The Fakeness of Men (in dating)

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Well all I can say is that if you're a female its really not hard to figure out that all a guy is trying to do is get in your pants. That is in reference to whether you fully identify as one or your appearance is merely like one.

This is something that scares me when it comes to putting myself out there... Being used.

I've been through enough crap in my life already, that I refuse to let this happen to me.

With all the effort I've been putting into myself lately, I want a guy who's genuinely honest with me, not someone who can easily manipulate and take advantage of me.

The stories I've heard of other Aspie woman in abusive relationships scare me half to death...

What bothers me is that I would honestly like to date a best friend, however, from experience I know that most men don't want to be friends unless they know there is a "score" which isn't being a real friend - it's fake to get what you want. I haven't found a guy yet who is really interested in listening to what I have to say and getting to know the real me - except one.

^ Weird, I have the same experience with women.

Only those who were interested romantically/sexually ever initated contact with me frequetly.

Female friends? They never initiate contact.

OMG! I don't understand (some) men! I'm watching this show called "Below Deck" and this man and woman work together and get along GREAT! She's interested in him and he says he's not interested in her. Why not? Instead he's going after this blonde with her dress cut down to her stomach practically who doesn't even want him! The other one isn't bad looking and they get along like they've known each other forever! I don't get it. Just like I was saying - men don't want to date a friend, they just want to score.

grrrr. i dont like to be generalized! Im someone that certainly doesn't talk to women in the hopes to score! I have a number of female acquaintances that i have absolutely no intentions of it going farther than acquaintances.. Even i watch people and wander what they see in them, for instance when a man stands over the women with his arm leaning against a door and you can see and hear all the crass fake compliments coming out and the women fall for it hook line and sinker.. I see it as rather sleazy. However i also witness the same from the female perspective however the approach is often much different, but i see the same game played by both sexes. I have been subject to much abuse in relationships so to think that all men only talk to women they are interested in sleeping with is wrong and that women are just as capable as men when it comes to abuse!... I just needed to air that as it seems very one sided and needed to air not all of us males are like that!

That's why I put "some".

Thats why i didn't quote you as i wasn't referring to you specifically Ms. Angela

Why is it if a man wants to sleep with a woman its all they want? Can a man not want to sleep with a woman AND get along good with them? Why is it one or the other...

Im not interested in a woman who satsfies me but cannot hold a conversation or have a sense of humor. Conversely I am not interested in a woman with whom I get along but am not attracted or have sexual compatibility with...

Why cant a man want both without being thought if as 'only wanting one thing'? As a man I dont want just sex but I do want sex. Theres a difference. Many men do just want sex. Some want it as part of an entire package. But it better be in the package. I dont know what could be seen as wrong with that.

I could personally be friends with a woman in a non sexual way if I wasnt attravted to her or was happily committed. If I was single or unhappy in my relationship I could not be just friends with a woman I was attracted to because I would get frustrated and start to lose interest. Also spending time with an attractive woman is a good way for other women to think you're accounted for.