in that regard.

Ya know I find it a little sad how many people are saying its impossible to have a healthy, loving, and lasting relationship without sex. You're essentially saying that your ability to love someone hinders on their ability to please you in bed. So if the love of your life couldnt perform would you stop loving them? If they had a medical reason for being unable to have sex is that it? After years of love and devotion you would drop them just because they can no longer have sex? If your child told you they were asexual are you going to tell them that no one will ever love them? There are plenty of people who dont have sex that often or at all and are still perfectly happy.
I think sex is overrated. It is way over-prioritized in our society. Sex, when done merely for pleasure, is but another addictive, diminishing returns activity like drinking or doing drugs.
I mean, theres so much more to loving a person than having sex all the time. And theres nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex. I feel really bad for how asexual people are treated by society. Theres nothing wrong with them!

^ not at all.
I couldn't stop loving someone for those reasons.
And love comes before any thought of sex for me.
If you've never experienced sex in a loving relationship I guess it's hard to comprehend the wonder of it.

Same here... I don't want sex with someone if I don't love them. But if I did love them, then I'd eventually want sex with them....

Think of it like never watching a movie again. You've still got tv shows, but sometimes you need a little more. The relationship can be managed, but it just simply won't be quite as good as it could be.

If you have sexual desires and you never get to have sex with another person, there's no ifs or buts about it, that's going to cause a problem. It's not about the focal point of a relationship being about sex, it's the fact that you're making it so that the only sexual outlet that a potential partner has is a solo one, and most people who have sexual urges aren't going to be okay with that arrangement. Even if not practiced often, sex is an essential part of most relationships, and when you're in a relationship you can generally only get it from your partner, so saying it's off the table indefinitely is going to turn most people off

Sex is an extremely emotionally bonding experience.

Well I personally think a loving mother and father are the most optimal people to raise a child. I think particularly for boys a positive male role model is very important, and denying them that is just selfish. There's a reason it takes a mother and father to produce offspring, and if people were more responsible we wouldn't see this epidemic of single parent households.

And if they don’t want you to masticate either or look at other women?

All physical affection would have to be withheld cause it usually leads to sex for men. It’ll definitely turn on most men and women.

No ones saying there isn’t but we are saying relationships for most people need sex to susceed, without people resent each other and eventually cheat to get their needs met elsewhere then they fall for that person since sex is emotionally bonding for most.

Quite a few end up loveless too hench divorce rates.
Neither start out sexless or loveless.
I’d bet most wouldn’t have gotten in a relationship if they knew it’d be sexless or lovlesss

Impinge if someone was like oh before we get in a relationship you should know in 10 years we won’t have sex anymore and I won’t really love you anymore, how many people would agree to get in relationship?

This.

I find it funny people are like all you care about is sex If you want sex in a relationship it same isn’t said about people with other requirements for relationships.

Lots of psych meds can cause those problems & those of us on the spectrum tend to be on psych meds more than the general population

I’m not on meds so why am I not competitive or ambitious?
But I also have high sex drive.

I disagree. I was raised by a single mother (My dad died when I was five) and I turned out fine.
The only ways it affected me is not really understanding men and finding relationships extra confusing.

Regardless, one mom is better than none.

So what part do you disagree with? I never said people raised by single parents can't turn out fine, my mum is a single mum too. What I said was two loving parents of opposite gender is better. Growing up, you get two perspectives to choose from instead of one, you get to learn about men and women and how they are to live with instead of just one gender and in my opinion you get a more balanced view of the world with both male and female perspectives and role models. Not to mention a single parent has to make choices that two parents don't. Spend time with the kids and live off a low income (you can't work when looking after children) or throw your kids in daycare and work, making your relationship more distant to the children. You can't be a single parent to young children and a worker and do both well.

My mum largely chose to be a stay-at-home mum, so while my brother and I were able to form a strong bond with her, money was frequently an issue because no one in the house was working. It was only by the grace of the government and welfare that we were receiving any income. I have a lazy eye and poor vision and I'm going to have it for the rest of my life now, but when I was a kid, I could have had surgery on it to get it fixed (the eye's matured well past that point now), but of course my mum was never going to be able to afford it, so instead now I'm stuck with it forever. I could also have had my crooked teeth straightened as a kid if there was money in my family, but of course that was never going to happen either, so now the responsibility is on me as an adult to pay for my own braces. Having two loving parents instead of one would have made a huge difference in my life.