Most unhelpful things I have been told

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That's not entirely inaccurate. HOWEVER... what the person didn't tell you is this: Playing guitar helps a guy only if he's ALREADY good-looking and socially skilled. That is, if he has these qualities, playing guitar will give him advantage over a guy who doesn't play, with everything else being equal. Otherwise, if he's more similar to you or me, playing guitar won't do jack.

The instrument to draw the attention of the ladies is the accordion.

^ There's also the flute.

I already feel like 2020 will be another year of failure in getting a girlfriend. I didn’t get the TMS treatment, my hair has thinned out even more, my face is getting fatter, and I find even standard social interaction to be stressful.

That is a thought, but only a thought. What happened till now, isn’t written in stone for the future.
They thought my kid cd never ever sit up straight nor walk . the best nurse kept,working with him daily and he can run now.

Helen Keller was nine when till that point they believed her to be u able to ever learn, or communicate.
She did that, and then some. Lectures and books.

Just cuz something was considered to be the most likely case didnt make it true.

Helen Keller got a PhD, I believe. A few honorary doctorates.

But she did graduate, cum laude, from Radcliffe College.

I’ve never heard of Helen Keller before.

Is it hard for everyone to get into a relationship or is it just hard for me?

It is hard for many people. Relationships are never easy to "get into."

Helen Keller was quite an interesting woman. She was both completely deaf and completely blind after acquiring some sort of sickness at the age of 19 months.

Stories like hers honestly don’t inspire me. Instead, they make me wonder why they overcame their struggles but I have not.

You have to get of the negative thinking in order to get over your situation.

Helen Keller had lots of negative thinking. She was also quite violent for a while. But, after a while, she knew she had to listen to her teacher, and get out of that pattern of thinking.

I hoped that one day I would’ve been able to post about overcoming my struggles and proving those who treated me poorly wrong. I wanted to show that you could be in an individual in a conformist culture and still succeed as well as shut up my detractors. Instead, I go through only more failures and hopelessness. The people who don’t want me to have a girlfriend are still winning while I continue to lose.

I am an individual in a conformist culture.

I am a nonconformist who has accommodated, to a certain extent, to the greater culture.

I wish you can go full-time at the library where you work—especially if it’s a civil service type job.

Doing some research into their lives and what motivated them would probably be a good idea.

I quite like stories of how people overcame difficulties and learned to live with things they cannot change.

My detractors claim I should look up to them as “success stories”.

marknis every success story i know of apart from born geniuses and all around gifted ppl... They all had someone to support and teach and motivate them. Helen Keller did for example. Without Anne Sullivan there would be no Helen Keller as we know of her.

Thats why i have said in every thread of yours that I've responded to of late, that you need ongoing help from caring and skilled ppl..not fumbling and actually worsening your state

...consistent genuine support in real life.

I think you may be taking that too literally. I'm pretty interested in psychology and I like learning about what motivates people, so I guess I already have my own reasons for enjoying these types of tales.

I hate sports, but I really enjoy listening to Usian Bolt talking about his running career. He's just such a positive chap.

I'll think about some interesting people and post them here. I've got a pretty hectic few days ahead, so it may take a few days before I get round to it.