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The_Chosen_One
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04 Jun 2008, 4:22 am

s**t dude, you've really been through the mill. I wish some good Karma your way.


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04 Jun 2008, 7:50 pm

I get the impression some of you are looking for a "perfect match" before even asking for a date.

I have found women were much more interested in me when I had a gf than when I didn't. Maybe it was a self confidence thing or maybe women/girls think you are more attractive when they see someone else attracted to you.

I suggest if you like someone, just ask for a date. They don't have to be perfect or "the one".


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05 Jun 2008, 12:40 pm

The_Chosen_One wrote:
sh** dude, you've really been through the mill. I wish some good Karma your way.


Thanks. I'd actually be content with being convinced that it is a meaningless coincidence that no woman has posted to this thread since I outlined where I was coming from. Assuming it -is- a meaningless coincidence and they've not all run away screaming into the night to escape from someone with quite such a horrible time of life. :?



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05 Jun 2008, 2:43 pm

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Zane- you stated why she left, and to be honset that is not only a girl problem. Most people DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT want to get it a relationship where they think a person is depressed. Why? Because to them it signifies problems and drama, and that's usually not what people are looking for when they want to find a mate. Sure, there are plenty of people out there who have the "I will go to my depressed lover and save him/her from themselves" fantasy, but what it takes is a lot of patience, a lot of time, and some know-how. To ask anyone to understand that is unfair, because they are only young people looking to make their lives enjoyable. Some women will assume that they will have to baby a man, and some men think they will have to baby a woman. Did your friend tell his girlfriends about his personal problems? Probably not. I'm only saying this as a warning, because in the past I made the mistake as well and it really pushes people off. They see it as a burden. I thought it was unfair at the time, that I should be able to share my thoughts, but the truth is most people are not able to play the role of comforter/therapist, they will fail and will most likely start becoming depressed as well. I know you are probably not depressed yourself, but mentioning these things in any form ( anything besides saying that you have overcome issues) will always put you in that risk zone, whether it be with male/female, friend/lover.
100% correct. She stopped being attracted to me because I changed. It happens. I was not depressed at that time in life just lost. Artistic guys get lost a lot.


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05 Jun 2008, 2:47 pm

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Zane,

I think what people mean when they are intimidated by you is that you seem very very sure of yourself... Obviously I don't know if you speak in the same tone as you write but I am quite scared of you by what you've written.


Yeah, that's possible. Surprised I scarred you defiantly did not intend on making a horror movie ;) But seriously I am actually very confident with things in life. It is just simple concepts that I am stuck on now. Ones that only come from experiences. And since I have a tendency to be socially awkward it heightens my (can't think of word).

-Zane


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