Fussy about dating black girls; The remark..

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That behavior typical of Chav too except that they like to get rat faced 4 days a week.

I am white, but I find myself very attracted to black women, but only if they have straightened their hair out.

Really? I'd definitely date an Asian, and I rarely ever see any around here, in fact the only ones I used to see were back in High School when they had Foreign Exchange student things going on. And that didn't exactly happen everyday.

I don't see chicks as black and white and asian. I see them as individual. I see them as attractive or not, as intelligent or not, as someone I want to date or someone I don't want to date. I've dated a mixed-race girl and a bunch of white girls. I've never dated an Asian or oriental girl simply because the opportunity has never come up. There's no need to separate them into races at all.

Yeah, its all dependant on the person to me... although, out of the extremely limited number of guys I find attractive, black men tend to hit the top, I don't know why, because I'm rarely attracted to anyone, and I definitly don't look at people that way, just noticed it in passing (I'm white, and doesn't mean that I don't find some white people attractive either)

The closest I've gotten to 'dating' anyone so far is my Vietnamese friend (who is from there, so about the cultural barriers, he's a mix of American and Vietnamese now)-- I don't care about the race, and barely the attractiveness in the end, but the personality, and if it came down to it, the beliefs (although, I wouldn't mind being with someone with polar viewpoints and beliefs than me, as long as they were good natured to understand that everyone has their own beliefs, and so be it. Like a friendly rivarly, although thats rare, and hard to expect, so easier to find someone w/ similar belief system)

In regards to genetics... I wouldn't put that much thought into it, planning the genetics of your children is rather creepy, and sure to lead to disappointment. Genetics isn't well enough known yet to make those kinda decisions, some are dominant/recessive, some are blends, we don't really know (like eyes are dominant/recessive, brown/black being dominant over blue/green, yet then there is still hazel, which is a blend, so not so easily determined).

I think its fine to be attracted to a certain race or facial feature or whatever, but its also a tad strange to onlookers sometimes (my uncle has dated ONLY Asian women..., so my cousins from his side are half-Japanese, half-Korean, and half-Philippino, kinda interesting and strange for us, but so be it)

I'm a black girl (well it would be more accurate to say mixed Black gir), and I'm real funny about dating a black guy. I never have and honestly, I've only been attracted to white guys. I grew up in a culturally diverse place, but there werent that many black kids in my elementary school. That's not to say I'm attracted to anyone with white skin. Still need that extra something, of course. I'm sure everyone still has their preferences. My boyfriend is real nice looking- fine features and all. But it's mostly the style of some skater white guys that I am attracted to that is only really found among that population of people. I like black guys, but as friends and family, not lovers. I dont know why exactly.

About what you said about genes canceling out- I think it actually does do that with noses. Mine does that, my mother's nose is wider and my fathers is narrow, but native American looking. Mine is the feminine middle ground. Hair is like that too. But as far as skin conditions and everything is, they dont cancel eachother out. It's possible your kids will have either dry, greasy, or combination skin.

I agree with Tsiiki, the reason why it might come of strange to people, and possibly your coworkers, is because it almost seems as if you hate your own genetics. It's especially this way when your a minority with a history of being oppressed idealically by another society. If you hate your wide nose, your dark skin, your tight curly hair, or even your slated eyes, or blonde locks ,if you see others that look like you and feel angry or disgusted or that you are climbing the social ladder by marrying outside your race, people are saddened and almost maddened by that because they feel its as if you are saying they are ugly. Anyway, that's not what I believe. I have been asked this before, and I dont feel self hate or anything of the sort.

Not as much as having AS. There isn’t such a racial problem in England. AS is a hidden disability, for me this year it is going to be even more hidden. The biggest problem is that I am opposite of being black.

Do you realise how insanely racist that post could be interpreted as being?

I'm sorry I do not quite understand what you are saying? Do your work partners know you have AS? Are they telling you that the way you act is the "opposite of being black?" I'm somewhat confused.

Yeah, HereComestheRain's statement was alittle off. I mean, it's a generalization and shows that he obviously doesn't know these people. We'll look at the "loud" thing like this: a lot of black people are seen as loud. I am a quiet person myself, but when I am around loud people, I take into context what they are saying. Usually they are jsut joking around with their friends, making people laugh. The loud people I know generally just are joking and laughing with one another. Take any activity you do for fun, and apply it to the situation. It's not so bad when you listen and relate, you may even find some of the jokes to be funny. Just stop looking at it with prejudiced eyes. Would you want people to do that to you? That being said, I know a lot of loud white people, and mexican, etc... and plenty of people of all races who are obnoxious and anti-intellectual. Come on, I'm in college, and we all know how anti-illectual and pro sleeping in, just studying for the exam and not really to learn, all these kids are. Theyre arent here to learn, theyre here to make A's or just pass. It's not fair or accurate to say your statement, because you know it isnt true or logical.

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I do know what you mean. My last husband was Korean. Imagine that.

Are you saying you're not going to be yourself just because of some stereotype in your mind of what a black person should act like? Because that's insane. None of us act like what our race, colour or creed 'should' act like, because we have Asperger's.

?? Alright, forgive me I really didnt understand what you meant. Are you ok? If you took offense to that, I'm truly sorry. I really was jsut asking for clarification, and since this is the net, I think it may have come off the wrong way??

Alright, ok. I tihnk I get it. People are expecting him to act a certain way, but because of AS, he doesn't. They dont know about it, so they are judging him incorrectly. I dont agree with people acting a certain way because this is how their race acts. it's really ridiculous considering everyone is an individual. I face that too, although, of course it is probably much harder for you, AspieChav. If people can't except that you are an individual, than maybe they havent matured yet to realize all people arent the same.

This is an interesting statement. I surely don't 'act' like a black person, never did. I never thought it related to asperger's. Why would this be?

We're a race unto ourselves.