23 Jan 2021, 10:23 pm
dorkseid wrote:
I'm not attracted to women my own age.
I'm 38, but I generally prefer women who 25-28.
Now, before someone comes in here and says "you know that young women will grow older over time, right?", I would like to point out that there's a difference between someone who grows old with me, and someone who is already old when we meet for the first time. I'm fine with a woman who grows older with me in a relationship, but I need that initial physical attraction to spark something at the start. I settled for my ex out of desperation and was never attracted to her, so I feel a strong desire to make up for what I missed out on when I was younger.
I'm 38, but I generally prefer women who 25-28.
Now, before someone comes in here and says "you know that young women will grow older over time, right?", I would like to point out that there's a difference between someone who grows old with me, and someone who is already old when we meet for the first time. I'm fine with a woman who grows older with me in a relationship, but I need that initial physical attraction to spark something at the start. I settled for my ex out of desperation and was never attracted to her, so I feel a strong desire to make up for what I missed out on when I was younger.
23 Jan 2021, 10:27 pm
Joe90 wrote:
It is perfectly OK for a person of your age dating someone in their mid-20s.
I've always preferred guys a lot older than me. My boyfriend is over 20 years older than me. He has kids in their 20s (one is still in his teens). I'm 30.
If homosexuality is so overaccepted these days then why can't large age gaps be?
I've always preferred guys a lot older than me. My boyfriend is over 20 years older than me. He has kids in their 20s (one is still in his teens). I'm 30.
If homosexuality is so overaccepted these days then why can't large age gaps be?
Amen! I feel the exact same way.
23 Jan 2021, 10:42 pm
XFilesGeek wrote:
I'm fine with men wanted to date 20-something women providing they then don't turn around and get upset at pretty young women wanting to date tall, financial successful men.
Both are equally "shallow."
Both are equally "shallow."
I’ve met plenty of pretty young women in their early-20s who didn’t care about height or money.
Of course, those would be the exceptionally intelligent women (the ones the Aspies here should be on the lookout for
) but I digress.There are young women out there that don’t care about things like that - they just want men of good character.
23 Jan 2021, 10:46 pm
KT67 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
People in their 20's are never "jailbait."
In New York State, 17-year-olds are "jailbait" for people 21 years of age and older.
In New York State, 17-year-olds are "jailbait" for people 21 years of age and older.
I've been told similar in less American language.
Apparently if you're over 25 and fancy someone under 25, you're a 'nonce'.
Nonces are evil people so it causes me a lot of stress to feel like looking at someone in their early 20s and finding them physically attractive would make someone one.
Mind you colloquially some people think everything from fancying 21 yos to watching Cats makes you a nonce.
Don’t worry - I don’t think most people feel that way.
If anything most people seem to be less uptight about age-gaps than they used to be.
If anyone did believe in that “nonce” stuff, it would probably just be someone with a very low-IQ.
23 Jan 2021, 11:35 pm
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
I think most men have a tendency to be most physically attracted to women in their 20s, or even late teens. Most men get to have the experience of dating young women when they're in their late teens, 20s or maybe even 30s and are thus, for the most part, able to accept and come to terms with no longer being able to attract younger women when they reach a certain age.
In your case, you've entirely missed out on being able to date young women you're attracted to, so instead of having to come to terms with not being able to date young attractive women anymore, you have to reckon with the fact that you may never get to experience what it's like to date a young attractive woman at all in your entire life, which seems like a much harsher reality to be faced with, and one that I, too, fear that I might have to deal with if my situation doesn't change.
I wish I had a good answer for you about how to deal with this situation, but I don't believe there is a good answer. I don't know how you'd make peace with the fact that you never got to date young women you're attracted to either. It's a tough spot to be in, and all I can say is that I'm sorry you have to deal with it.
In your case, you've entirely missed out on being able to date young women you're attracted to, so instead of having to come to terms with not being able to date young attractive women anymore, you have to reckon with the fact that you may never get to experience what it's like to date a young attractive woman at all in your entire life, which seems like a much harsher reality to be faced with, and one that I, too, fear that I might have to deal with if my situation doesn't change.
I wish I had a good answer for you about how to deal with this situation, but I don't believe there is a good answer. I don't know how you'd make peace with the fact that you never got to date young women you're attracted to either. It's a tough spot to be in, and all I can say is that I'm sorry you have to deal with it.
Don’t worry - it’s actually very common for men in their 30s to be able to date women in their 20s.
39 is supposedly the age when women start to find men “unattractive”.
And even some men older than 39 still easily date women in their 20s with no problems.
It has less to do with chronological-age and more to do with appearance and drive.
If you’re in your late-30s, but still look like you’re in your mid to late-20s - then you will be able to date women in their 20s with no problem.
Just put yourself out there - say “Hi”, kiss your love-interests’ hand gently and ask if she would like to have coffee some time.
You still have a long way to go before 40, so relax and be in high spirits.
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