How do you get turned on a by a really goodlooking woman?

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Have you heard of Diogenes and his lantern?

No why?

Diogenes made a virtue of poverty. He begged for a living and often slept in a large ceramic jar, or pithos, in the marketplace. He became notorious for his philosophical stunts, such as carrying a lamp during the day, claiming to be looking for "an honest man".

Oh sorry, I didn't see your post and just saw it now. Thanks . When I was saying 'no why', I was referring to this:

i hope you and her can make musical movies together

Oi, man I see some overthinking here...she says she hasn't been asked out, sure there is the possibility she wasn't honest about that. But at least some other posters who seemed to think that could be the case at least acknowledged if so it could be like trying to impress you not nessisarily like maliciously.

But I mean it is very possible to that she was honest about it, and well idk...just seems like you should go with interacting with her more and seeing where that goes. And don't rely on this forum for guidance so much about it, nothing wrong with getting some feedback here, but make any rash decisions based on what people say on here.

It is normal to have doubts when getting into dating someone or starting a relationship, but it is best not to get too stuck on those or that can ruin it before it even gets started. And seems to me its worth giving it a chance if you do have some interest in her, even if you aren't sure it will work out.

Yep that makes sense . We went out a couple of times so far and it's good and I think she is really cool and fun. The thing that bothers me and makes me feel old is the age difference though, but maybe I am making too big a deal out of it? Like maybe a lot of people have wide age gaps in their relationships and it's more normal than I realize?

you're a very lucky man.

She's definitely lying, but this might be in ironpony's favour in that I think she is interested in him.

Sorry the metaphor was mean't for you Blabs. Finding somebody who is perfectly imperfect, winning personality and spiritual ethics is like looking for an honest man. Sorry..messy metaphor.

yes, as rare as rocking horse manure in my experience.

Well yeah sure I don't live under a rock, so I could certainly see the possibility that wasn't true...but for sure seems like its more like trying to give a good impression than like just lying to be a jerk. I mean if she is pursuing him and is the one who asked him out then for sure she is interested...and the only reason people lie to people they are interested in like that is to try and make a good impression.

My point was more it wouldn't do much good for Ironpony to obsess over if that specific thing was true or not, because at the end of the day if things do work out she might decide to open up about the real truth. Basically like maybe it is true maybe it is not true, but getting hung up on it probably won't do him any good. And some guys act like jerks if their girlfriend talks about like having had relationships and sex before them, maybe she dated someone like that and it made her nervous about admitting to past relationships...you know so many factors and a brain could come up with a million different reasons for why that would be true or false. But probably more satisfying to just get to know the person than potentially lose the opportunity because you're overanalyzing everything in your head. If that makes sense.

And I guess the reason I am making a point to say all this is because, I like struggle with self doubt and if I had let that all get in my head when first meeting my boyfriend, I might have like flaked out of forming a relationship so I did have to kind of relax a little and just get to know him instead of just deciding I wasn't good enough and breaking it off before it could go anywhere. So with some struggles autistic people have with even finding a relationship in the first place I'd hate for someone's giving into self doubt being the reason they avoided a relationship that may have worked out. So that is why I am kind of adamant it is at least worth a try of pursuing if she is interested and he is also interested even if there is the chance it may not work out, even then seems like at this point there is still the opportunity to at least develop a friendship or at least just have some fun with someone for a time( I mean I have some people in my life I did have fun with but well sometimes it came to an end, not like I am mad at those people but you know you move away and lose connections with far away people you used to know so it ends up all you have is the memory of the fun times you had before it ended. Like even if it didn't last, it was still worth having the experience.

I think this is very plausible sweetleaf.

And there is absolutely no harm in ironpony pursuing this further. I think in a worst case scenario we have all invested too much energy into a relationship that was doomed, But despite this it's still a learning experience.

Oh yeah, I am not obssessing over what she said, about no guys ever asked her out, I just thought it was really strange, since she is very goodlooking.

There's something else that is bothering me about the age gap though. Because she is 21, she keeps talking about her life around that time, where as women my age or older, hardly ever talk about that point in their lives. When I hear people talk about that point in their lives, I become very jealous and insecure.

I am autistic and because of that, I didn't have a life until my mid-20s and I stayed in my parents house and didn't do anything at all. So I feel I never had a life before then, and have hardly any experience as a result, so when she talks about her life then, I become very jealous.

Women my age or older, do not talk about that point of their lives hardly, so I don't have to hear it, whenever I date someone my age or older.
So when she talks about It, I feel jealousy and insecurity. For example she is 21 and has already had four relationships. I am 36 and have only had 4. So

I feel intimidated that she has had more experience than me. Women my age or older probably have too, but they don't talk about it like she does, because of her age.

If that makes sense?

that is understandable for sure, but you can't dwell on that nor bend her ear about that.