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TheMidnightJudge
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01 Dec 2008, 11:17 pm

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I've been thinking about what is truly bothersome about the realization that I'll be single for the rest of my life.


I've had that thought to. Whatever you decide to do, however you make your peace with this issue is up to you.
Resentment is just destructive though, no good can come from it.


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02 Dec 2008, 8:37 am

"if you want to do something about it you're one step further, and it proves something can be done," are the words my doctor used when talking to me about my anxiety problems.

even though something may be difficult (sometimes to the extremes) something can almost always be done about it. 'the perfect life and parter' do not exist, only what is perfect for you. i don't want to be the one to say 'you'll met the one you're meant to' but the best thing you can do is figure out what would work best for you.

(i've just realised i may be repeating myself, is that a problem?)


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02 Dec 2008, 9:50 am

Yeh, what's so big deal here anyway? Love does not exist. This is the all-in-one word which is only used to sum up all the worst human disadvantages... :evil:



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02 Dec 2008, 9:57 am

ReGiFroFoLa wrote:
Yeh, what's so big deal here anyway? Love does not exist.


'love' is a complex assortment of chemicals and endorphines released into the blood at different stages, so in effect love does exist but is seen differently by some people.


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02 Dec 2008, 10:20 am

familiar_stranger wrote:

'love' is a complex assortment of chemicals and endorphines released into the blood at different stages, so in effect love does exist but is seen differently by some people.


Yeh, this are only errors iscribed into human DNA chain :evil:



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02 Dec 2008, 10:41 am

ReGiFroFoLa wrote:
familiar_stranger wrote:

'love' is a complex assortment of chemicals and endorphines released into the blood at different stages, so in effect love does exist but is seen differently by some people.


Yeh, this are only errors iscribed into human DNA chain :evil:


'love' isn't an error, it can be the greatest thing you ever experience even though it can also be the most painfull. i've felt what could be classed as 'love' before but because of the way i think it never works, just like me you need to find the person who connects with you for you to realise what true love feels like.


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02 Dec 2008, 12:43 pm

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Well, I suppose you could argue that it all comes down to whether or not I can trust someone. One possibility, and this possibility means that a lot of what I normally say on the subject is full of crap, is that my trust has been so violated at this point that I cannot imagine trusting someone, even as a hypothetical, and that when someone earns my trust, and believe me I don't know how they'd do that, my views on this would soften a bit. I'd be looking for the exit less, if you will.

On the subject of looking for the exits, it's not a matter of constantly checking for them, but just making sure they're there at the beginning. I've walked out of maybe ten movies in my life for various reasons, and I wasn't checking for the exits the whole time I was deciding to do it. My watch maybe, but not the exits. It's a mutual thing. I don't want her there only because she's trapped either, you see.

I'm glad there is at least some consideration being given that, even if I am to find someone someday, that person is incredibly rare. Don't get me wrong either. Finding the right person and making it work would be an incredible event in my life, ripping apart everything I've known the past few years of what is possible. Not being capable of rationally understanding how it could ever happen though, I just proceed presuming it won't.

-Frank


I would be disappointed to think your feelings were denied consideration; your requirements are very distinct, but you are also very aware of them. Providing you are aware of the limitations that you impose on yourself, then I think you're wise for knowing that much about yourself. Trust is a major problem, and if you're unable to trust then I can see where your mentality may be based. Good follow on the analogy, btw.

RGFFL: I'm sorry you feel that way about love, but I can't agree with you in the least. Many terrible things are done in the name of love, but love itself is not cruel, unkind, impatient... it simply is.


M.


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