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28 Sep 2007, 2:28 pm

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The "alpha male" is a part of the Reptilian complex, something that has been around since the age of the dinosaurs, and possibly much earlier. If humans were ruled on the basis of who was physically strongest, or by testosterone levels, the NFL would probably be the world government (or at least a national government).


I know ...but I took the primates as examples because humans are in this category .


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It's bad from the standpoint of physical strength/constitution and what not. Not so for a sapient species that is supposedly more evolved than their simian cousins. Many "beta" and "gamma" males, as you state them, are forced to use other methods than physical strength if they are to survive. Therefore, there are also many advantageous


True ...and one of these tools today is MONEY . You see ...female humanoids were used to pick the strongest male because he would have the necessary muscles to be a good hunter that would provide food for family . Today ...these muscles can be substituted by man's success = wealth ....but still the old extincts exist . :roll: Have you ever see a girl that like a weak p**** not rich guy? girls usually pick either a macho man or a rich man....usually younger girls go for the first category since they are more controlled by their hormones than their brain but when they grow up they go for the second category , of course they always wish to have a man who has both characteristics "the right one" but this is rare .
In fact, women usually choose the successful men today for the same reason that women chose the strong hunter in cave days : the survival extinct .



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The point I'm trying to make is that reverting to primate (or earlier) instincts runs counter to the concept of evolution, where we should be trying to become improved over earlier primates. Many species of animals on earth became extinct over the eons to events beyond their control. Thanks to human intelligence, we can eventually learn to survive an extinction level event as a species where many of your "alpha male" societies will merely die out without significant outside intervention.


LOL Please , don't overrate the human's "intelligence" ...this fool creature called homo sapien is killing the whole planet since his appearance leaving an environmental disaster for the future , what kind of survival strategy is this?


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Since the evolution of the modern human, humanity has been a species with an identity crisis: Lower functional instincts are still holding sway over humanity, especially prevalent in "alpha male"-style populations of humans in certain locations. On the contrary, higher brain functions such as sapience and intelligence have given humans an advantage that no species can match, and this is how humans have dominated the planet. Humanity has started to supercede the "alpha male" system with a system of rational thought, but this process is still ongoing, and will take some evolutionary time to complete. That is, if the "alpha male" system doesn't attempt to fight back so hard that humans end up destroying themselves or regressing back to non-sapience. Intelligence gives us the ability to create technology to aid us, which may eventually include cybernetic enhancements that will provide humanity a way to fully transcend this "alpha male" system and truly become our own masters, no longer submitting to the will of nature .


You have a point here .


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(ironic, given that the "alpha male" system is supposedly based on dominance)


Haha , exactly ....my theory is that there's a 2 kind of alpha males among humans today : the natural alphas ...and the self-created alphas.

The natural alpha is the alpha by birth, the born alpha , the typical MASCULINE strong and tall male who attract all girls since the teenage stage of his life .

The self-created alphas are the beta/gamma(and even some natural alphas) males who, through their success (=money) ,are able to attract female equivalent (if not better) as any other . Woody Allen is a perfect example , most women find him as very unattractive when it comes to his looks , woody admitted himself that he never could get a date before he became famous . After he became famous and rich he could have the most attractive women ....the secret of his current attraction is his success and money. Money today is like physical strength in the prehistorical days ....with it you can be a dominate male .

Of course there's some males who are both



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28 Sep 2007, 2:35 pm

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So... what you are trying to say... is that humans are JUST LIKE gorillas?
Hmm.


No ,but we share many characteristics with them ...we share a common ancestor too :P



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28 Sep 2007, 2:39 pm

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If humans were ruled on the basis of who was physically strongest, or by testosterone levels, the NFL would probably be the world government (or at least a national government)...

The point I'm trying to make is that reverting to primate (or earlier) instincts runs counter to the concept of evolution, where we should be trying to become improved over earlier primates. Many species of animals on earth became extinct over the eons to events beyond their control. Thanks to human intelligence, we can eventually learn to survive an extinction level event as a species where many of your "alpha male" societies will merely die out without significant outside intervention.


The groilla model is completely wrong for humans anyway, gorillas branched off from the common genetic stock around 8 million years ago. We, the chimpanzees, and bonobos, continued on as a single entity for another 3 million years or so. If humans had followed the gorilla model (harems) rather than remained with the common genetic line (promiscuous), then men would typically be 1.5 feet taller than women, and weigh twice as much. Men would also have tiny genitals, and would lack other reproductive features which we, in fact, have (in common with chimpanzees). If we were like gorillas, 7 foot tall, 300-pound guys would each have several wives (not girlfriends, gorilla infidelity, by either sex, is rare) who would be physically guarded like property, and mating attempts by other males would consist mainly of trying to beat one of those guys up and steal their harem. It's absurd to pretend that we are descended from gorillas; we aren't. They evolved their sexual system *after* they split off from the common genetic stock.

The whole basis for this Nietzschean "How to get laid" rant is not biology, but urban legend. It's bogus.


True , but chimps also follow the alpha male system ...not sure about bonobos.



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28 Sep 2007, 2:47 pm

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Finally, someone brought up a very good point: we humans are capable of using our higher intelligence to both overcome our base instincts and work with them. As far as the "alpha/beta/gamma" thing is concerned, I'm probably screwed big time, with repulsive face, lack of big muscles, and a non-alpha personality. In nature, I'd probably be tossed into the bushes and abandoned, and no woman in her right mind wouldn't go near me. It's still true to some extent; the only girls I ever dated were overweight, unattractive ones that alpha males won't even bother approaching. So by deliberately lowering my standards to nearly rock bottom, I'm using my intelligence (lowering standards) to fulfill my base instincts (finding a woman).


*intelligence* yea right ... Intelligence can only become a major attraction trait if you can make success/money out of it ...like Bill gates . But if you are some brainy geek but yet unable to make something lucrative then you are screwed .



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As far as the "alpha/beta/gamma" thing is concerned, I'm probably screwed big time, with repulsive face, lack of big muscles, and a non-alpha personality. In nature, I'd probably be tossed into the bushes and abandoned, and no woman in her right mind wouldn't go near me


That's why you are not an alpha and that's why you always nag for not having a gf because you are not a natural alpha ....you have to become an alpha with success in order to attract a woman today . Focus on a career planning rather focusing on Escorts ....success is very attractive for women ...and confidence is a key to it so you have to work on it too.


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So by deliberately lowering my standards to nearly rock bottom, I'm using my intelligence (lowering standards) to fulfill my base instincts (finding a woman).


Most girls have hight standards ..even the ugliest girls so lowering your standards too much is a very bad idea and it will get you nowhere. Believe me .



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28 Sep 2007, 2:50 pm

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Well guess what, times change, you got a brain, so use it. YOU are responsible for your life and how it turns out right? There are plenty of resources available, just message contact me and I'll send them to you. If you're not serious about improving yourself then don't bother.


Why are you so antagonistic. :?:

And I thought I was following your advice... I was turning off my brain... like you said. :cry:

You really are sounding like a pusher of products here. This whole topic, in addition to others, sounds like an infomercial...

Just hire Billy Mayes and be done with it...

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Sorry for being pushy, I just get annoyed when people back away from trying to improve themselves. You were the one who posted the thinking guy right? Well I told you why women were not attracted to deep introverted thinking guy -- the are not built to like him, they can manage him in small doses, but don't make it the mainstay of your toolset when trying to engage and keep a woman. You got to take into account HER needs as a woman. Aspies because of their egocentricity have a difficult time modelling other peoples needs besides their own, so they appear selfish when they are really just projecting their needs on others and then asking why they have such a hard time finding it... because we are different in what psychologically rewards us versus an NT.



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28 Sep 2007, 3:10 pm

Well I am not exactly going for the classically beautiful woman. The "Alpha" female that every guy goes after. And hopefully the women that are wiser, perhaps with age, that know going after the jerks won't make them happy.

I am trying to improve myself socially. Be slightly more assertive when I say things. Be more casual and express myself more.

I'm not going to stop thinking though. I am not going to change myself to the exclusion of what I am at my core.

If this means the type of woman I could attract is on a smaller band of the womanly spectrum, so be it.

I am attracted to the type of woman that isn't appreciated or attractive to the standard guy. I just have to find a woman that feels the same way about the type of guy I am.


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28 Sep 2007, 9:24 pm

Pugly wrote:
ZakFiend wrote:
...There are plenty of resources available, just message contact me and I'll send them to you....
You really are sounding like a pusher of products here. This whole topic, in addition to others, sounds like an infomercial...

Just hire Billy Mayes and be done with it...

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Hi, Billy Mays here to tell you fine ladies about ZakFiend! He cleans and deep-scrubs his own posterior, and he removes tough grime from all your dishes using patent-pending orange zest technology! Sometimes he comes off sounding like a jack@$$, but that's the abrasive that removes tough-to-remove stains and mildew from your shower wall! When he's not in storage with the OxiClean, OrangeGlo, and other cleaning products, he can push misogynist relationship advice on websites for people with social-emotional and developmental disabilities!

Now, ladies, how much do you think such a great deal would cost? Not $200! Not $50! Not even nothing! Ladies, he'll pay you! So what have you got to lose?

Disclaimer: Billy Mays said it, not me. :lol:



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29 Sep 2007, 1:47 am

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True , but chimps also follow the alpha male system ...not sure about bonobos.


Chimps mostly follow the alpha male system in a social, but not sexual, context. During estrus (heat) females mate 10-50 times a day, with a number of different males (most any which happen to be handy and aren't very close relatives). Bonobos have a fairly egalitarian matriarchy, and are even less discriminate than regular chimpanzees.



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29 Sep 2007, 8:06 am

NeantHumain wrote:
Billy Mays wrote:
Hi, Billy Mays here to tell you fine ladies about ZakFiend! He cleans and deep-scrubs his own posterior, and he removes tough grime from all your dishes using patent-pending orange zest technology! Sometimes he comes off sounding like a jack@$$, but that's the abrasive that removes tough-to-remove stains and mildew from your shower wall! When he's not in storage with the OxiClean, OrangeGlo, and other cleaning products, he can push misogynist relationship advice on websites for people with social-emotional and developmental disabilities!

Now, ladies, how much do you think such a great deal would cost? Not $200! Not $50! Not even nothing! Ladies, he'll pay you! So what have you got to lose?

Disclaimer: Billy Mays said it, not me. :lol:


That just made my day... and my day just started!



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30 Sep 2007, 7:06 am

Sticky this damn thread already!! It explains everything about why women go for "jerks". :)



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30 Sep 2007, 9:19 am

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Sticky this damn thread already!! It explains everything about why women go for "jerks". :)


You just want a thread started by you stickied... :P



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30 Sep 2007, 9:30 am

From my experiences- People go for looks.

Just because a guy is good looking and masculine doesn't necessarily make him a jerk.

And most jerks aren't ugly or average; they are good looking. Good looking girls want good looking boys.

Why can't people just not like other people solely for the way they look?



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30 Sep 2007, 9:51 am

Because then my fat ass won't get a girlfriend

And I have a daily exercise regimen, walk 3 miles every day, and yet while I stopped gaining weight, I'm not losing any either...



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30 Sep 2007, 2:05 pm

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Good looking girls want good looking boys.


Adjustment: Good looking for very successful not good-looking boys ...or good-looking successful boys.



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30 Sep 2007, 2:13 pm

well ZakFiend that was a very good text! But i rather forget about girls and women. I am, and i always will be a loner. I feel way more comfortable in a chair in front of my computer screens then going to a party that bores me to death. Being a loner has its benefits and its disadvantages, i live with that.
but anyway, its a good text, when i change my mind i'll read it again.



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30 Sep 2007, 2:30 pm

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From my experiences- People go for looks.

Just because a guy is good looking and masculine doesn't necessarily make him a jerk.

And most jerks aren't ugly or average; they are good looking. Good looking girls want good looking boys.

Why can't people just not like other people solely for the way they look?


Whats the ugliest person you would date? Post one up... I mean you are asking a lot from people. It's evolutionarily hard wired -- you get a huge rush of emotions (dopamine???) in the brain, it's like doing drugs.

If you've read David DeAngelo's double your dating, you'd learn that ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE, but a RESPONSE.

Some of us aspies can love through barriers easier because of our inborn personality, but others can't without becoming extremely agitated (i.e. punished) by the different type of ego-psychology they were born with.