The secret of the jerk by Pook (Long!)
The "alpha male" is a part of the Reptilian complex, something that has been around since the age of the dinosaurs, and possibly much earlier. If humans were ruled on the basis of who was physically strongest, or by testosterone levels, the NFL would probably be the world government (or at least a national government).
I know ...but I took the primates as examples because humans are in this category .
True ...and one of these tools today is MONEY . You see ...female humanoids were used to pick the strongest male because he would have the necessary muscles to be a good hunter that would provide food for family . Today ...these muscles can be substituted by man's success = wealth ....but still the old extincts exist .
In fact, women usually choose the successful men today for the same reason that women chose the strong hunter in cave days : the survival extinct .
LOL Please , don't overrate the human's "intelligence" ...this fool creature called homo sapien is killing the whole planet since his appearance leaving an environmental disaster for the future , what kind of survival strategy is this?
You have a point here .
Haha , exactly ....my theory is that there's a 2 kind of alpha males among humans today : the natural alphas ...and the self-created alphas.
The natural alpha is the alpha by birth, the born alpha , the typical MASCULINE strong and tall male who attract all girls since the teenage stage of his life .
The self-created alphas are the beta/gamma(and even some natural alphas) males who, through their success (=money) ,are able to attract female equivalent (if not better) as any other . Woody Allen is a perfect example , most women find him as very unattractive when it comes to his looks , woody admitted himself that he never could get a date before he became famous . After he became famous and rich he could have the most attractive women ....the secret of his current attraction is his success and money. Money today is like physical strength in the prehistorical days ....with it you can be a dominate male .
Of course there's some males who are both
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The point I'm trying to make is that reverting to primate (or earlier) instincts runs counter to the concept of evolution, where we should be trying to become improved over earlier primates. Many species of animals on earth became extinct over the eons to events beyond their control. Thanks to human intelligence, we can eventually learn to survive an extinction level event as a species where many of your "alpha male" societies will merely die out without significant outside intervention.
The groilla model is completely wrong for humans anyway, gorillas branched off from the common genetic stock around 8 million years ago. We, the chimpanzees, and bonobos, continued on as a single entity for another 3 million years or so. If humans had followed the gorilla model (harems) rather than remained with the common genetic line (promiscuous), then men would typically be 1.5 feet taller than women, and weigh twice as much. Men would also have tiny genitals, and would lack other reproductive features which we, in fact, have (in common with chimpanzees). If we were like gorillas, 7 foot tall, 300-pound guys would each have several wives (not girlfriends, gorilla infidelity, by either sex, is rare) who would be physically guarded like property, and mating attempts by other males would consist mainly of trying to beat one of those guys up and steal their harem. It's absurd to pretend that we are descended from gorillas; we aren't. They evolved their sexual system *after* they split off from the common genetic stock.
The whole basis for this Nietzschean "How to get laid" rant is not biology, but urban legend. It's bogus.
True , but chimps also follow the alpha male system ...not sure about bonobos.
*intelligence* yea right ... Intelligence can only become a major attraction trait if you can make success/money out of it ...like Bill gates . But if you are some brainy geek but yet unable to make something lucrative then you are screwed .
That's why you are not an alpha and that's why you always nag for not having a gf because you are not a natural alpha ....you have to become an alpha with success in order to attract a woman today . Focus on a career planning rather focusing on Escorts ....success is very attractive for women ...and confidence is a key to it so you have to work on it too.
Most girls have hight standards ..even the ugliest girls so lowering your standards too much is a very bad idea and it will get you nowhere. Believe me .
Why are you so antagonistic.
And I thought I was following your advice... I was turning off my brain... like you said.
You really are sounding like a pusher of products here. This whole topic, in addition to others, sounds like an infomercial...
Just hire Billy Mayes and be done with it...

Sorry for being pushy, I just get annoyed when people back away from trying to improve themselves. You were the one who posted the thinking guy right? Well I told you why women were not attracted to deep introverted thinking guy -- the are not built to like him, they can manage him in small doses, but don't make it the mainstay of your toolset when trying to engage and keep a woman. You got to take into account HER needs as a woman. Aspies because of their egocentricity have a difficult time modelling other peoples needs besides their own, so they appear selfish when they are really just projecting their needs on others and then asking why they have such a hard time finding it... because we are different in what psychologically rewards us versus an NT.
Well I am not exactly going for the classically beautiful woman. The "Alpha" female that every guy goes after. And hopefully the women that are wiser, perhaps with age, that know going after the jerks won't make them happy.
I am trying to improve myself socially. Be slightly more assertive when I say things. Be more casual and express myself more.
I'm not going to stop thinking though. I am not going to change myself to the exclusion of what I am at my core.
If this means the type of woman I could attract is on a smaller band of the womanly spectrum, so be it.
I am attracted to the type of woman that isn't appreciated or attractive to the standard guy. I just have to find a woman that feels the same way about the type of guy I am.
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Wonder what it feels like to be in love?
How would you describe it, like a push or shove?
Guess I could pretend that this is all I need
Wanting more than what I have might appear as greed.
Just hire Billy Mayes and be done with it...

Now, ladies, how much do you think such a great deal would cost? Not $200! Not $50! Not even nothing! Ladies, he'll pay you! So what have you got to lose?
Disclaimer: Billy Mays said it, not me.
Chimps mostly follow the alpha male system in a social, but not sexual, context. During estrus (heat) females mate 10-50 times a day, with a number of different males (most any which happen to be handy and aren't very close relatives). Bonobos have a fairly egalitarian matriarchy, and are even less discriminate than regular chimpanzees.
Now, ladies, how much do you think such a great deal would cost? Not $200! Not $50! Not even nothing! Ladies, he'll pay you! So what have you got to lose?
Disclaimer: Billy Mays said it, not me.
That just made my day... and my day just started!
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From my experiences- People go for looks.
Just because a guy is good looking and masculine doesn't necessarily make him a jerk.
And most jerks aren't ugly or average; they are good looking. Good looking girls want good looking boys.
Why can't people just not like other people solely for the way they look?
well ZakFiend that was a very good text! But i rather forget about girls and women. I am, and i always will be a loner. I feel way more comfortable in a chair in front of my computer screens then going to a party that bores me to death. Being a loner has its benefits and its disadvantages, i live with that.
but anyway, its a good text, when i change my mind i'll read it again.
Just because a guy is good looking and masculine doesn't necessarily make him a jerk.
And most jerks aren't ugly or average; they are good looking. Good looking girls want good looking boys.
Why can't people just not like other people solely for the way they look?
Whats the ugliest person you would date? Post one up... I mean you are asking a lot from people. It's evolutionarily hard wired -- you get a huge rush of emotions (dopamine???) in the brain, it's like doing drugs.
If you've read David DeAngelo's double your dating, you'd learn that ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE, but a RESPONSE.
Some of us aspies can love through barriers easier because of our inborn personality, but others can't without becoming extremely agitated (i.e. punished) by the different type of ego-psychology they were born with.
