frankcritic wrote:
Well, I suppose you could argue that it all comes down to whether or not I can trust someone. One possibility, and this possibility means that a lot of what I normally say on the subject is full of crap, is that my trust has been so violated at this point that I cannot imagine trusting someone, even as a hypothetical, and that when someone earns my trust, and believe me I don't know how they'd do that, my views on this would soften a bit. I'd be looking for the exit less, if you will.
On the subject of looking for the exits, it's not a matter of constantly checking for them, but just making sure they're there at the beginning. I've walked out of maybe ten movies in my life for various reasons, and I wasn't checking for the exits the whole time I was deciding to do it. My watch maybe, but not the exits. It's a mutual thing. I don't want her there only because she's trapped either, you see.
I'm glad there is at least some consideration being given that, even if I am to find someone someday, that person is incredibly rare. Don't get me wrong either. Finding the right person and making it work would be an incredible event in my life, ripping apart everything I've known the past few years of what is possible. Not being capable of rationally understanding how it could ever happen though, I just proceed presuming it won't.
-Frank
I would be disappointed to think your feelings were denied consideration; your requirements are very distinct, but you are also very aware of them. Providing you are aware of the limitations that you impose on yourself, then I think you're wise for knowing that much about yourself. Trust is a major problem, and if you're unable to trust then I can see where your mentality may be based. Good follow on the analogy, btw.
RGFFL: I'm sorry you feel that way about love, but I can't agree with you in the least. Many terrible things are done in the name of love, but love itself is not cruel, unkind, impatient... it simply is.
M.
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