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Likewise I’m just explaining what I’ve seen and experienced and what I’d Like in a relationship. Not trying to put down your experiences, or preferred relationship type.
I hope you don’t tell your wife to calm down when discussing
The road thing was a Metaphor, for which you guys are taking to literally.
There’s a decision that needs made, with only two options and you two disagree, the decision has to be made one way or the other. I think when push comes to shove one of people in the relationship will just make the decision and the other will either accept it or end the relationship

Being in a relationship means you give up your autonomy for most part. Things you do effect the other. That means sometimes doing things you don’t want to or like.

I’d go to social gatherings with a gf even though I might not prefer them.
To go would be her deciding it for us. I’d go to stay in the relationship.
From what I’ve seen most couples don’t sit around and debate every single decision like congress.

LOL no, she is the most even-tempered person I've ever met You seemed upset, I didn't mean to sound condescending or dismissive

Sorry - literal aspie here

I think I get what you're saying, I was never willing to give up my autonomy which is why I never thought I would get married. I never go to social gatherings I don't feel comfortable with and rarely of more than 4-5 people I already know and my wife never asked me to.

I think the reason we easily make decisions together is that we both lean the same way in most things so there's no need for any protracted or hostile exchange. What you mention happened before in other relationships and it contributed to breaking up.

I might be the exception, but I had a very clear idea of what I would want a LTR to be and would rather be single than make compromises that would affect my identity and well-being. But I'm very laid-back and find it easy to get along as I'm neutral on stuff like where to eat and other trivial things. But now that you mention it, I do know one couple that makes every little decision into a big fight and a battle of wills. The strangest part is that they both enjoy it To each their own I guess.

A romantic relationship should not be driven by power in the first place. If that’s the case, it’s an unhealthy arrangement.

why do i search hodge twins, complicated stuff here

As a radical egalitarian I find that article frightening. To each their own, I suppose. I actually do not have an internal sense of my gender and pretty much see people as people.

That being said, there is a place for safe power differential role play. I used to be in the local sex positive community and I knew many dom sub couples (a mix of genders for each role). What I noticed is that healthy couples are equal no matter what their kink.

Domineering people have no business being dom and insecure people have no business being sub. The best doms are people who have deep compassion for their partner. The best subs are powerful by their own right. Sounds very counter-intuitive but I feel anything else is abusive.

As far as a cultural/religious/sexual based submission of women goes... that is something that should be fought against!

Oh... and the redonkulous idea that women are there to provide men with sex makes me sick to my stomach. My wife is asexual and she often has fears that she is not meeting "my needs". Why would I ever want have sex with someone who does not want to have it with me? I think the submissive wife stereotype feeds in to these insecurities for her. I certainly wont be sharing that article with her, lol.

Interesting thread!