What is preventing you from asking her? Why are you concerned that she is 'playing' with you? To be honest, attempts to 'find out' have generally be disastrous for me. You're creating a test that is designed to fail; move towards what you want... and if it happens, so much the better. If not, you try again. If there are reasons for your concerns, then there is much more to discuss then.
M.
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My thanks to all the wonderful members here; I will miss the opportunity to continue to learn and work with you.
For those who seek an alternative, it is coming.
So long, and thanks for all the fish!