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The_Face_of_Boo
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19 Jan 2021, 11:51 am

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Some have this false idea I only go after women of my ethnicity (Anglo-American) and not women of other ethnicities. In my experience in the Central Texas region, women from all backgrounds here tend to want the same things in men: someone who dresses snazzy, talks loud, likes to party, considers himself a Christian, doesn’t live with his mother, and has an aggressive edge to him. It doesn’t matter if he makes a six figure income or lives by paycheck to paycheck and lives in an expensive house or a low rent dumpy apartment. White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, and Arabic women in Central Texas don’t really differ in what they want from a man. It’s not a case of not fishing in multiple ponds, it’s more that I don’t meet any of the expectations men in my cultural region get.


Try going to a Karoke meet up when COVID winds down. These people tend to be older, but also more mellow. Personally, I think the dating question distracts a portion of the men on the spectrum from achieving their potential in career, health, family, hobbies and housework. You end up unmotivated and giving up on yourself because you have like no potential to be a good date for a woman or experience the fun everyone else is having.


That will be like after 10 years.



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20 Jan 2021, 5:50 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
idntonkw wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Some have this false idea I only go after women of my ethnicity (Anglo-American) and not women of other ethnicities. In my experience in the Central Texas region, women from all backgrounds here tend to want the same things in men: someone who dresses snazzy, talks loud, likes to party, considers himself a Christian, doesn’t live with his mother, and has an aggressive edge to him. It doesn’t matter if he makes a six figure income or lives by paycheck to paycheck and lives in an expensive house or a low rent dumpy apartment. White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, and Arabic women in Central Texas don’t really differ in what they want from a man. It’s not a case of not fishing in multiple ponds, it’s more that I don’t meet any of the expectations men in my cultural region get.


Try going to a Karoke meet up when COVID winds down. These people tend to be older, but also more mellow. Personally, I think the dating question distracts a portion of the men on the spectrum from achieving their potential in career, health, family, hobbies and housework. You end up unmotivated and giving up on yourself because you have like no potential to be a good date for a woman or experience the fun everyone else is having.


That will be like after 10 years.


or find a local jogging group who meet outside, it will be all NTs but still better socialization than nothing and some girl or woman might fall for you.



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22 Jan 2021, 8:27 pm

idntonkw wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
idntonkw wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Some have this false idea I only go after women of my ethnicity (Anglo-American) and not women of other ethnicities. In my experience in the Central Texas region, women from all backgrounds here tend to want the same things in men: someone who dresses snazzy, talks loud, likes to party, considers himself a Christian, doesn’t live with his mother, and has an aggressive edge to him. It doesn’t matter if he makes a six figure income or lives by paycheck to paycheck and lives in an expensive house or a low rent dumpy apartment. White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, and Arabic women in Central Texas don’t really differ in what they want from a man. It’s not a case of not fishing in multiple ponds, it’s more that I don’t meet any of the expectations men in my cultural region get.


Try going to a Karoke meet up when COVID winds down. These people tend to be older, but also more mellow. Personally, I think the dating question distracts a portion of the men on the spectrum from achieving their potential in career, health, family, hobbies and housework. You end up unmotivated and giving up on yourself because you have like no potential to be a good date for a woman or experience the fun everyone else is having.


That will be like after 10 years.


or find a local jogging group who meet outside, it will be all NTs but still better socialization than nothing and some girl or woman might fall for you.


People (if you haven't had already), he will not be posting anymore here on WP about love.

PM him whenever you can.


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24 Jan 2021, 11:08 am

Marknis wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Honestly I think you should give up, and focus on other areas in life.


But what if focusing on those areas leads to a relationship? What would you tell me then?


I guess that's the idea...

(By the way nice to meet you everybody).

I want to say: don't give up but dont make it the center of your life either. We are here to enjoy all that is around us in our own personal way. Do what you enjoy and cultivate and nurture yourself. You can't love anybody else if you dont love yourself first and certeinly no one will love you that way. Look at you and ask yourself "what I want to keep and what I want to upgrade" and of course work on this. And enjoy the process!! ! Dont do it thinking in attracting someone, do it for yourself, to feel better about yourself. If you do, one day you will be surprised feeling proud of who you are.

Am I been rude if I ask your age? ☺



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24 Jan 2021, 3:09 pm

Marknis wrote:
I often wonder if my life would’ve been different if I had went to a city public school instead of a Christian private city school and then a countryside public school. Even though women of all ethnic backgrounds in my culture pretty much want the same kind of men, maybe the larger number of people at the city school would’ve at least led to more meaningful social interactions?


I apologize if this comes off as rude (regardless if you're still here or not),
but did your parents ever consider enrolling you in a public alternative school?


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