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01 May 2019, 2:09 pm

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One shouldn't mistake luck with strategy

What you call "luck" favors only the bold and those who persevere. Never give up.

I’m 31. It’s too late for me.

I met my wife in my 30s, not much older than you are now.

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All I have to look forward to is a sad lonely life and eventually death that frees me from hell.

Is that your plan -- sadness, loneliness and death? No wonder you have such lousy "luck".

We’re and are you on disability getting 760 dollars a month? Ore are you working full time, have a house and car etc? Find people in my situation who’ve met women willing do to date them long term...

Ah. I apologize. Obviously, I am in no position to judge you for your situation.

When people tell me that "Money isn't everything" when it comes to attraction, I ask them why they don't date homeless people. All I get in return is attitude and an eyeroll.

Again, I apologize for my presumption. I should have known better.

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01 May 2019, 4:01 pm

^ People lie.

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01 May 2019, 5:42 pm

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We’re and are you on disability getting 760 dollars a month? Ore are you working full time, have a house and car etc?
Find people in my situation who’ve met women willing do to date them long term. Good luck.

All of these can be improved upon with time and discipline.

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My plan no, life’s plan yess. Society’s plan yes.
There’s no luck for worthless men like me.

Here's your problem you are relying on luck. No man worth a anything relies on luck, he wakes up each day and works on improving himself with patience and diligence.

You want mommie to come into your life and fulfill you, but women don't want to raise another child. Therefor if you want a lady you have to make yourself a complete man, women want men not boys. Stop pining for them to fix you, it doesn't work that way and it will never work that way.

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So why should I keep hope for something that will never happen.

It's you who doesn't want it to happen, you think that discipline towards self-improvement and self-fulfillment isn't going to pay off, but it will.

Think of it this way, if you had the option between an ugly woman or a beautiful woman, why would you choose the ugly woman? That's the option women have, if they have the option between a brooding defeatist boy and a self-fulfilled man, they will choose the self-fulfilled man every time, and so would you choose the beautiful woman over the ugly one, every time.

Tomorrow's a new day sly, and a new opportunity to work on yourself. One year of taking each day by the horns WILL pay off.

Better now than later and better late than never. The world is FULL of the defeatists, by merely holding on to hope and discipline you will leap ahead of many people in a very short amount of time.

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01 May 2019, 8:59 pm

SecretOpossumCabal wrote:

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We’re and are you on disability getting 760 dollars a month? Ore are you working full time, have a house and car etc?
Find people in my situation who’ve met women willing do to date them long term. Good luck.

All of these can be improved upon with time and discipline.

I think it might be more effective to temper one's expectations. Not everyone can date anyone else if they just have discipline.

If someone's colorblind, they can't just become a normal painter if they just try hard. If they base their style (and their communication about their style) on their affected perception of color, they may attract people based on that, though.

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01 May 2019, 9:01 pm

Guessing your w conservative SecretOpossumCabal?

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02 May 2019, 1:18 am

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Guessing your w conservative SecretOpossumCabal?

No need to insult the guy! (Joke)

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02 May 2019, 1:36 am

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Guessing your w conservative SecretOpossumCabal?

No need to insult the guy! (Joke)

I don’t see how it’s an insult.
But his inability to accept I’m disabled and thinking with hard work one can become middle class etc is generally a conservative mindset.

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02 May 2019, 3:15 am

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Guessing your w conservative SecretOpossumCabal?

No need to insult the guy! (Joke)

I don’t see how it’s an insult.

I'm a liberal. Or liberal-ish. I talk to a lot of, like, "alt right" guys on the Internet, so maybe that's screwing with my head.

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But his inability to accept I’m disabled and thinking with hard work one can become middle class etc is generally a conservative mindset.

I would say the "discipline" thing is, too. A book I have on conservatism says in the first chapter (which is the only one I've read so far) that conservatism says that individuals should be disciplined, where liberals say the system should be disciplined--people have to follow the rules as opposed to the rules should make sense, I think.

Just so this post isn't entirely off-topic, I don't think you have to be middle class to be successful with women. Not having money is generally a count against you, though. Some people make a lifestyle out of it--"simple living" and things, and if you play that right, it can be appealing, at least at first. What happens after that depends on one's ability to reciprocate, though--to "play the game." There has to be something worth salvaging after the excitement of novelty wears off.

PS Dump Trump

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02 May 2019, 3:45 am

So basically there’s no hope for me

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02 May 2019, 4:03 am

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So basically there’s no hope for me

You just need to find the right woman! Lower your standards!

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02 May 2019, 4:37 am

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So basically there’s no hope for me

You just need to find the right woman! Lower your standards!

I can’t lowwr my standards any more then I have. Even the lowest of women won’t date me.

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03 May 2019, 7:04 am

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Therefor if you want a lady you have to make yourself a complete man, women want men not boys. Stop pining for them to fix you, it doesn't work that way and it will never work that way.

Thats' right. For this work on yourself. Improve your fitness, your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Care about the mental way that you are. Care about eye contact and don't be to shy once a women likes you because it's a sign of self confidence. It takes some time to improve but it works.

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03 May 2019, 8:22 am

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... Improve your fitness, your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Care about the mental way that you are. Care about eye contact and don't be to shy once a women likes you because it's a sign of self confidence. It takes some time to improve but it works.

Wise words.

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03 May 2019, 1:52 pm

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Therefor if you want a lady you have to make yourself a complete man, women want men not boys. Stop pining for them to fix you, it doesn't work that way and it will never work that way.

This is why I didn’t read his reply. I already know I’m not a real man and never will be women already point this out I don’t need told it more.

I do find it ironic as a lot of women do try to fix their boyfriends and husbands.

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03 May 2019, 1:52 pm

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Wise words.

Only if your conservative or republican

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03 May 2019, 1:55 pm

sly279 wrote:

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Wise words.

Only if you're conservative or Republican

It works better and more often for everyone than doing nothing at all.

As you once pointed out, it works best for people who have money to spend on dating.

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