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22 Dec 2021, 10:03 am

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I walked past her on the street recently and she didn't even notice me or stop to talk


I personally wouldn't bother with her then in that case.

This is a fairly misanthropic apporach - but dating really is a numbers game. Don't focus on one person for too long if you can help it. It is a waste of time if they are not interested.



Yes that's true. A few woman who have flirted with me in bars and clubs I might see them in town during the day and I am basically invisible to them.

There was this one girl who flirted with me at a house party 7 years ago and my friends said to me "the only reason she flirted with you was because she was drunk". Ouch :(



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22 Dec 2021, 10:34 am

Jamesy wrote:
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Jamesy wrote:
I walked past her on the street recently and she didn't even notice me or stop to talk


I personally wouldn't bother with her then in that case.

This is a fairly misanthropic apporach - but dating really is a numbers game. Don't focus on one person for too long if you can help it. It is a waste of time if they are not interested.



Yes that's true. A few woman who have flirted with me in bars and clubs I might see them in town during the day and I am basically invisible to them.

There was this one girl who flirted with me at a house party 7 years ago and my friends said to me "the only reason she flirted with you was because she was drunk". Ouch :(


Yep.

They have their own lives and you will mean nothing to them, so try not to think about it too much (I realise that is easier said than done).

Yes. I remember a good-looking girl grabbed my butt at a party whilst everyone was drunk when I was 19 & when I tried to strike up a conversation with her on social media she was completely uninterested.

It is easy to over-focus on the little attention you get as a male from women who might be genuinely willing to date you (an issue for many men). But don't do it.

You don't need a wife - you don't even need a girlfriend. You don't need anything from people. If you have that mindset, you will suffer less emotionally during those lonely times, brother.


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22 Dec 2021, 10:39 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
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blitzkrieg wrote:
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I walked past her on the street recently and she didn't even notice me or stop to talk


I personally wouldn't bother with her then in that case.

This is a fairly misanthropic apporach - but dating really is a numbers game. Don't focus on one person for too long if you can help it. It is a waste of time if they are not interested.



Yes that's true. A few woman who have flirted with me in bars and clubs I might see them in town during the day and I am basically invisible to them.

There was this one girl who flirted with me at a house party 7 years ago and my friends said to me "the only reason she flirted with you was because she was drunk". Ouch :(


Yep.

They have their own lives and you will mean nothing to them, so try not to think about it too much (I realise that is easier said than done).

Yes. I remember a good-looking girl grabbed my butt at a party whilst everyone was drunk when I was 19 & when I tried to strike up a conversation with her on social media she was completely uninterested.

It is easy to over-focus on the little attention you get as a male from women who might be genuinely willing to date you (an issue for many men). But don't do it.

You don't need a wife - you don't even need a girlfriend. You don't need anything from people. If you have that mindset, you will suffer less emotionally during those lonely times, brother.



Sorry I don't mean to be rude or are you a lesbian or bisexual since you list yourself as being female?



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22 Dec 2021, 10:42 am

Get yourself on a dating website. Filter your search results to only show 'unemployed' women. Come up with a simple introductory message, such as "hello, I like your profile picture, would you like to talk *insert smiley face*".

Send that same message to hundreds of women - as many as you can find. You might get a few responses. If you do, you might get a friend, even if not a date.

You can use filters to search out people/biological women looking for friends on dating websites too - & often they will be biological women who are not necessarily confident with their bodies and are not immediately ready for sex but who desire it (this is a common problem for females).

If they don't reply to 3 messages at the most - cut them off, as they aren't interested or don't have time for you.

That's my rule for the majority of women, unless I want to play the long-game and I am genuinely interested, and want to butter someone up.

Oh, I identify as female. I am biologically male.


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22 Dec 2021, 10:45 am

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Sleeping with a drunk person doesn't count as "sex".

It counts as rape.

It's good that you walked away.


I second this. Please don't have sex with intoxicated individuals.


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22 Dec 2021, 10:46 am

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Sleeping with a drunk person doesn't count as "sex".

It counts as rape.

It's good that you walked away.


I second this. Please don't have sex with intoxicated individuals.


If you are intoxicated yourself, and at a nightclub and somebody offers to take you home - it is lawful.

If you don't like that, you don't have to do that.


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22 Dec 2021, 10:46 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
Get yourself on a dating website. Filter your search results to only show 'unemployed' women. Come up with a simple introductory message, such as "hello, I like your profile picture, would you like to talk *insert smiley face*".

Send that same message to hundreds of women - as many as you can find. You might get a few responses. If you do, you might get a friend, even if not a date.

You can use filters to search out people/biological women looking for friends on dating websites too - & often they will be biological women who are not necessarily confident with their bodies and are not immediately ready for sex but who desire it (this is a common problem for females).

If they don't reply to 3 messages at the most - cut them off, as they aren't interested or don't have time for you.

That's my rule for the majority of women, unless I want to play the long-game and I am genuinely interested, and want to butter someone up.

Oh, I identify as female. I am biologically male.




If you are employed are more women interested?



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22 Dec 2021, 10:48 am

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Get yourself on a dating website. Filter your search results to only show 'unemployed' women. Come up with a simple introductory message, such as "hello, I like your profile picture, would you like to talk *insert smiley face*".

Send that same message to hundreds of women - as many as you can find. You might get a few responses. If you do, you might get a friend, even if not a date.

You can use filters to search out people/biological women looking for friends on dating websites too - & often they will be biological women who are not necessarily confident with their bodies and are not immediately ready for sex but who desire it (this is a common problem for females).

If they don't reply to 3 messages at the most - cut them off, as they aren't interested or don't have time for you.

That's my rule for the majority of women, unless I want to play the long-game and I am genuinely interested, and want to butter someone up.

Oh, I identify as female. I am biologically male.




If you are employed are more women interested?


Absolutely. 100%.

Being unemployed as a dude is basically dating suicide.

Use employment to your advantage.


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22 Dec 2021, 10:52 am

Tens of millions of people have had sex whilst drunk & it is how many people meet in real life as opposed to internet dating. Alcohol is a social lubricant. People meet their wives or husbands whilst under the influence of alcohol in bars, in every country.

Feminists are basically female incels, in a lot of cases.


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22 Dec 2021, 10:53 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Get yourself on a dating website. Filter your search results to only show 'unemployed' women. Come up with a simple introductory message, such as "hello, I like your profile picture, would you like to talk *insert smiley face*".

Send that same message to hundreds of women - as many as you can find. You might get a few responses. If you do, you might get a friend, even if not a date.

You can use filters to search out people/biological women looking for friends on dating websites too - & often they will be biological women who are not necessarily confident with their bodies and are not immediately ready for sex but who desire it (this is a common problem for females).

If they don't reply to 3 messages at the most - cut them off, as they aren't interested or don't have time for you.

That's my rule for the majority of women, unless I want to play the long-game and I am genuinely interested, and want to butter someone up.

Oh, I identify as female. I am biologically male.




If you are employed are more women interested?


Absolutely. 100%.

Being unemplotyed as a dude is basically dating suicide.

Use employment to your advantage.




I have only worked a proper job for 6 months in my entire life and that was 2014-2015. Been mostly unemployed though since I left college in 2010.



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22 Dec 2021, 10:58 am

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Get yourself on a dating website. Filter your search results to only show 'unemployed' women. Come up with a simple introductory message, such as "hello, I like your profile picture, would you like to talk *insert smiley face*".

Send that same message to hundreds of women - as many as you can find. You might get a few responses. If you do, you might get a friend, even if not a date.

You can use filters to search out people/biological women looking for friends on dating websites too - & often they will be biological women who are not necessarily confident with their bodies and are not immediately ready for sex but who desire it (this is a common problem for females).

If they don't reply to 3 messages at the most - cut them off, as they aren't interested or don't have time for you.

That's my rule for the majority of women, unless I want to play the long-game and I am genuinely interested, and want to butter someone up.

Oh, I identify as female. I am biologically male.




If you are employed are more women interested?


Absolutely. 100%.

Being unemplotyed as a dude is basically dating suicide.

Use employment to your advantage.




I have only worked a proper job for 6 months in my entire life and that was 2014-2015. Been mostly unemployed though since I left college in 2010.


Your only hope then is to date a fellow unemployed woman. Failing that, you will have to use your hand if you need to. Just forget about women if you don't have any social skills or a job.

Get a hobby, walk in nature etc.


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22 Dec 2021, 11:03 am

blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
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If you are employed are more women interested?
Absolutely.  100%.  Being unemplotyed as a dude is basically dating suicide.  Use employment to your advantage.
I have only worked a proper job for 6 months in my entire life and that was 2014-2015. Been mostly unemployed though since I left college in 2010.
Your only hope then is to date a fellow unemployed woman...
No matter how tall, how buff, or how good-looking a man may be, unemployment negates all other factors.



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22 Dec 2021, 11:05 am

Fnord wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
If you are employed are more women interested?
Absolutely.  100%.  Being unemplotyed as a dude is basically dating suicide.  Use employment to your advantage.
I have only worked a proper job for 6 months in my entire life and that was 2014-2015. Been mostly unemployed though since I left college in 2010.
Your only hope then is to date a fellow unemployed woman...
No matter how tall, how buff, or how good-looking a man may be, unemployment negates all other factors.


Yep.

As a biological man you are basically a walking wallet for less kind (biological) women. You are a fresh turd to them if you don't have a job, in most cases.

Edit: If you can stomach it, a practical solution to unspent sexual energy is homosexuality. Put a wig on a man and do him from behind - close your eyes?!


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22 Dec 2021, 11:13 am

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No matter how tall, how buff, or how good-looking a man may be, unemployment negates all other factors.[/color]


Yep.

As a biological man you are basically a walking wallet for less kind (biological) women. You are a fresh turd to them if you don't have a job, in most cases.

Edit: If you can stomach it, a practical solution to unspent sexual energy is homosexuality. Put a wig on a man and do him from behind - close your eyes?!


It's the same with a lot of guys too. Many guys dislike women without jobs as it seems like a sign of instability and immaturity.

I think few guys can stomach that too....unless they're gay obviously.



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22 Dec 2021, 11:20 am

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No matter how tall, how buff, or how good-looking a man may be, unemployment negates all other factors.[/color]


Yep.

As a biological man you are basically a walking wallet for less kind (biological) women. You are a fresh turd to them if you don't have a job, in most cases.

Edit: If you can stomach it, a practical solution to unspent sexual energy is homosexuality. Put a wig on a man and do him from behind - close your eyes?!


It's the same with a lot of guys too. Many guys dislike women without jobs as it seems like a sign of instability and immaturity.

I think few guys can stomach that too....unless they're gay obviously.


I have nothing against unemployed women at all. I would 100% date an unemployed women, whlst either unemployed or employed myself.


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22 Dec 2021, 11:20 am

I once had a guy try that with me.

No dice.