Is looking for autistic women a realistic option?

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the one i knew told me words to the effect, "we can't both be like this." meaning one of us had to be more NT-like than the other.

Well don't worry about what type I'm attracted to. I'm only one woman. There are about 4 billion more women that probably don't have the same feelings I have.

I don't consciously choose who I'm attracted to. For example most men I've ever liked have dark hair, and fewer men I have liked were blonde or red. I don't consciously choose dark-haired men over any other hair colour, it's just what I seem to get drawn to. It doesn't mean all blonde/red-haired men should get offended and call themselves worthless.

My boyfriend is everything I like in a man, dark-haired, 20 years older, overweight, cute... Yes, there are lots of women in their 20s and 30s that like men in their 40s, 50s and even 60s. Don't listen to anyone who says people aren't attractive any more once they get past 30. That is just wrong and I wish people wouldn't say that. (Well, I've only heard people say that here on WP). But don't listen to them. You're just as desirable as a man half your age.

Everyone is attractive, but everyone has different tastes. Just like food. All food is edible but one food can be disgusting to one person and delicious to another (I'm not talking about allergies here).

To dorkseid: Please see this post of mine.

My gf is autistic so I guess it's unlikely, but possible.

No woman has ever been attracted to me.

Nobody will ever be able to actually get to know even 0.0001% of 4 billion people. Also, the majority of those 4 billion are children.



The reason men are attractive in their 40s, 50s, and 60s is because they have established career success, financial stability, and own their homes. I have never been able to achieve any of those because of my disabilities.

Can I ask you Dorkseid, how many women would you say you hit on or ask out per month on average? I'm just trying to get a gauge of how many women are not interested on average.

how does one "hit" on somebody?

Realistic, yet must have been brutal on you. Two people who are dysfunctional, is of course a more untenable situation, than one person who's dynfucntional. Can't argue with the logic.

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basically i need somebody more high-functioning than i am. good luck with that.

IDK. But this is how NOT to do it.

^^^ but with me i'd ask "what's up?" and generally get no acknowledgement that i was even there. that has been my track record so far. autistic men have been far nicer to me. i must not be a threat to them.

Well for random example, I once hit on a woman at the movie theater. She was behind me in line, and I went to one of the cashiers to get a ticket, and she went to the one next time. She bought a ticket to a movie that I already saw and I told her that that movie really sucks and good luck with that. She laughed, and we talked and I got her number that way.

But that's just one example. Online dating is a good way to go probably rather than accidental chances like that though.

from that i can guess that the woman has to find you attractive to begin with before she will laugh and engage you in conversation that leads to exchange of phone numbers. attractiveness is the key for any of the rest of it.

This reminds of the Peacemaker.

My fantasy...of how it should happen instead, blabby... In a perfect world.

The first one is a more likely reaction...lol....uhmm, I think you just gotta talk to people, and show interest, ya know compliment them, but not too overtly. It's a fine line. And genuinely pointing out things, not just compliment for compliments sake. Just showing a honest interest. Though people might say stupid phony rehearsed lines like "are you an angel, cause you fell from heaven" blah blah is "hitting on" somebody. I'm sure women see through the fakeness. I dont know how that can impress anybody.

I have no idea what the Peacemaker is.

IRL it's such a hit or miss thing....you can be making a girl laugh, being witty, thinking fast, firing on all cylinders.

Then in another instance i meet her....CRASH...and burn. Like my brain isn't operating today. Or she gone cold on me. Life is like that.

I think i might need acting lessons, or something. But, yeah, sometimes people just aren't as compatible as you might have thought, at first.