Am I the only straight person who wishes they were gay?

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i'm already bi and i'm ok with myself just the way i am =]

Hahah. I wish I was bi, not gay. I just think bisexuality is cool. But for the life of me I've never been sexually or romantically attracted to another male.

I wouldn't say I've wished I was gay, but I've wished I was asexual for simplicity's sake.

You know, I think people try to hammer others and themselves into one label or another. I don't think anyone is doing that here, but it's easy to slip into that overly-simplified mindset. I had a lot of stress about that, growing up. I wanted to be one thing or another. :/ Nowadays, I just tell people that I follow my heart, and work out the anatomy later. If they need to call me "bi", I guess that'll do.

But yeah, I know what you mean. It's hard enough meeting a new person and getting over all the communication barriers. Add the barriers that come with gender differences, and it's like looking at a mine field. Heck, there was a period of a few years where I just said "why bother?" and dated guys exclusively. That's not to say there weren't difficulties; they just weren't due to gender.

But it sounds like you have years to figure it out. Why not just date whoever you have a mind to date for now? It'll take some courage and some good friends to back you up, of course. Good luck! ^_^

I used to wish I was gay because guys are nasty. Then I met a lesbian whose partner was just as nasty as any guy. That was an uncomfortable moment. I saw that there's no safe place, not by definition anyway.

Oftentimes I do wish I am gay. I have such sh***y luck with men that perhaps I should have been lesbian, or bi. "Bad" men just tend to flock to me. I do like girls....I just don't like p*ssy.

I am pansexual(basically bi but not limited to two genders) (1.5 or 2 on the Kinsey scale)

what other genders are there?

intersex and trans

Due to the absence of women who would want a relationship with me, there have been a few times when I sort of wished I was gay... but that was foolish, because I wouldn't be any better off if I was gay... I'd be forced to stay "in the closet," thanks to all the homophobic people.

I honestly wish that I didn't have any sexuality at all. It doesn't serve any useful purpose for me... just an inconvenience.

I would say I have NEVER wished I were gay, as I am biologically programmed to be 100% straight. But also, I know men ARE scum, especially in this day and age, that's why I dedicated myself to obtaining a "knightly" personality. If you hate men who are the scum, take a look in the shadows, lots of the men who aren't scum don't exactly stick out in a crowd. Men generally let their body's wants take over. I see this not as "manlyness" as most men do, but as a sign of total weakness. I've reserved myself for 22 years, by choice, not based on my Asperger's Syndrome. So if you truly like guys better, just don't give up. Make up a dream in your mind and follow it to the edge of the earth. If you keep searching you will find what you want. Then again, I read fairy tales too much as a kid.

If you like women enough too, why not just go for both? Date a guy and a girl. A relationship like that isn't "unholy" or "illegal", it's just up to those involved.

My "future" girlfriend (I met her online/through a friend, arranging the relationship after I get my degree) is bisexual. She is VERY bisexual, in that she is a virgin in the sense she has never had sex with a man before, which is a virtue that drew me to her, women however, were a different story. She blew me away when she said she was not only bisexual, but wanted to share the relationship with other women too. So I will eventually have to hunt down ANOTHER "virgin" bisexual girl. I'm planning on a "polygamous" relationship, just with no marriage or civil union for one. But that's just legal documentation, now isn't it?

So what I'm saying is. If you want a good guy, keep looking. If you want a girl, so be it. If you want both, go for it, nothing is standing in your way. Your dreams are your own, as are your fantasies. There is nothing preventing you from reaching them.

just because you don't have luck with one gender doesn't mean you'll have better luck with the other. gay couples go through the same troubles and insecurities straight couples do.